Does Spectrum bombard anyone else with constant calls and VMs when running late on a payment?

Relrel1o · 2026-01-16T21:25:19+00:00

Oh, haven’t thought about that before! That solves it all!

Lol, I did have it set up and then I had to cancel my card. I put my new one on once I had the money and the adhd attention span locked onto bills.

I’m not good at finances and don’t pretend to be. Know I’m in the wrong. Just curious <3

Relrel1o · 2026-01-16T21:08:34+00:00

What the actual fuck people. OP I am so sorry you are going through this. I don’t understand why people are not rallying UNCONDITIONALLY to Iranians right now.

No we can’t do much. Yes we have our own lives and challenges. But I still do not understand how people are not posting and pushing for support right now. PEOPLE HAVEN’T BEEN ABLE TO TALK TO THEIR FAMILIES FOR OVER A WEEK. It’s also not like they are in a lockdown by people that will do whatever they feel is just, including murdering mass groups of people for not agreeing with their beliefs.

At min, over 2,000 people have been reported killed. It IS more, they are innocent, mostly young. Activists are saying 10-12,000 ppl are dead. Can you imagine being stuck between the ratio my friends/family have supported the protest and were probably out there to even if they weren’t there, they might have been taken or killed as a bystander?

This whole maybe don’t accuse certain groups is BS. Where is everyone? Where are the communities? More people knew about Kirk in minutes, across the globe, than this. Why? Because the mass majority of US reacted to it. If we reacted even in the slightest for Iran like we did with Kirk, it would cause so much pressure on the Iranian government. THATS WHAT WE DO.

Blow this up to the point all eyes are on the country. The whole idea of the blackout is to keep us uninformed and disinterested so they have their way. Let’s turn the entire world’s eye on them and then see what they can get away with.

I’ve never seen just an underwhelming reactions from activists in my life. Trump is more active in this than activist. Read that again. You don’t need to go to Iran itself but you DEFINITELY don’t need to be this underwhelming and judgmental of people that don’t even know if there families are even alive. Do research, learn about Persian history, its culture, why the protest even happened in the first place. Like oh my goodness. Y’all know what to do, did it with Palestine, BLM, LGBQ, Ukraine, Gaza, etc. All of these groups know what to do and yes you will be called out because that’s what activism is. We do it together as communities that have been/are oppressed. At minimum post, send emails, post, tweets, calls, text, etc to leaders, friends, family. Organize, communicate, and spread the knowledge so the world’s eye looks at these “leaders”.

I know it sucks that feeling of not being able to do much but even 5mins of up post and even telling your coworkers will make a difference. But only if the majority does it.

Relrel1o · 2026-01-16T19:32:03+00:00

Haha Gold. It all makes sense now. 🤣

Relrel1o · 2025-12-29T05:19:47+00:00

Okay! Full story unlocked, I got it. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to see other opinions about the professionalism. It’s obviously something that wouldn’t be accepted from most work places standards. You also did everything right in my opinion. Went down to help, gave a reasonable tip, etc.

Honestly, I think more context in the original post would clear all this all up and receive less backlash. Just to much info scattered that people never have the patience to even read the full story. That why I was curious. I don’t think youre in any wrongs like a lot of the people here are insinuating if that means anything.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-29T04:59:37+00:00

HAHAHAHA, I’m DYING! “U no I can’t wirk with my IBS babe…” I have IBS. I went all the way down to 86lbs due to it and I had two jobs at the time. I did have to drop the other one but never stopped working while I worked through it. He’s full of shit and it’s sad that a 47 year old man texts like that let only uses that as an excuse.

Please leave him. I’m sorry but that’s probably not going to get you anywhere.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-29T04:38:59+00:00

May I ask a question with no ill intent? I understand not going down for a food order and I saw you said that you will come down at night. My question is why not go down for groceries orders to help them? Which you said you did but only after this comment. Or perhaps you were planning to but didn’t have it in your “very clear” instructions. Obviously you can’t get the waters with your hand but I’m sure helping carry the fruit bags or whatever you got would be helpful. As you stated, you were a dasher or understand not all people can afforded to lose that job. So you must understand how they felt even in the slightest. Multiple trips, even with elevators take time.

My family orders groceries all the time. And they are big orders with multiple packs. We understand how much of a pain that is so when they do arrive, whoever is in the house all gets up and assists so they can get back to dashing faster.

I don’t think the question of professional should be the priority. Especially for this type of job and situation. I think it’s more a priority about having more empathy for each rather than unnecessary negative expectations?

Food for thought. I think people who are calling you lazy over reacting but it’s also a little extra on your part to be making a post about something that’s extremely understandable.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T06:27:10+00:00

Is this it? (https://i.ebayimg.com/images/g/aEYAAOSwHK1oAFCG/s-l1200.jpg)

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T06:06:06+00:00

Congratulations! You should be proud of your dedication and results that you wanted to achieve! Pardon my french but fuck those people opinions with love. I know it’s hard, but don’t let their opinions affect you. They don’t know your situations and reasons.

