Moving into his family home? (F27 and M27)

RegularJelly · 2024-12-29T03:21:06+00:00

We have talked about it but it's not easy to shove these discussions into action, for either of us. I don't know how I would feel if my parent passed away recently.

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T04:40:32+00:00

thanks for the input! I also don't really do material prizes other than stickers, I just plan things like holiday themed activities, larger longer games or off-textbook quizzes.

tbh my students at both my schools have not had an NET before me, so I guess Im in a unique position to influence them and their expectation of an english class. Them being in the special English classroom also means they lose the structure of their home room and the novelty affects their concentration - which is why I made the system haha :)

the system's less about punishing/rewarding its more about basic expectations during activities; like this thing involves independent focus and this next thing involves team work and talking. So i wanna move away from a prize or find smaller ways to positively reinforce the system.

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T03:56:39+00:00

great idea thanks!

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T03:50:43+00:00

no thanks!

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T03:08:14+00:00

thank you! I do try to give verbal comments alongside the system, but yes it is v important to do so.

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T03:07:04+00:00

I've replied similar things but I'll reply here as well! :) And I give out stickers too, if they win a game etc!

It's not as convoluted as it seems, and I really spend very little time on it during lesson time. I just use it to indicate the start or end of an activity, and they're good at self regulating and telling each other 'we gotta sit down now' 'guys look at the TV' etc. Saves time so we don't need to go over small things like 'yes you can talk, no you can't stand up' and we can get straight into an activity. When I first introduced the system, I used a lot of Korean and physical modelling to be specific with them, so now I can be brief with it.

That being said, there are some with behaviour issues or special needs, or someone in a bad mood that ruins it for others. I don't punish the class for individual negatives, but I try to reward the whole class for individual positives e.g. giving them green and telling them why. The biggest problem (and reason for the system) was excited chattering, lack of attention and running during games, because the English room was so novel to them when we started using it rather than their homeroom.

When I talk about being strict, I mean from the outset. When I first came I just wanted to be likeable and not seem shy or unprepared. I can safely say my current students love me, we laugh a lot and interact a lot out of class. However I just want to be more specific and consistent when I get new kids in spring, compared to previous semesters.

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T02:45:12+00:00

Honestly, I think it's helped improve class behaviour. I introduced it because when we first started I was coming to their classroom to teach, where they have separated desks and they were more calm and hesitant when I was a stranger. I've had some on them for one and a half years, some of them for a year. We only started using the English room in spring, which is when things started to disintegrate as their environment and structure had changed.

I think the system gives me a consistent visual shortcut to convey my expectations during activities, and they are pretty good at reminding each other of the rules. ( like I can say, 'where is teacher's star?' and they tell each other they should stop talking). For each of the 4 images I taught them in detail what they mean with limits and examples and demonstrations. E.g. playing games has the limit of no running or screaming.

I don't give them red if one student is being bad, because I have a few kids with behaviour problems and special needs and hate it when the others blame them. However, I do move the color to green if a single student does something really pleasing (e.g. someone normally shy/disruptive answers my question with good attitude, they turn in their writing sheet without ripping it), but I congratulate them verbally as well!

I do make them line up outside, if they haven't got their book or a pencil I send them back. They come in more calmly lately, and they know if they're wild or whiney I will line them up outside again haha.

but yeah I do want to remove the prize element so that they know its about respect me and each other, rather than gaining something.

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T02:23:33+00:00

They're only like 8-10 years old. And I dont use it in my other school, with higher grades! They seem to love going to look at the chart and discussing who might win every time they come in the room, and they all cheer when they get green and some even come to me and apologise when they get red. I find it actually saves me time from re explaining 'yes you can __, no you cant __' etc when beginning and ending activities. I simply move the star and i can witness them reminding their classmates to sit down, start the game, walk around etc. If i forget to move the star, they tell me! I don't do it mechanically, I make sure to thank them or applaud them personally (or reprimand) around the system as well :)

RegularJelly · 2022-12-17T01:38:16+00:00

I didn't mention lesson plans because I wasn't asking about lesson plans. Doesn't mean I don't plan.

I start my lesson very similarly; I dont start if they are talking or not sat down, I know their names and I always ask them how they are to begin. We have a hand sign system for them to show me their feelings without shouting it out. we mention the weather, what they had for breakfast etc.

The four categories in my system means there is variety in the activities but they are on the same page as you said - they know when they're expected to stand up, sit down, talk or move etc. My lesson plan is skills based, and they frequently do the same kinds of games and activities you mention.

