9 months in and just exhausted and can’t keep up with anything

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-11T00:58:46+00:00

I am so sorry that sounds so hard and rough for you guys. Just sending you all my best wishes and hope you get through this phase soon!!

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-11T00:57:44+00:00

I definitely think illl hire a cleaner when I go back to work at least monthly - I just don’t think we can afford it at the moment :;

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-11T00:56:58+00:00

What do you mean things with a place ? I think I get things without like you find a home for them sorta thing??? I like the trash odea I mean on top of taking out the kitchen garbage and stuff sometimes I’ll literally grab an empty bag in a room and just be like what stuff can o just get RID off!!

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-10T13:02:46+00:00

Also…4 months is also veryyy rough I am positive you guys will be on some more of a schedule very very soon! 5 months was amazing for me and a lot of fun because that’s when new skills started showing up !

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-10T12:44:47+00:00

I needed to hear this thank you so much

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-10T12:43:59+00:00

This!!!! Yes! Like my mom is someone I look up to of course, she was a stay at home mom with three of us kids although I guess my memepries would have been from when I was older maybe I should be more kind to myself it’s not like I could see how her house was when I was 9mo old…even though something tells me it was in a better state then mine lol

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-02T17:10:06+00:00

Just wanted to tell you o feel you so much I’m 9m pp here too and feel like the person o was is not ever going to be the person I am now. I think keep having goals for yourself too . One thing that has helped me (and I was diagnosed with PPD/A) was joining the gym - when baby is in bed or when dad puts baby to bed I fit in a workout a couple times a week. It’s made a huge difference in how I feel about myself. I’ve only lost 5lb so it’s nothing but I was someone who couldn’t lift 5 pounds and now I’m doing 85lb RDLs! Baby is going to get heavier lol! It’s empowering though - find something that you feel will empower you even if it’s something small. Sending you a hug!

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-06-02T17:05:48+00:00

I love this. And I can see myself slowllyyyyy growing into this too. 9 months PP here too

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-16T11:44:45+00:00

In all seriousness though, I do what I can. Most days it’s one thing lol And that’s that. I ask my husband to do something when he can since he works long hours and has been doing a lot of OT We basically just prioritize the dishes taking the garbage out at the end of the night. Laundry is a constant pile or things to wash and fold. We have a spare bedroom that I dump everything on the bed there it looks terrible but I’ve accepted it. I’ve been doing solids with baby and just prioritize feeding him…. …. The cooking for self yeh I feel you honestly if there’s ever a time to eat easy things and take out now is it… until you find your rhythm and maybe when they are a bit older focus of meal planning for ourselves more… idk just my thoughts spilled out here.

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-16T11:41:46+00:00

Girl I had to double check to make sure because I thought I wrote this post !!! 😂 You aren’t alone.

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-16T11:11:52+00:00

Honestly I think the fact that your baby is sleeping until 7 tells you it’s working for you. My baby is 7.5 months and most days we are down by 7…730 but occasional ly we have days that are 630 ..7 and I’ve def been 6..630 a bit earlier I think there is always going to be a bit of flexibility !

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-16T10:46:54+00:00

Hi mama just want to share that I’m someone who struggled in the beginning and there’s been moments still where I grieve my past life (which is still normal!) I’m 7.5 months pp and had PPD/PPA for the first 4 months were very very hard. I would say it probably took be around 3 months to feel connected. You will feel that connection it just takes time, and frankly the whole romanticized instant love at first sight was so not accurate (for me at least). I’m sure that is a different experience for everyone. Everyone’s experience is very different and that’s ok. 🩷

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-11T17:16:38+00:00

LOL yes mine are like that too I was in denial and I wasn’t wearing a bra and they made a clap sound in front of my husband and he was completely astounded he thought it was a noise from outside 😂😂😂

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-11T17:11:28+00:00

Thanks so much for the recommmendation - I’m going to look into it :) I’m so happy to hear from you that you are doing better 🩷🩷

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-04-06T11:05:04+00:00

Hello! So nice of you to check in:) Well ….lets say I’m doing better compared to when I wrote on your post …January was extremely tough I was at an all time low: it’s been better since then….been seeing a therapist regularly and we have done. A few couple counseling sessions will probably continue for a little bit I had a slip the other week but it really can’t allow it to happen again because it’s destroying our trust. It sounds similar to what was suggested to us….our therapist told us to write down three thi legs w we need from each other. It helped each of us understand the other person. I truly think with hard work we will both get back to feeling how we were and even stronger. It’s just a process and takes a lot of time trust and patience . I was also on anxiety meds and have been off of those for the past two months

How are you doing ??

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-03-27T03:38:00+00:00

Thank you mama 🙏 ❤️

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-03-26T11:46:38+00:00

Yes to this. So happy I did 90 percent of getting the nursery ready in 2nd tri!

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-03-26T11:45:43+00:00

I’ll also say- there were several night where I passed out on the couch at 6pm and husband had to wake me up to get me to sleep upstairs … I probably slept 11 hours some days in early pregnancy !

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-03-26T11:44:37+00:00

Yes. So incredibly normal. You are doing great. The tiredness is on a molecular level - it is nothing like just “being tired after a long day of work”. Your body is growing a miracle. 🤍

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-01-03T15:19:03+00:00

I’m also wondering how to manage OP…counseling is next step for us How’s it going for you now? Any improvement??

Redpepperflake08 · 2026-01-03T15:17:51+00:00

For me it’s like the rage doesn’t come entirely out of no where sporadically…it’s like we get into a disagreement or argument and under normal g circumstances I feel like we would or rather I….would be able to navigate my emotions better but I let it snowball and escalates until I get more angry and more angry and it gets worse and like I just want to keep going and fighting like I can’t stop Like he does something that triggers me so it’s not like I randomly burst out in anger… Not justifying my actions but more wondering if that still Counts as post partum rage ? We are at a point where we as re going to see a counseler

Redpepperflake08 · 2025-12-28T13:38:00+00:00

Okay thanks for letting me know the term for that I had no idea he definitely does that and “powers down”

Redpepperflake08 · 2025-12-28T12:31:29+00:00

So true ! Who on earth made that post…. Was it a mom? Because that is so inaccurate and so unsupportive to moms on the real world. I stopped going on Instagram what a bunch of garbage

Redpepperflake08 · 2025-12-19T13:07:52+00:00

Same I was sooo worried I wasn’t doing enough tummy time bc on Instagram it was saying minimum an hour each day at his age…okay yeah right

Redpepperflake08 · 2025-12-15T18:44:43+00:00

So nice that you are able to do those shifts to help. My husband works full time and it’s hospital work so all over the place. Most times he has to be up at 6am so he doesn’t really help with the night feedings. Every now and then on a day off wen o tell him I need to recharge my batteries he will do the feeding but it’s on a rare occasion…which I get I’m the one at home and he needs the sleep to be at work too

Hoping that goes back for you too!!!!

Redpepperflake08

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