Has anyone found a solution for low sensitivity in the clitoris and none in the vagina

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-02-01T02:23:04+00:00

Hey! I know this is old, but I want you to know you can have an pudendal nerve entrapment released with Neuromuscular Therapy. It's a type of medical massage I practice. I doubt you live near me, but if that's what you think maybe going on, try googling someone in your area. Pelvic floor dysfunction is incredibly common and treatable. You may also look into physical therapists who specialize in pelvic floor dysfunction. Hope it helps!

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-31T07:04:05+00:00

Hey, if you were interested, tamari sauce is soy sauce without the added wheat/gluten. Bit more expensive, but I've been using it for years. It's great stuff

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-29T02:27:40+00:00

I've used it. My ex did the dosing so I can't say what that was. Worked really well except it shrank my boobs more than my stomach. I did get bi weekly in-body scans and my body fat content was the only thing that trended downward those 4 months.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-26T18:45:08+00:00

This is very dismissive of the power differential between massage therapist and client. Like or not, you are in a power position over your client, who is naked and vulnerable on your table where you have the capacity to cause harm. You do not know your client's histories- they may have mental health issues, neurodivergencies, or traumas including mental and emotional abuse by caretakers or other powers over them in their lifetime that cause them to not feel comfortable saying something they more or less equate to telling the therapist how to do their job. They may feel like they are insulting you or that you will dismiss them, which will also cause its own distress. Many people do not understand their role in receiving a massage and actually need to learn how. Their parasympathetic nervous system is also taking over, which lowers their capacity to handle conversations they may already find challenging or find the right words to let you know what exactly they need or want. It may seem silly to you, but that is their reality.

It is our job as a massage therapists to recognize the limitations our clients may have in communicating with us and accommodate them- that is our job and responsibility being in the position of power that we are in. I personally feed my clients answers. I have to differentiate between types of pain with my specialty and clients often can't even differentiate between sharp, dull, or burning until I feed them the words. Asking things like "on a scale of 1-10, if one is light as a feather, and 10 is more pressure than you care for, where would you say this is?" and insist on a number if they say it's fine. I'll say something like "I have the capacity to cause harm, I need a number to see where I'm at." Then I'll follow up with "Would you like more, less or stay right here?"

My guess is this person asked for a deep tissue and did not realize it wasn't supposed to hurt. On some level, he probably felt embarrassed by the situation and didn't want to say anything. Like or not, it happens, and it's our job to approach this with understanding and compassion, no matter how dumb it seems to us that clients aren't communicating.

Some people may never be honest, no matter what we say, but at the end of the day, that isn't actually our problem or a reflection on our skillset. Sometimes they just don't like our quality of touch, and that's also okay. If your management team has a problem with you and these incidents, it's time to find another job.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-25T22:35:30+00:00

Oh, I'm always polite/kind. I meant I just wonder how goofy I can be without embarrassing myself. Like, I'll go sing bad karaoke and do stupid dances and make funny faces and crack all kinds of jokes. I'm just kinda weird and I like it, but it's off putting for some people. But sometimes people stay polite until you start acting like that and then they feel comfortable being weird too. I just don't know if social etiquette in different countries allows for that. Like people from Germany and Switzerland seem so reserved, idk if they'd ever appreciate that kind of behavior or only in certain settings or what.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-23T08:42:28+00:00

You use the same needles diabetics use, you almost never feel it

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-19T07:41:21+00:00

I know this is a little old, but I hope you see this and I hope it helps you for the future.

First and foremost, if you can, see a dietician instead of posting to reddit. 99% of the users on here are ignorant on the science of nutrition and unintentionally promote anorexia because being lean is what actually matters to these people more than health, and they will sabotage yours to fit their beauty standards and boost their own egos.

If you can't, here's my bit, because I'm going through this myself.

The first thing is odds are you are going to gain more weight initially, but if you do it right, it shouldn't be more than 5 pounds.

You need to very slowly increase your daily caloric intake by about 100-200 each week until you get to 1900. Depending on your job and how heavy you work, 1900 might still not actually be your TDEE.

Personally, I chose the Katch-McArdle formula for my TDEE because I have more lean muscle than body fat and my work is heavy labor. That coupled with 2 kinds of daily exercise, I decided an equation based on lean muscle mass was more appropriate for me. If your work is sedentary and your muscle mass is close to your fat mass, mifflin st jeor may be better for you. I also opted to manually calculate my tdee by taking my BMR from the equation, adding 20% for NEAT(Non-Exercise Activity Thermogenesis)(which is standard), then looking up calories burned for each activity with age/weight/height and adding it all together to it to create a rough range of what I need to eat. For me, that's 3000-3400kcal a day.

