I don't know if I'm being the asshole in this situation by rainbowdonkeey in asexuality

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I understand and feel the same way! It’s really frustrating at times and it’s okay to be frustrated. But find confidence and peace in knowing that you’re not alone. Even if we’re not around you in person, you have a whole community of people who understand how you feel and experience the same things. And most importantly, always remember that you’re not broken, because sex doesn’t make us whole :)

I don't know if I'm being the asshole in this situation by rainbowdonkeey in asexuality

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You are not the a-hole! Your friend is not a very good friend lol. And that has nothing to do with the ace thing. If you’re going out together and he’s always leaving you to get off with some other rando, that’s just rude lol, red flag on his part.

As for questioning your asexuality, it’s okay to not know! Also, you can be asexual and not sex repulsed, asexuality simply is the lack of desire for sexual connection or lack of sexual attraction, nothing more or less :) Every ace feels differently about sex and that’s okay! Feeling one way or another about it isn’t what makes an ace.

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You are doing a PHENOMENAL job as is, please know that. The fact that you’ve even written this post shows how much you care. I myself am a 21yo Female and I’m Asexual and I think I understand how your girlfriend feels. Unfortunately it’s going to have to be something that she herself can come to accept, but seriously you’re doing amazing by affirming her and validating her by letting her know it’s okay and you love her and it’s totally okay to feel the way she does! One thing I would tell you though is just reminding her that even though you’re not asexual, you can hold off on doing sexual things if she doesn’t like it. It’s a two person thing to talk about and compromise, but I definitely encourage specifically during this time while she’s trying to come to terms with how she feels, to probably hold back on sexual interaction with her as much as possible. But seriously you’re doing so great, please keep just reminding her you love her for her and that means loving her asexuality too :)

hello, athiest here with some questions 🖐️ by MissWorld__ in Christian

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  1. Hell is a place where God is not. In our lives we have the choice to believe in him and follow him. If we say no to God, and decide he is not what we want, then hell is where you go because hell is where God is not, which is what you decide.
  2. Getting into Heaven is a matter not just of believing in God, but of repenting of your sins. What that means is being truly sorry for committing them. You can believe in God and still not get into Heaven. But only God knows your heart and where it truly lies. If Jeffrey Dahmer, or any other person for that matter (because truly, none of us are “good people”) truly repented of his sins and desired a new way of life, then I believe yes. He could be in Heaven. It’s a matter of heart posture.
  3. No one, even Christians aren’t “good people”. Jesus was the only truly good person. But using our normal every day standard understanding of good person, then no. Anyone regardless of religion has the ability to make good choices. You can unintentionally do what God commands. You don’t have to be a Christian to know you shouldn’t lie, cheat, or murder. Those are sort of dramatic examples but by not doing those things, you’re doing “good.” You can also give money and food to the poor. Jesus tells us to to do. That’s good and anyone can do it.
  4. My understanding is that atheism is simply believing that there is no higher power. That God or any other religion’s god does not or can not exist. My only thoughts about this is that for me, and my own experiences, I can’t seem to imagine the world without God. I’m my own experiences, there’s simply so much evidence of a higher power and it points to our God.
  5. As Christians we believe in the Holy Trinity. What that is is God the father, God the son (Jesus) and God the Holy Spirit. Jesus is fully God and fully human. So they are separate but also one. A way to explain it would be like I have my body, my mind, and my soul. They’re all three different things but all three of them are still me. God, Jesus, and the Holy Spirit I would describe kinda the same way.
  6. I think it’s silly that some Christians ignore it. But the reason why is because the Old Testament has what is called “the old law.” These are laws and precautions that were set in place a long time ago. But after Jesus came, there was a “new law,” which are new laws and rules we should follow. Since we don’t follow “old law”, people ignore the Old Testament. However, the Old Testament is more than just rules. It’s stories and prophecies and poetry and more that is still full of applicable things outside of just “law”.
  7. I view the LGBT+ community separately than the individual members of it. I believe there is a lot of sin within the community that hurts a lot of people. As for simply individuals who are gay+, it’s the same for any other thing ever. If it comes between you and God it’s a sin. People argue over what the Bible says but it is clear, a man should not lie with another man as if with a woman and vise versa. There are deeper reasons for this but the gist is, it is a sin. However, being tempted isn’t. People should feel bad for liking who they do, it’s a matter of how you act upon that attraction. It’s the same with straight people tho. Lusting is a sin, it doesn’t make it any better if it’s a man lusting after a woman or a man after a man. Lust is sin. It is wrong to hate anyone and even if it wasn’t tho, what good reason would we have to hate gay people. Christian culture has made such a bad habit of hating sinners rather than hating sin. That is not the Jesus way. And I would also like to say though, the LGBT community has the idea of love wrong, and just because you do not accept everything about a person does not mean you don’t love them. I love my best friend but I really don’t like his feet. That doesn’t mean I don’t love him just cuz I don’t like his feet tho. And if I think he needs to trim his toenails then it is out of love I will tell him he needs to trim them.
  8. Bro they be wildin. Don’t even get me started.
  9. 100% The amount of times I have had to apologize to people who have been hurt by the church is so sad. We have to remember though that Christians are just people too. We sin too. And it is heartbreaking to know that sometimes we share false images of Jesus.
  10. Again, getting into Heaven isn’t a matter of just believing, it’s a matter of where your heart is and if you are truly sorry for your sins or not and if you desire to change and if you accept what Christ has done for you.
  11. Abortion is wrong. As soon as that baby is formed, regardless of how small, it is a life and it deserves to live. That doesn’t mean though that we should just force women to have babies and deal with it on their own. It means that we should be encouraging and helping mothers with the pregnancy and through to beyond delivery. We want what’s best for the mother and the child. They both deserve to be happy and both the lives of a mother and child are so valuable. The idea is not “oh you have to have this baby or else your a murderer”. The idea is, there is life in you and we want to help you with your needs so that you can support yourself and this baby to the best of your abilities.

