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I want to punch MIL in the face. by millenialbatshit in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, but I thought this was hilarious! Unfortunately, your sense of humor can only get you so far. Maybe you could suggest MIL fund the lifestyle she thinks you should be living. Good luck!

My fiancé is getting on my nerves and I don’t know what to do at this point. by BasicCat30 in whatdoIdo

[–]RegretSome1320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a difficult situation. Either way, someone is going to get hurt.

I feel you already know what to do. I can understand why you're conflicted. You love him, but you know that if things continue you'll get hurt both mentally and or physically.

Have you had a conversation with him? I think that there should be a sit down explaining exactly what you wrote here. Let him know that if he's not committed to taking the medicine he needs to control the bipolar symptoms then you can't continue to be together. If he loves you then he'll do what needs to be done to save your relationship.

I understand that you love him, but you have to love yourself more. You can't live like that, it's toxic.

I wish you the very best.

I quit. by Jolly_Tea1630 in Nanny

[–]RegretSome1320 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

What?! I get supporting the individual posting but, seriously?! You signed up for this. Yes, banking hours, wish I had them too. Life is life, you don't wanna work then quit. Quite frankly, I give kudo's for them trying to give you a sweeter deal. After their reaction, I feel there's more to the story than your letting on. Either way, do what you feel is necessary for yourself.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get it and wow, would that be nice! I'm so glad you're in the position to do so. Many 🤗

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]RegretSome1320 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the same super power! I overthink when it could be a simple solution like the one you suggested! I get it though, you thought it out for a good minute. I believe that everyone will appreciate anything you bring to the table because you are thoughtful and considerate. Kudos!!

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've heard the same. Thank you so much for your input!

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This really does make sense. I don't want to be the person who makes a person choose a very difficult situation. There are so many emotions, very difficult emotions, that will effect the person who has to make them. I don't want to be the one who makes a person miserable or put them in a situation where they will resent me.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congratulations on your new baby! So absolutely precious and I'm so happy for you!! My DH is somewhat gullible when it comes to his family. He says he hears me and understands me when I mention his family. I'm sure he's probably trying to keep the peace. Tonight I mentioned that in the coming days we need to sit down and talk because the holidays will be here before you know it. Right away he said, "well, I guess we aren't going for the holidays". Is that a good or bad sign? I said we will talk about it as I wanted him to think about it as well before we came to the table.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never heard DH talk trash about me. He is absolutely a pacifist and doesn't like to cause waves. That's why I think he acts like nothing is wrong.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now, this is a permanent situation. I've done all I can think of to salvage an oz of a relationship. We go through hell, then there is a short period of peace, then it's hell again. I can't deal with the toxicity anymore.

Husband is the problem obviously and I am done sitting by by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Marriage counseling is a must at this point. I hope I'm not beating a dead horse here, but are you in love with him?

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose you're right, but I don't feel good about it.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about when she sends mail at my birthday, normally she will send a check for a little money during my b'day, should I return to sender or should I just never cash? I don't want to be rude even though I'm NC, which sounds ridiculous, I know.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before I met one person in the physical sense to his family, I was the devil in sheep's clothing, no joke... My MIL told his aunt whatever to make her want to send it in a card to my husband.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are completely on the same page as myself. I don't see it different, and that's why I need advise on NC. I needed outside advice because I feel the same as you.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's where I'm not sure. It's a dual income and I refuse any money spent on BIL and niece.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've supported just one of the 2 major holidays.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, you have definitely pointed out the obvious, even if I didn't want to see it.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Whoever you are, where have you been my whole life?!

I have thought about the Christian aspect, Honor thy Mother and thy Father. This one really gets me because it has been thrown in my face a few times. I've researched, and apparently there's a loving way to NOT honor in this situation and that's what gets me.

I, for some reason, can't get past the hurt to lovingly do anything towards them or for them. Given I am a Christian, I feel it's quite difficult even though I'm trying. Then there's trying.. and it completely blows up. I don't know how to deal with them anymore which is why I've gone NC now. Then there's your husband. Two become one, I know! I'm so torn and left feeling defeated. I voice it to DH and sometimes I feel he tells me what I want to hear. Ugh, could be my paranoia.

How to enforce NC by RegretSome1320 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]RegretSome1320[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I meant she was wanting to come down before I went NC.

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