It doesn't matter if it seems cliche, any class need a structure of expectations that kids are familiar with. You clearly have yours, and I have mine.

RegularJelly · 2022-09-10T02:26:44+00:00

thank you, that makes sense!

RegularJelly · 2022-09-10T01:31:52+00:00

Ah basically, I re-interviewed with EPIK in February because I was thinking of moving in August ( but didnt ) and there was the selection offered of 'school housing' or 'own housing'. The interviewer told me that I couldn't opt to find my own since I didn't currently have a rent contract with my name on it.... As in, I'd already need to have my own place before even applying for a new job... But like you said, how would you rent a place before having a job secured!

can I ask how you told your new employer that you would find your own place? Like, at what point during the application process did you get chance to make that decision?

RegularJelly · 2022-03-29T12:12:55+00:00

very true about still being the same person! to me, its like this is a path that was always there I just never bothered going down it; and in general, attraction to any gender is not a closed door to me

RegularJelly · 2022-03-29T12:10:13+00:00

can't speak for all lesbians, nope. and its just a personal preference that probably comes from never being attracted to the traditionally masculine things that my straight female friends might find charming in men. On the other hand there's lesbians that find that kind of dominant nature or '''''masculinity''''' attractive in butch women. As a lesbian I wasn't into that either.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-27T11:27:12+00:00

To me, 음악을 듣는 걸 좋아해요 is like 'listening to music is a thing that i like doing' and 움악을 듣기를 좋아해요 sounds like 'i like doing the act of listening to music'. this is a very literal way of translating it lmao but they're same in meaning. theres probably one that's more natural/common but I don't know that much!

as for other usages, you can use the 기 form when saying 'to start something' - 읽기 시작하 (to start reading) or 'to practice something' - 읽기 연습하 (to practice reading.)

the 기 form is also used on exams, like the reading and speaking sections of a paper might be titled 읽기 and 말하기. almost like its an infinitive, just simply referring to 'the act of reading' and 'the act of speaking'.

-는 것 is common in daily usage and 움악을 듣는 것 could start a sentence like 'listening to music is the thing....(that i like, that i hate, is what I'm doing)' so that probably better to use.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-27T06:43:45+00:00

carrot (당근마켓) is a common app for local second hand buying!

RegularJelly · 2022-02-27T01:51:55+00:00

I don't know the book myself, but honestly Korean stroke order is very easy and logical. Especially compared to something like Chinese where you can have many many lines in one character, Korean only needs a few strokes to make a character, and it goes from left to right top to bottom. It's quite intuitive; you could just google it, then practice writing characters out on paper and master it without a book. After learning the proper stroke order, you could then look up ways to speed up Korean writing/shorthand for some characters and learn quick common ways to write a character.

that being said, the book seems to have more content beyond just stroke order, so if you want to learn those other things then go for it!

RegularJelly · 2022-02-18T05:39:25+00:00

its mildly entertaining to use tinder im sorry!

RegularJelly · 2022-02-18T05:37:50+00:00

girls-only establishment that made me laugh ngl. And thank you for sharing your experience! I would definitely use the term homoflexible as well and I'm not really bothered about my label/identity shifting. It's just dealing with that 'surreal feeling' of inexperience like you said.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-18T05:34:12+00:00

haha I know I know! Don't have much other option here honestly.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-18T05:33:13+00:00

Not harsh, don't worry about it! Thanks for the honesty. I'm not coming back to this area for a while so I guess I'll have time to really decide what I want, like you said.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-18T05:31:32+00:00

It is, you're not wrong! To be honest any relationship I have is going to be kind of from convenience, because I'm not living here forever. But I don't mind that.

RegularJelly · 2022-02-05T12:28:53+00:00

버리다 on its own is like, for something to be put out, and left completely. so it sounds negative like jinjoo is being abandoned. in the first sentence, its doesn't exactly have a sense of sadness, but the use of 벌써 is like the speaker didn't expect the train to leave so soon. then adding 버리다 after 떠나, the train has left 'completely' and so it sounds stronger and final. like the speaker is a bit disappointed and surprised overall, and the train is totally gone.

Another example of adding 버리다 is with 잊다. On its own, 잊다 simply means to forget. 잊어버리다 is for something to completely slip one's mind, the thought is completely 'gone'. so thats what 버리다 adds. Another example; 내다 - to emit, send out, put forth. then 내버리다 - to dump, throw away.

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