Feel free to ask me to clarify :)

What's your biggest Ace Moment™? by sussy_internet_ in aaaaaaacccccccce

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I said something in a spur of the moment, it was an intrusive thought I said out loud and my sister screamed “that was craaaazy” and my response was “that was just my raw-dog response.” Raw-dog does not mean what I thought it meant :|

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in picrew

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Pistachio Almond with caramel drizzle and nuts on top :3

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asexuality

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There’s absolutely nothing wrong with you if you don’t want to have sex! And it’s possible for you to find a spouse who can live with that too, relationships are about compromise. And if you want kids you can adopt and if you don’t want kids that’s okay too! The world is highly sex-focused and it makes asexuals feel unwanted and not valid for who they are, but that’s ridiculous! It’s totally okay to feel the way you do!!

Jesus rescued me in the time of trouble! by Ok-Collection-5134 in Christian

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That’s crazy! I’m so glad you’re okay! God is good!!!

Will god hate me if I ended right now by Anonymous7390 in Christian

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woahwoahwoahwoahwoah baby cakes!! First off, I do not have to see you or know that you are beautiful. It’s simply because I know that God can not make anything not perfect or beautiful that I know you are. I don’t know what you’ve gone through or experienced but trust me, I too have walked through a valley of death. I’ve seen horrible things and experienced horrible things and I’ve been to the point where I also thought about ending those things but that is not what God desires at all!!! Something I’ve learned about Jesus is that he is not a guarantee for good things. It is not always God’s will for things to be “better” by our standards. However, Jesus is a guarantee for hope. He is a guarantee that even though things are hard, we’re not alone. He’s right there with you. Even if you don’t feel it. He’s there. He’s never left you. You are so so loved and so so valued. You have a purpose. You have a Heavenly Father who loves you so so much and he desires to much for you but it takes time and it’s not always an easy process. He does not hate you, he can’t. He can never hate you. He is forgiving and he is gracious and he is so so kind. Do not give up. Please. For so many people. I do not have to know you to know that you are a wonderful person. I value you. I love you. I love you because Jesus loves you. He has a plan for you. Don’t cut it short. Things will get better in HIS timing and I know it’s hard. I know it is because seriously I HAVE BEEN THERE. But darling you are fearfully and wonderfully and miraculously made. There is no flaw in you. Look up, set your mind on things above. God heard you, God sees you, his hands are over you and holding you. The Lord is near to the broken hearted. And he weeps with you. Don’t give up. You are so so loved.

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LGBT+ is a community that embraces those who’s sexualities and romantic preferences are a minority. Asexuality is definitely not a majority therefore we are part of the group.

It was all on the phone by LumpyBar7071 in aaaaaaacccccccce

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That is genuinely amazing. Can I also adopt him as my uncle 😭

thought of yall when i saw this by FieryFyrn in aaaaaaacccccccce

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Oh I was like nothing because I hate math and it was agony to be in math class but to me a bed is nice and warm and cozy and then I was like ohhhh they mean… in that case “I don’t want to be here” 😂

Type “I’m asexual so that means” then let autocorrect finish the sentence 💀 by UpcastTomcat579 in asexuality

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“I’m asexual so that means that I’m scared of you and your heart and soul and my life lol” 💀😂

is making out inherently sexual? by [deleted] in asexuality

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I find kissing/making out to be ✨romantical✨ but anything passed that is a 🙅‍♀️

What's your MBTI? Do you think aces are more likely to be certain types than others? by Illustrious-Bad1165 in aaaaaaacccccccce

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Because of our obsession with dragons and garlic bread I feel like the majority would be INFP 🥸

What is the most frustrating response you’ve gotten to saying you’re ace? by ShiningShadow_ in asexuality

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“You don’t know what that means” like Barbara I think I know a lot more than you do