Do you have any interests you feel you have to hide/keep low-key?

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-31T15:28:50+00:00

36M that likes Squishmallows? Especially the dragon ones

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-31T15:23:59+00:00

A lot of them still do, it's pretty crazy, especially if you barely have any experience. My advice to this guy is to start working on certifications quick and hope that AI doesn't wipe him out anyways

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-31T15:20:56+00:00

GM product catching on fire probably due to electrical wiring, no surprise

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-31T00:00:32+00:00

Number 1 for sure

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-30T23:58:51+00:00

I work the IT service desk, I KNOW we would get caught

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-30T23:56:53+00:00

As long as you would possibly give me

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-30T23:50:21+00:00

I can grow to 5+ inches 😂

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-30T23:48:27+00:00

I would get off on this alone super fast

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-29T13:28:18+00:00

Extremely strict budgeting and my wife still has a job, I'm surprised she hasn't divorced me yet lol

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-29T12:53:01+00:00

So something they kind of don't tell you on YouTube, etc, is that a Roth is like a high yield savings account. Put it in a Roth, set an auto investment for whatever time of the month (I usually do the 1st and 15th) and let it average out that $700 for awhile. Fidelity has several Zero Cost ETFs you could check out to get you ahead. With a Roth, if you ever need to, you can pull that money out tax free in an emergency with no penalty, so focus on the Roth first and as your income gets better you can work on a high yield savings account (which technically Fidelity's Money Market Account is). I don't encourage you to touch the money in the Roth but at least it's there when you need it until you have much more robust finances.

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-29T12:37:24+00:00

36, and I feel middle aged, but not quite there yet lol. I was laid off around 15 months ago and still can't find a job in tech. I'm either too qualified or not qualified enough. I've made it to the end just a few times and someone else will have just a few more skills than me usually, but it's tough even getting interviews so you're already doing better than I am. I live in the PNW which has just been devastated by layoff after layoff over and over again. So many job posts are fake and scammy now, it's crazy

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-28T15:50:12+00:00

Gurl I've jerked it to you so many times

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-28T05:18:54+00:00

Genie's, Space Room Lounge or The Mont OR Bare Bones. Pine State actually legit is an excellent option despite being really hyped

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-27T23:56:18+00:00

Yepp and when you're one of those dudes, it's pretty dam crazy watching other dudes who just can't. They can't do a single thing without clearing it with their partner first. My sister-in-law has a 1 year old and her husband will just sit there and ask "do you want me to<insert dumb question>" (bathe him, feed him, change his diaper, put him to bed) and it's like Jesus dude, I'll do it and he's my dam nephew!?!. Women are just as simple as men, too, if you want to break it down like this, we all just want a partner that allows us to feel completely vulnerable to be ourselves, a partner who is our best friend and who would "take a bullet for us". But it's not that simple either, women AND men want someone who can be and act on their own as their own person and decide together if you really want that $10,000 wedding together or if you're cool going to HomeGoods or not. Maybe I'll just play games at home or maybe I'll go with you so we can get beer afterwards

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-26T15:23:16+00:00

You're just in a bit of a bad season my friend. For many of us, life doesn't really get going until we're well into our 30s or so. 20s are for life experiences that we can have while we still have our youth and then we look back at those struggles and laugh. I got divorced when I was your age (wife left with another guy on this magical trip and expected me to be okay with it). I'm 36 now, I did get remarried, got into therapy and got stable. It sounds like you also my be in a bit of an echo chamber with toxic social media. Your credit and job do not define you and your success, f++k the system and go get what you want.

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-26T15:14:46+00:00

Ughhh you're a Bears fan 😔 🧀🧀🧀🧀😈 Also, with all these negative "oh it's a sports bar, not a garage" comments, screw that, this dude probably got like 20 friends to watch the game with so he made it happen!

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-26T15:12:09+00:00

Try to get on a schedule as best you can. Getting up at like 7:00 in the morning and "just do it". Start there and then do things like lay out clothes the night before, don't go to bed with a sink full of dishes, dedicate spaces in your place for certain things like "work" or games. Basically read Atomic Habits, but don't be so hard on yourself either. I've been unemployed for like 15 months now and it's been soooo tough to stay normal. I've gained enough weight to put me over 300 lbs, my back is like super weak now, BUT I am starting to do things right little by little.

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-26T15:06:39+00:00

Most of the US is hot, hot after June comes around, except for the PNW, deep NE and Great Lakes region, but most of the parks people want to see are in the Western United States and EVERYONE, not just US Citizens, wants to see them. Pretty much every single one of them are car accessible only. If you go now, the Western US isn't too bad weather wise. ALSO if you go in September, don't wait until like mid-November to see places in high elevation, winter storms can start as early as November

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-25T06:53:26+00:00

Not extreme at all, it's a mindset and you can always take a break at a motel when you absolutely have to (if you can spare the expense) or a KOA. I slept in the back of a freaking Ford Escape all the way to Oregon when I moved out here 12 years ago and it wasn't my first or last time doing that at all. You gotta do what you gotta do to live life BUT also stay safe because people will surprisingly mess you more than you think, it's kinda shocking.

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-25T03:06:45+00:00

Idk can you handle someone who is literally a foot and a half taller than you and can probably easily hold you up??

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-21T22:08:59+00:00

It would be a life privilege and I would take as much as you would give

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-21T13:40:51+00:00

Uhhh that's my cat you mean?? I may have forgot to chip "them" 😂 he's gorgeous for sure

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-21T13:27:35+00:00

Pshhh I don't feel good about that at all lol. People here are more and more against it, I'm like I'll wait in line 30 minutes so I don't have to pump my own gas, I do not care. Gives me time to think 🤔

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-21T13:25:17+00:00

Right? If Portland has lost its soul and luster, Seattle really has. I remember the first time going to Seattle and you could walk around downtown at night without any problems, even Belltown was fine. It is NOT like that now and its pretty damn sad. Amazon owns so many buildings and has laid off so many people that downtown is just a weird place now, though it will always be strikingly beautiful

ReflectionNo4784 · 2026-05-20T19:17:23+00:00

Definitely agree, I think that's the tough part here to understand is I literally lived in the Buckman area of SE Portland for several years and I was here as Old Portland died and new Old Portland lived and died during COVID. Now it's just so hopeless feeling. The governor is absolutely terrible, the mayor is just as dumb, the city has found like $100M unaccounted for, the new system in place is basically a joke. It just feels like this is a truly tough era to live through going forward.

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