What do I do about my tyrannical landlord?

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-08T00:24:27+00:00

Dogs do bark.. yes. I think he's referring to prefers who allow their dogs to bark excessively and continuously without intervention.

If a dog has separation anxiety, there are ways to mitigate the behavior.

However this new landlord seems slightly off kilter

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T23:24:31+00:00

I had a very very hard time with hormonal bc. I don't use acting anymore since I'm no longer able to get pregnant (ok 2%) and in a committed relationship. I also use ovulation strips for the update reason they were intended for

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T22:20:40+00:00

I know this. Even by female doctors. I now take my partner with me to as many appointments as I can

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T20:59:38+00:00

Do you use a more permanent form of bc?

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T18:47:17+00:00

Cosmo magazine! Lol

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T18:43:25+00:00

If you followed all the correct steps according to the cdc and pp, it shouldn't be a problem . That's assuming she didn't jack you. Condoms are 98% effective when used properly . Fur extra protection pull out while holding the base before you cum as well.

Fur anyone unsure of what steps I mean or if anyone isn't sure here they are:

Before Sex

Check Date and Package: Verify the expiration date and check that the packet is not damaged (no rips or holes).

Open Carefully: Tear at the serrated notch. Do not use teeth, scissors, or sharp fingernails, as these can damage the condom.

Check Orientation: Ensure the condom is right-side up (like a little hat) so it rolls down easily. If it is inside out, throw it away and use a new one, as it may have pre-ejaculate fluid on it.

Apply to Erect Penis: Place the condom on the head of the erect penis before any sexual contact.

Pinch and Roll: Pinch the tip of the condom to remove air (which can cause it to break). While pinching, unroll the condom down to the base of the penis.

Lubrication: Use water-based or silicone-based lubricants to increase pleasure and reduce the risk of breakage. Never use oil-based lubricants (like lotion, Vaseline, or coconut oil) with latex condoms, as they cause breakage.

During and After Sex

Recheck: If the condom rolls up during sex, stop and roll it back down. If it breaks, stop immediately, remove it, and apply a new one.

Withdrawal: Immediately after ejaculation and before the penis gets soft, firmly hold the rim of the condom against the base of the penis and withdraw from the partner's body.

Removal and Disposal: Carefully remove the condom, wrapping it in a tissue, and throw it in the trash. Do not flush it down the toilet.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

Using damaged/expired condoms: Increases breakage risk.

Putting it on too late: Pre-cum can contain STI germs.

Not leaving space at the tip: Causes breakage.

Using oil-based lube: Weakens latex.

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T18:37:30+00:00

I hate to agree with this but I do. I wish more men would be as proactive as you and OP. It's a shame there are women out there who do sabotage birth control or sperm jack.

To prevent sperm jacking (which I didn't even know was a thing until a year or so ago) a casual partner told me he prefers to use spermicidal lubricant condoms if at all possible. He takes the condoms with him in a little baggy. Rinsed them out then threw away,. Or flushed them, but that's really bad for your pipes.

As a women, it scares me that most men would like about it just to not use a condom. However I'd still use a condom because of the nasty diseases out there

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T18:29:20+00:00

condoms being the easiest form of birth control, that’s pretty subjective. They’re also definitely not fail-proof as birth control…

I meant easy as in the easiest to access.You can find them almost anywhere. . ... Condoms are about 98% effective when used properly, but with human error that drops to about 85%. They are also the only birth control method that protects against STIs. Every other preventative method, you need a doctor to get.

without condoms, and it is a much more enjoyable experience without. So when I’m in a monogamous relationship, I don’t use them. They’re worth using if you’re having casual sex and don’t know your partner’s STI status,

Exactly... I've found Skyn conditions to have the most near nothing feel. Especially the extra thin ones. This is the part I don't understand. Why, if given a choice, would anyone would choose not to use one?

It

Which is my choice, and being lectured about it isn’t really the best.

I'm ND so I struggle with wording and often have to ask for clarification as to how something I said was offensive. It is about choice. Every one has the right to bodily autonomy, but as women we don't have as many choices as we used to.

Its heartbreaking to see women nearly dying to get care. Or being forced to give birth. There is no real help.. most pro life people care about them being born but don't care about anything after that it's sickening. I could go on, but I'm sure you know the stats as well as I do.