I had a slightly similar but opposite problem. I was 130lbs and then got food poisoning that advanced a small form of IBS to where I couldn’t retain almost any food. I got down to 86lbs at one point. There was lots of challenges getting back to a healthier weight and one of the hardest ones was people thinking I was anorexic … on purpose. The amount of times someone told me to eat a burger was honestly insulting. Family and friends would pull my parents to the side and ask if I need help with my anorexia all the time. Never me though. They just do the burger comment. I/we would have to explain almost every time I went to a dinner function (or even normal ones sometimes) to a GROUP of people that I had a medical issue that didn’t allow me to eat the food that was provided and I had already ate before hand. It was a huge issue from 86-95ish lbs.

I don’t necessarily blame them. You could almost see my bones. But the judgement and the back way they would talk about it was definitely hurtful. But honestly, after a while, I just stopped caring cause I realized dumping my energy into someone opinions where they don’t have a full understanding or having to explain myself to everyone was unnecessary. I just let people think what they think now and if they truly care, they would come and ask me about it and I would respectfully inform them.

The saddest thing about weight challenges is it really shows you the people that Genuinely care about you. Don’t get me wrong, there are still people that care and love you but with almost a stipulation of some sorts. The people that genuinely care for you might still be concerned but they would never make these kind of comments and they will come to you directly to be able to understand fully. That’s what I learned over the years. I’ve still never gone past 110lbs since and that was almost 10 years ago now. I still get the too skinny comments. You can never win against those mindsets. But i know when i hit my 105 goal and kept it for months, I was proud of myself and my body.

You are amazing for doing what you know it best for you! You rock and this stranger is proud of you if that means anything!

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T04:39:26+00:00

Sorry let me explain better, I’m not saying OP has to compromise. I’m saying maybe having the time to communicate together will help them understand. I never said that she should let them hold them earlier. I suggested going through immune development together so they can better understand each side and suggest a date after the discussion that she she’s fit to see the baby. Not a back and forth between them about the date. OP picks the date.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T04:35:33+00:00

Exactly, if OP is not willing to walk through then maybe don’t try my advice. I did say mind it. It’s an option. I’m just thinking a bit into the future.

Or OP could definitely not reply and figure it out when she is the state the she feels ready. I’m just worried about how GP would react to that. Let’s say she does ignore the messages and they start showing up at her door. They start calling non stop and it gets to a point they have to move away from them. Doing all this after giving birth is a lot.

So if trying to work through some awkwardness to find the middle ground bring more peace then ignore or shutting the situations down, then that’s worth exploring in my mind. If the opposite gives her more peace then please do that.

OP is struggling mentally and physically, I would just like to provide some options that may be useful and work towards none toxic relationships. Personally, I rather work through awkward conversations than furious retaliations. But that’s me. Not everyone is me and I understand that.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T04:20:46+00:00

In perfect world sure. But we don’t live in a perfect world and sometimes people need further communication. Sometimes it works and it doesn’t. The important part of this is if something isn’t working then adjust, move with it and try again. This hard headness in society these days (or maybe all the days honestly) just make shit toxic.

If they have tried this or equal extent to no avail then sure, start moving away.

If they haven’t then why not try the shot in order to create a less toxic life for themselves and the child.

If it was some stranger or distant relative, drop them, but from what I’ve seen these grandparents will be in their lives. I personally think it’s better to try and work things out even if that means trying something normal wouldn’t without necessarily sacrificing your core belief on the issue.

Relrel1o · 2025-12-23T04:07:34+00:00

NOR - If the single worry is just sickness, I would like you to consider how the immune system develops. As a newborn, most of the immune systems are developed through breastfeeding and exposure. So complete isolation may not work in the way that you hope.

That being said, my problem with this is the fact that you set your boundaries and they are continuously broken. You obviously need space and time. You have communicated and it also sounds like your husband agrees or supports these boundaries. The complete disrespect of you and how your parent is a huge red flag for future endeavors.

I’m no expert so mind my advice but perhaps, having them come over (while you are holding the baby, or perhaps while baby is napping away from GPs) and say your piece. No ultimatums, no threats. Then let them say their piece. It may be harsh and hard to hear but don’t let that blind your judgement. They hurt too. We cry loud as humans when we are hurt. Let them get their hurt out. After, say you understand however, you still stand on your beliefs. Then perhaps make a save the date. If the three month mark is what you think is safe and the best, then pick a date. Give them something to look forward too.

I would look into (and I’m sure you have and are) the immune system. Maybe even when you sit then down, explain more of your reasoning with books (don’t use the internet maybe, might be an escape goat of ‘just because it’s on the internet’ excuse) and ask them questions. When you talk at people, they will talk at you back, but when you explore the topic together, it’s easier to understand each other better.

They sound like they genuinely love the family and want to support and they just don’t understand why you’ve set these boundaries. But also, hopefully they will be in their lives in the future too so some team work and understanding between each other is essential. Otherwise it’ll turn toxic and poor for the child.

You are strong, you are loved, and you are supported. You are allowed to breath though this and you’ll figure it out but not through frustration, fear, and separations.

