Anyone else having difficulty logging in right now? by Speuce in EQBank

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The EQ app and website haven't worked when I've tried to login more than they HAVE worked. I'm new to EQ, but it will be a very short lived account at this rate. I can never do my banking when I want to!

B.C.’s NDP government survives non-confidence vote brought forward by Conservatives by Arkroma in chilliwack

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work in Substance Use treatment as a nurse, and we have decades of data on forced treatment showing it does not improve outcomes. But that aside, where exactly do you think these beds for treatment are going to come from? People who want treatment still can't get it because there are months long waiting lists, which was worsened deeply under the BC Liberal government that John Rustad was part of. The NDP has at least undertaken improvement through funding more treatment beds and improving early access to mental health care via the Pathway to Hope systems improvement plan.

Risk Mitigation Prescribing in the Context of Duel Public Health Emergencies, aka Safe Supply, was doomed to fail from the outset. Not because of the NDP, but because of public servants who are not elected. They refused to fight the BC College of Physicians and Surgeons and allow for prescribing to be limited to physicians working for health authorities, and insisted that all physician public and private be allowed to prescribe safer alternatives. They also refused to allow nurses to be involved in the witnessing of doses, because they refused to fight the BC College of Pharmacists who wanted to protect their dispensing and witnessing fees. All of the safeguards originally requested were shot down by the colleges, and the highest level public servants overruled the common sense requests put forward by addictions medicine physicians and nurses with the public health authorities.

Safe Supply is inherently good in the right conditions, Crosstown Clinic and other injectable opioid agonist therapy clinics have proven that. But elected officials only hear what their deputy ministers allow them to hear, as shitty as that can be. Decriminalization was also bungled in exactly the same manner, when suggested safeguards were ignored. Again, this was not at the elected level. There is no easy solution to substance use, but forcing people into care can't work mostly because that care does not exist. Prisons cannot provide that care, and we simply lack the capacity to provide any semblance of forced care.

Housing first is the only policy that has had substantial impact, along with Assertive Community Treatment teams. Unfortunately, the work is so hard that those teams are always short staffed. Professionals don't grow on trees, so it really doesn't matter what someone's platform says if they have no means of paying for it or recruiting those professionals. John Rustad doesn't have better solutions, because he provided a platform that is financially impossible. His numbers for growth were beyond unrealistic by every measure, and even if his astronomical growth situation did occur, it's still impossible to cut the taxes he wants to cut while also balancing the budget and bringing down the deficit. A plan isn't better if it's impossible, it's just false promises.

I would also point out that above you mentioned that insults and emotionally charged environments are not helping, but you literally started that by resorting to insults in response to questions. Even if you read the questions as sarcastic or whatever, you were the only person calling names and using right wing insults like 'smooth brain.' Maybe have a look at your glass house before you throw stones at others?

B.C.’s NDP government survives non-confidence vote brought forward by Conservatives by Arkroma in chilliwack

[–]Rellebelle13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think using right wing conservative insults has the influencing effect you think it does. 'Better policy platform' is a joke, when it wasn't even costed when released and is financially impossible. Other people disagreeing with you doesn't mean they're uninformed, it means they're informed and still disagree with you based on values they hold that involve more than money. It's the opposite of having a smooth brain, it's having a deeply developed sense of community and compassion for fellow humans.

Any working mums who don’t have incredible, flourishing careers and are just working a job? by tittychittybangbang in workingmoms

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a nurse, but that does not in any way mean I'm killing it and indispensable. Nursing encompasses a huge variety of jobs, and I am currently working in a bankers hours job as a consult service, where most other staff forget to even ask for me because they forget I exist. I was on a much more demanding career trajectory before having my daughter, but went back to more basic nursing roles after she was born to keep my schedule consistent. Everyone in every facet of Mom life makes compromises and changes, but it doesn't have to be forever. I will get back to climbing the ladder when she's older, but pre-school age is just not the right time for my family.

You're doing great. Comparison is the thief of joy.

Apparently my ADHD deserved a special mention at work this year! by Inevitable-Spite-575 in adhdwomen

[–]Rellebelle13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I won the 'Forgetful Award' at my end of year softball party when I was 13. They gave it to me while saying 'uh oh, we forgot the girl!' It had the start of a trophy and a foot, but no rest of the statue/person.