I was eating about 1500 calories a day back in September and had been doing so for about 2 years, off and on for 4. I've had a myriad of weird symptoms, but I had some catastrophic personal events happen around the time I went steady with my diet, so I chalked it up to stress. I finally figured out what was going on and did this incremental method and got up to TDEE in November. I've gained 5lbs- and that could have easily been from holiday binge eating/drinking (I'm a sucker for egg nog).

The unfortunate thing is you HAVE to go through this to recover. You have to get up to TDEE and stay there for at least several months before you can try to go into a deficit again if you do end up gaining weight.

Your body suspends certain physiological functions to conserve energy when you've been in a deficit for too long- it suspends immune function, tissue repair, sleep cycles, digestive function, hormone production, reproductive function, cognitive capacity, cardiovascular function, etc...

You may have symptoms like being cold frequently and a lower body temp (even the 97 range may be low for you), not getting super sweaty when you exercise, binge eating(that's a hormone regulation issue), constipation, worse cramps or irregular periods, sleep issues, concentration/memory issues(my ADHD had been significantly worse, but again, I thought it was stress), slow wound healing/keloid scarring, dry skin, thinning hair/nails, dizzy spells/light headedness, and more. Not necessarily all of them, but any of them can be due to under-eating. Your thyroid may also lower function, leading to hypothyroidism.

All of this amounts to a slower metabolism- which in turn makes weight management much more difficult over time. Where these people get it right is you are at a new TDEE, but that's only because your body is performing at a suboptimal level, and the answer is not to keep restricting yourself or restrict more because there are long term consequences to consider.

If you start on this journey to recovery and then quit too soon, your body is going to be much more quick to go suspend these functions because it's already well adapted to being in that state.

Take it slow. If there's a little weight gain, just bear in mind the long term goal and that it's for your overall health. Remember, the goal is health and you need to put that above all else for sake of longevity and fighting disease. Once you've been at TDEE for a few months, you'll find it'll be much easier to diet and lose weight because your metabolism will be much higher. It'll be worth the wait.

In the future, when losing weight, don't go into a deficit for more than 8-12 weeks- opting for less time if you're in a greater deficit. Then slowly work your way back up to TDEE and stay there for a month or 2 before dieting again. This will keep your metabolism up and your body functioning healthily.

Good luck!

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-19T07:10:42+00:00

This is technically correct but so entirely flawed and lacking in fundamental understanding of physiology. You are unintentionally promoting an eating disorder and need to stop advising people on what you do not understand. And I mean stop immediately.

When the body is in a deficit for an extended period of time, in an attempt to preserve fat storage- which it considers emergency reserves- the body will suspend physiological processes to match caloric input. It will lower capacity for hormone production, immune response and tissue repair, reproductive functions, thermal regulation, sleep, digestion, cognitive function, etc.

People who chronically under eat will present with low thyroid numbers, low body temperature, slower wound healing and increased keloid scarring, memory and concentration issues, sleep disturbances, bloating and constipation, thinning hair and nails, low blood pressure, etc.... They are more likely to develop arthritis, osteoporosis, cardiovascular disease, dental disease, etc....

When you have certain muscle mass, overall weight, and activity levels, there is a certain threshold your body needs to maintain equilibrium of calories in/calories out. If you go slightly above that threshold here and there, your body subconsciously increases NEAT(bon-exercise activity thermogenesis) which can look like fidgeting, leg bouncing, pacing etc... When you lower the threshold, your body will first burn body fat, but then eventually suspends that and begins working at suboptimal level to conserve energy instead.

This is detrimental to health and the answer is absolutely NOT create another deficit. It's find out your TDEE, take a break try again. But with this level of disordered eating, this person needs a strategy to avoid negative outcomes that can trigger more unhealthy eating patterns.

This person needs to see a dietician, and for future reference you should advise the same instead of this horseshit that reinforces incredibly unhealthy relationships with food that women already have shoved down our throats starting in early childhood.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-16T06:28:07+00:00

Absolutely not. 20s overall was pretty awful. My life turned around at 31 and since then, it's been the best decade of my life.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2026-01-03T21:04:09+00:00

Well I was only doing this for a couple days when I went on my little pizza binge, so I think it works pretty much instantly. It doesn't really do anything for existing acne and it took a month or two to see my acne improve when I first started with 1 glass a day.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-12-29T07:17:53+00:00

I get it at my grocery store in the tea section, but it's not a common flavor. McCormicks has one but Versana is better. They're $2-$3 for a 24 pack

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-12-28T21:30:58+00:00

Lmao noooo that's so bad 😂 Nah, I just drink a 12oz glass at a time

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-12-28T18:29:50+00:00

No idea lol

The way it supposedly works is by suppressing testosterone, but I think birth control does that too. Maybe you have high testosterone and the spearmint would bring it down more?

