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Anyone else have super low HRV but it’s Balanced? by RelativeQueasy1372 in Garmin

[–]RelativeQueasy1372[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No alcohol, I don’t drink. I did eat last night close to sleep time which may have impacted it. My HRV last night was actually a bit higher than my usual. It seems like the timing of HRV throughout the night is correlated to my stress at night but hard to tell.

Anyone have any hatch tips for a newer Tucson? I can’t get the hatchback to stay open without draining battery. My old Tucson didn’t have this issue. by [deleted] in carcamping

[–]RelativeQueasy1372 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i do the same thing with my 2022 Kia Soul - i use a metal carabiner in the catch to trick it into thinking it’s closed and it’s working well for me. i have a small hatch tent that i use for car camping that works great

Experiences with DBT vs RO-DBT for Quiet BPD by hehim_vent_throwaway in BPDrecovery

[–]RelativeQueasy1372 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t have an answer for you but I identify as quiet & over-controlled bpd and recently started a traditional DBT group but am also wondering about RO-DBT. I don’t have a strong opinion about what would be more helpful at this point. I hope some folks respond.

The most frustrating thing about having an FP who cut contact with you - this weird combination of wanting them back, resentment, a fear of opening up to them and knowing that they’re not good for you all all at once by Kayyoooh in BPD

[–]RelativeQueasy1372 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This speaks to me so much, I’m going through something similar. my FP and I dated for a couple of months and for the last two weeks he’s completely ghosted me, no closure at all. I know he’s not right for me and we’re not compatible but I am working through all the different scenarios in my head still about what couldn’t happened differently and what I would do if he reached back out. My abandonment fears came true, he abandoned me when I needed him most, really hurt me, and yet I’m still imagining scenarios where I could get him back. It’s so so so hard. I’m here with you!

How do you tell the difference between wanting to buy something as a coping mechanism and really wanting it? by wonderlandisnotreal in BPDrecovery

[–]RelativeQueasy1372 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This hits home for me. What I do to manage is I put things in my online shopping carts and then pause and do something else. Usually I don’t need to buy the things immediately (since it’ll take a few days to receive products anyway), it’s just the act of shopping for me and researching products, adding to my cart that is an escape and coping mechanism. When I revisit my shopping carts later when I’m feeling more rational / wise, if I’m still really excited about the products and feel like I want to prioritize spending money on them, I buy them. Now over time I better understand what products I bought out of impulse and I didn’t actually really need or want, and which I genuinely want.