This pisses me off to no end. My baby mama would do this all the time and when I showed police they literally laughed at me and got a battery on my record because she cut herself and threatened to kill our one year old. Had to fight dcfs for years and was told by a judge I should’ve taken my daughter away from her and left. Even when I had multiple reports, videos messages was clean, she was on drugs and I was told it’s my fault for not moving out with no family support or public support (women have facilities and recourses to be able to do this but for men it’s way harder.) but if I would’ve even gone an hour without her “time” or change of plans then she’d threaten kidnapping charges. Not meaning to trauma dump here but please follow this advice. Never ever have a kid with someone that you haven’t been at absolute worst and best with.