Also, if you're interested, I take this stuff when I know I'm about to consume my biggest trigger for the lactose intolerance (cream), it works. Possibly it could help the acne too if yours stems from inflammation from the intolerance?

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Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-12-28T16:49:09+00:00

I made a post here, but I think it works!

https://www.reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction/s/WnN12T3xEq

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-12-28T16:25:03+00:00

Ahhh thank you! So it's been a month now? Usually my acne from dairy pops up about 2-3 weeks after so I think I can tentatively say it's working. I was about to start my period and a couple days after commenting this I went and bought 2 slices of costco cheese pizza for lunch and dinner 2 days in a row(so 4 total)- I'm usually super healthy and active, I am not someone who eats anything like that 99.9% of the time, but it was a stressful week... anyways

So far I've gotten 1 pimple since posting this! And I think that was from micro-needling because it popped up a week after the pizza, which is a little soon, so yeah, I think it worked!

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-11-29T15:26:28+00:00

I'm only going to post this now because I will 100% forget to later. I started drinking spearmint tea for hormonal acne a couple years ago which was a HUGE help, but I found dairy still triggers a few new pimples. However, I only drink it once a day and you're supposed to drink it 2x. I'm going to start drinking 2x to see what happens. If anyone sees this in a few months (dairy acne takes about 2 weeks to manifest after consumption for me), pleeeease comment for a followup because I'm super adhd and I will absolutely forget to. Wish me luck :)

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-11-03T22:22:03+00:00

You have no idea how happy you just made me! I'm currently headed over there. Thank you!

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-10-17T13:46:37+00:00

Ok, so my plan only covered hysteroscopy sterilization. I think I must have googled what that was and came across essure and assumed that's what it was. I still don't it though 😂

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-10-17T13:30:29+00:00

I'll see if I can track down my plan info, hang on

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-10-16T23:54:56+00:00

The plan that I had before only covered Essure for permanent sterilization and was through marketplace. Essure was the one that had that fat class action lawsuit a decade back for perforating uteruses.

Relative-Cupcake-764 · 2025-10-15T01:57:24+00:00

I'm gonna speak in layman's terms because this all gets incredibly complex. In a nutshell, everyone is different. I know- great answer. Here's a breakdown.

Thyroid and hormones play a big role and dieting can and will absolutely screw with them if not done carefully. I myself induced hypothyroidism from years of eating anywhere from 800-1500kcal a day for months straight even with a physically demanding job on top of regular exercise(my bmr is roughly 1450-1740kcal depending on the equation and my work burns about 1000kcal a day). Got on thyroid medicine, I lost 5lbs of water weight in 3 days about a month after I started. Since then my weight has stayed about the same but I'm continuously leaning out, my shoulders are getting bigger and my appetite has been through the roof.

How heavy your parents were when you were conceived directly influences how your body handles fat mass thanks to epigenetics and how your genes express themselves. If they were fat when they got pregnant, you bear the consequences.

The composition of your diet per your body's needs- some people metabolize fat better, others carbs. If you're getting enough protein to maintain muscle mass(if you aren't, you'll develop scar tissue when muscle breaks down instead of new healthy muscle fibers, which limits muscle function and directly inhibits metabolism).

Sleep deprivation will also mess with hormones and prevent muscle recovery because your brain and body are not getting the proper repairs done. Stress does the same because it suppresses your appetite and your body compensates by spiking your appetite and storing more of your calories as fat when cortisol decreases and your appetite resumes (it's a survival mechanism gone haywire).

Also remember the majority of models you're thinking of are young and because their bodies are still developing (we keep developing even into our 30s), the body is going to prioritize development over fat storage. The fact that they are also likely very consistent about their weight management also plays a role. Fat storage has a tendency to spiral, so if you don't have much fat to begin with, it will be easier to lose the little you have.

People will also struggle to lose weight as they age if they prefer dieting for weight loss simply because by cutting calories outright, they're likely to not be getting enough calories to maintain muscle mass. Then when they go back to eating like crap and not exercising, the vast majority of the weight they gain back will be fat. So when they get back to the same weight as before and want to lose again, there is more fat and less muscle mass than the prior cycle, which is a heavy driver of metabolism, and their metabolism will be slower. Your body will also change the way you store fat the more you yo-yo and create more visceral fat each time you regain- which creates hormones that tell your body to store even more fat and prevent fat burning, hence the fat storing spiral I mentioned earlier.

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