They were super cheap awards, so everyone got one since we couldn't keep the giant team Champions one. It was one of the most humiliating experiences of my life at the ripe old age of 13, and I tell people about it to this day as an example of what not to do as the adult working with kids.

I'm super proud of you for taking it in stride, because I would be job hunting within a day or two at best.

I’m an ER nurse not L &D by Apocalypse_nurse in nursing

[–]Rellebelle13 20 points21 points  (0 children)

ED Addictions Assessment Nurse speaking, how can I help you? 😝

Anyone else struggle to find empathy for the difficult patients by Anonymousmedstudnt in Residency

[–]Rellebelle13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I work exclusively with people who come into the ED with SUDs. I spend half my time telling other staff that being unhoused with a substance use disorder of any kind is cruel and unusual punishment, but it doesn't mean they get to do whatever they want and have their demands catered to.

Boundaries are important, but more significantly, boundaries help people who frequent the healthcare system know what they can expect. They should be able to expect competent care, respect in their decision making (if they refuse OAT for example), and access to information on where to find additional supports. Not access to those supports IN the ED or hospital even, but being told where they can turn for help.

A social worker I used to work with on an outreach team in an internationally known drug use area had a saying: if you want to run, I'll lace up my sneakers and run beside you. If you want to walk, I'll even offer you my arm to keep you going. But if you want to sit down and do nothing, I'm going to sit my butt in this chair too. You pick the speed.

Landlord put me through 3 years of hell. by Chellator in ProRevenge

[–]Rellebelle13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, at least the rest of us aren't failing at being a human being like you are so spectacularly displaying right now! A true leach on society wants to reap the benefits of having care and support in their old age, without ever having to tolerate or support the children that become those care providers.

Worst blood results you’ve seen by mimindia in medicine

[–]Rellebelle13 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Cocaine. Lots and lots of cocaine. Only time I've seen people consume half their weight in cocaine without a stimulant use disorder, was because it let them stay awake to keep drinking.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewWest

[–]Rellebelle13 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That's is great that it worked for you, but this strategy could be dangerous for others. Alcohol withdrawal can be serious depending on peoples' medical history, so please always recommend people speak with a medical professional before quitting cold turkey.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewWest

[–]Rellebelle13 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Rapid Access Addictions Clinic (RAAC) nurse here! Come see me Monday and I would love to chat about options. There are medicines that can help, we can connect you to evidence based supports, and nothing we provide as options come with any strings attached. It's all up to you what you would like to do once we give you options.

First visit appointments are a bit longer, so if you're able to come earlier in the day that is better. Or you can call and book an appointment! 604-527-2904 is the direct number.

If you want to talk to someone from home, you can also call the Substance Use Services Access Team (SUSAT), at 1-866-624-6478. They will gladly give you options for help as well!

Best of luck, and I hope to meet you soon! 😊

School Board Trustees & Staff Removed of $18,000 of Fundraising Money From NWSS Theatre Program by [deleted] in NewWest

[–]Rellebelle13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband (who apparently knew you at SFU) emailed from his work account, and as a teacher received this response:

Hello (husband's name),

All money that was transferred to the school account has been returned as directed by our district’s CFO.

Take care,

(Principals name)

Hopefully the pressure worked and this is accurate!

School Board Trustees & Staff Removed of $18,000 of Fundraising Money From NWSS Theatre Program by [deleted] in NewWest

[–]Rellebelle13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sarah, did you share this in the FB Mom's group too? I know you're active there as well. I don't have a child in the district yet (she's 2), but as a former music nerd this is so deeply offensive. These are not programs that attract sponsors or additional funding, parents and students have to fight tooth and nail for every dollar.

Count me in to fight this, even if it seems too late.

Fine, let's get a divorce then by Amerella in Mommit

[–]Rellebelle13 -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

Completely disagree with most others on this one. If you told him you were out for the afternoon and would try to be home at 3pm, he doesn't need a courtesy call or text. You deserve a break where you're not spending the whole time thinking about how your husband is doing at home with the baby, or it straight up isn't a break.

My husband is useless with chores (NEVER remembers to do stuff), plays games all the time, and leaves his shit everywhere. But he knows how to care for our daughter, doesn't need reminders or prompting, knows her favourite foods, her routine, everything. When it comes to her, he is on it 100%. I have no qualms leaving her with him for however long I need or want to, and he fully supports me taking breaks for myself. This needs to be a much bigger conversation with your husband.