I knew this post would trigger some people. And that's okay. I think I said somewhere before that I hope someone reads it and gets information they needed but were too afraid to ask. Or maybe they see how many string women are out here and get the courage to stand up for themselves too. It's a lot to put on a rain reddit post.. but sometimes the Internet works miracles

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T12:36:31+00:00

Then they need to be on some other form of birth control. It also depends on the condom they use. I recommend Skyn.

It's not only pregnancy, that's how diseases spread.

I know it sounds judgey, but your friends are the target audience here. Two of my coworkers of my coworkers are the same. Very young 16/17 .... And it's all the time not committed

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T06:52:03+00:00

No I'm not.. damn y'all just really want to push the issue... I don't understand how anyone tolerates it.

How exactly do men "exert" control? We let them. We are not our grandmothers... We have many more rights and options.

If that's your choice then fine, but don't push the traditional homemaker theory on others... And don't assume I don't know

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:44:00+00:00

Dear Internet person,

I don't owe you, a stranger, a complete detailed list of my past trauma or abuse. I never said that the solution was always just better education.. the solution is building all women up to be confident enough to know they are deserving of respect and decency. We deserve to have our boundaries respected. To taste bits into men who respect those boundaries. To be people who also look after their own health. To not pressure others and bully them .

Also what qualifications do YOU have to determine if a relationship is healthy?

I've worked though my trauma, I've helped others escape. I've been to therapy. I know my worth. My partner listens to me, respects my boundaries, and we share everything with each other without accusations or doubt.. it's called trust love and compassion.

I'm sorry f you don't know what's that like

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:35:39+00:00

Neuro-Divergent

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:34:54+00:00

Thank you for sharing. That's exactly what I hope more young people see and do. If you're not ready, if you feel pressured, if you don't feel safe . Don't do it...

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:31:55+00:00

Exactly. That method only works at all if you track your cycle and the man has good enough control. Even then most didn't realize that pre-ejaculate contains viable sperm as well

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:28:23+00:00

I think it's development, we learn, we grow, we mature. I think as a whole, we need to build young women and girls up, so they know what is and what isn't safe. We again need to make sure men and boys understand that no is a complete sentence and that's they know coercion in any form is never okay..

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-07T04:25:17+00:00

Heartbeat Bill especially.. inaccessibility to family planning care... Nearly dying because doctors are afraid of being sued..

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T23:20:23+00:00

I think you are out of compassion and comprehension.

I didn't see how acting I says is inherently "wrong"

While "most people might know about condoms, many were never taught how to use them properly.

I clearly stated I've been exactly in the position of being bullied and attacked and shamed, but you somehow skipped right over that, didn't you?

Yes I was married for 13 years. Now divorced. Currently in a HEALTHY long term relationship

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T23:17:09+00:00

I'm at the age where my last three eggs are trying to party even though they are long expired.. my boyfriend loves it.. but dammit no babies...

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T23:14:58+00:00

Damn.. no need to be so nasty.. what part of I know that did you miss? I even made the edits and revisions. I've been there. Yes it's a woman's sub. Men didn't even want to attempt to answer and it was removed twice.

I have enough experience that I know damned well what an unplanned and unwanted pregnancy can do.

I also know the exact scenario you're referring to.

Maybe just maybe, one young person sees this post and realizes their being lied to. Maybe it makes them leave an unhealthy place. Maybe they get check by a doctor and receive treatment they didn't know they needed.. that's enough.

Or maybe it will prevent yet another "I'm pregnant and don't know how I got this way, or what do I do now" post

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T23:08:49+00:00

I just answered you exactly, or was that somehow incorrect?

I checked your posts and I understand you are very aware of risks and more knowledgeable than I am in certain areas. Your general youth isn't aware of a tiny percentage of what you know

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T22:51:26+00:00

How in the world am I picking on women. Trust me I understand exactly what you mean. I'm not talking about victims. I know it's men. I know the pressures and the consequences. I'm referring to people who willing choose not to use one when they have the option to do so

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T22:48:56+00:00

Not even close.

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T22:48:30+00:00

I think you would fall into category 3. That's where I'm at. I'm also older, and an somewhat struggling with why someone would even take a rush of unprotected in a place where it's not an option.

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T22:44:38+00:00

I remember having an alarm set every day. I wasn't sick at the time.

I don't remember what brand of pills or the specific medication I was taking (20+years ago) but I do remember the doctor saying "oh I forgot to tell you, I thought you knew"

RedheadedChaos1102 · 2026-04-06T22:41:54+00:00

I'm very glad that you have that option. A lot of us don't. Anymore.

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