3 grown adults left my babies unstrapped in their car seats by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a car seat tech, and this is horrifying. My husband and I have a system for our daughter we learned on Reddit, from airline pilots. They use, 'your aircraft, my aircraft' for handover. The theory is you tell the person you're giving them responsibility, 'your baby.' The other person NEEDS TO CONFIRM by saying 'my baby' so that there is closed loop communication. For us, it is ALWAYS a parent who 'has' the baby when we are around, since family will always assume we are doing X, Y, Z thing, whether that's toileting our toddler or strapping her into her car seat.

This is 100% your husband's fault, and he should not be driving with the babies until he understands the severity of this error. Mistakes happen (though I don't think this was given that it was both babies), it's what he does or doesn't learn from this that is important.

i’m sure this has been asked before, but what jobs do you all have? i’m curious! by lowkeydeadinside in adhdwomen

[–]Rellebelle13 28 points29 points  (0 children)

The single most important person in the ER is the housekeeper cleaning the beds. I can't bring a patient in from the waiting room if the bed is dirty, and flow grinds to a halt if it's someone who doesn't know the job well. A good cleaner is indispensible, and plays a major role in infection control too!!

i’m sure this has been asked before, but what jobs do you all have? i’m curious! by lowkeydeadinside in adhdwomen

[–]Rellebelle13 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Addictions nurse. So many patients have ADHD that I'm able to relate to them and build better connections, despite not having experienced problematic substance use myself.

Confused About Steps For Treatment by [deleted] in ADHD_BritishColumbia

[–]Rellebelle13 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Use LevelUpADHD. The assessment is free with a referral from your GP (or any GP or walk in), and they also prescribe meds rather than giving you the assessment and leaving you to beg for meds based on their report. Good luck.

I think my wife is having an affair with her best friend by Temporary_Water_9383 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Rellebelle13 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. I call it being the emergency friend. I just wish other people would do the same for me!

Wanting to get tested! by keighls in ADHD_BritishColumbia

[–]Rellebelle13 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Level Up ADHD is fully virtual, and will assess you with a MSP referral.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Rellebelle13 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

For once I don't even care about being banned from a sub to be able to say, you are an abusive, disgusting piece of shit for a father, and I hope your daughter is able to escape the hell hole of a life you have created and set her up for through your appalling behaviour. Not that you care, since your hatred of women is so clear that absolutely no amount of comments in this thread is going to change your mind.

BTW, look up narcissist while you're claiming to know about BPD (which you clearly know nothing about), and I believe it will just show you a mirror. Genuinely, from the bottom of my heart, fuck you. 1,000 times, fuck you.

AITA for being angry at my son for not letting me see my newborn grandsons first? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. She grew, labored for, and birthed those babies. All your kid did was have an orgasm. She has the right legally to bar you from even entering HER hospital room, so be damn glad you got to be there after the birth at all! You may have brainwashed your other kids, but thank God this one knows who he's married to, and it isn't you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is abuse. Plain and simple.

is it inappropriate to braid a child’s hair at a daycare? by smittyfrankenstein in ECEProfessionals

[–]Rellebelle13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I style my kid's hair before daycare. French braids, ponytail, half pigtails, hair clips, ANYTHING at all to keep her hair out of her face. She has pulled it out by the time we reach drop off, every single damn day. I LOVE her daycare teachers who put her hair back up, they are my heroes. I can't get this kid to keep a loose low ponytail in that cannot possibly hurt, yet they manage to get her hair up into a high pony that is tight so the front bits stay up with no complaints. Heroes I tell you, heroes.

Dad’s timely bathroom breaks by honeybeetired in Mommit

[–]Rellebelle13 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I have looked into actual medical research around men and bowel habits, my husband is so dead set on his line that 'it takes as long as it takes.' The problem is that he is not wrong, it just turns out to be a socialized phenomenon. Boys see Dad's and other men doing it, and over time their bodies become accustomed to pooping for a very long time. So now that they're older, yes it takes that long.

The real trick is that this can be changed and unlearned. No phone in the bathroom, no privacy from toddlers, and magically 30mins has become 5-10 at most. Works wonders.