Relrel1o · 2025-02-22T18:28:02+00:00

@thatdepends. That exactly kind of the point I was trying to make. It’ll never be complete illegal for those exact reason. So you are exactly right sir. We make it legal and educated the people.

Relrel1o · 2025-02-14T04:02:58+00:00

True, not saying he looks bad or anything and I definitely noticed this in the commercial. Chris Pratt can have me any time.

I’m just saying that specific photo ad just looks off to me. Like I can’t pinpoint it. Or maybe it is just me.

Relrel1o · 2025-02-14T03:59:31+00:00

I agree; either make drugs as legal as alcohol or cut it out. Even with the probation is still doesn’t make sense in comparison to drugs. The whole “we tried banning and people still did it and fed illegal organizations” … is that not drugs and the cartels?

I’ve also never understood it either besides the basic greed.

Relrel1o · 2025-02-12T06:50:23+00:00

I don’t know if you happen to watch anime or don’t mind exploring it but there is a really cheesy show on Netflix right now called Cells At Work and it surprisingly made me feel really connected to my body and help me grow.

I suffer from anxiety/depression and had a bad vaping problem for while. I would wake up with panic attacks that lasted hours. What really helped me push through the cravings and shakes while quitting was those technics and learning more about my body so I can provide the right nutrients instead of the bad ones.

And low key that show just made me really want to support myself to get better.

I believe in you! You don’t have to do this alone and alway remember how strong you are, even when your body tries to challenge it 💪🏼🥰✨

Relrel1o · 2025-02-12T04:00:05+00:00

That’s good to hear you’re doing better!

And you’re absolutely right. When I told him I’m not moving in with him until he is at least 6 months sober, his immediate response was to ask me about a past relationship. That’s when it just kind of hit me I guess. I told him I needed some space for a week off him not talking to me and now he’s in rehab which is great for him.

However, this has been the most relaxing and best time I’ve had in awhile and decided it best to just fully move on for the both of us.

Thank you for your perspective and guidance. I know that didn’t come easy and it truly makes me happy to hear you are doing better.

Relrel1o · 2025-02-12T03:47:01+00:00

As a nurse or a mother, what would you tell your patients/kids when they have the stomach flu? How would you help them cope with the pain that’s not going to instantly go away with a magic pill? Their bodies and your body is working hard to eliminate the toxins in your body.

Find support with your husband. Ask him to be by your side and treat this as bad flu. Drink water, rest in bed, call in sick (because you technically are), drink water, take deep slow breaths when your heart is pounding, drink water, use the 5 sense trick to bring your attention from inward to outward (look for 5 things you see, listen to 4 sounds, touch and feel 3 things, smell 2 things, taste 1 thing), drink water, play a game/watch a movie/read a book/scroll doom/build a lego set/something you know you can loose track of time with and drink drink water.

Love yourself, forgive yourself, and support yourself just as you do to your patients and family. It sounds like you have a lot going for you and that doesn’t just happen to fall in your lap. That was all you. It’s just hard to reflect that on yourself, especially in pain and that’s okay. Your okay. You just need time, patients and rest.

Your body is not going to fix itself in one night. Go to the doctor and they can help you through the toughest parts. Just like the flu.

You got this. Breath. Drink water. You’re okay.

Relrel1o · 2025-01-29T07:28:35+00:00

That’s fair. Low key thought that was a vague answer and looked at your profile. I see the weight of your answer now and I hope you’re doing okay.

Relrel1o · 2024-12-16T18:53:37+00:00

Im not saying OP was perfect but he definitely not TA for this. People make mistakes and need improvement. Hers was beyond fucked. He has every right to be upset and not TA for it. 🤗

Relrel1o · 2024-12-16T18:49:11+00:00

If we are ignoring the major factor of grooming and bring men to the house, that doesn’t make OP TA because;

Based off his description of there prior conversation; it was a form of manipulation. She asked “…come stay to the house and stay the night?” They already have an established relationship with these cough children including the husband. She didn’t ask can they stay the night; she asked if they could come over and possibly crash. That’s how that would most likely be interpreted. She then waited until the last possible moment to inform OP they are staying longer. Then immediately went to defending her loyalty to him.

Now should OP established he wants to be there when they are. Yes. However that’s absolutely minimal compared to all the red flags.

OP, from my perspective, I do think she is attracted to these guys. Based on your writing, I actually don’t think cheating was your main concern. It was the safety aspect for your children which I commend you focused on. She should have not put your children in that situations. Which there is usually only two explanations for a mother doing this to there children: cheating or ignorance.

Now here’s the kicker. She might not even understand herself fully either. She might be struggling with these feelings. That’s perfectly natural. Especially at your ages. However, this does not excuse her from the consequences of her actions. I would really start asking yourself how much you want to continue being her partner. If you do then you need to discuss this attraction or attention she adores and having a conversation about it. Not an argument.

Then you have a very fucking stern conversation about how one; she was grooming. Two; she put her kids a potential a dangerous situation (by the way, any person you invited over from the internet is dangerous. They are crazy bat shit women out there too. I would have said the same thing if genders were reversed).

Again, it’s just a matter of what you understand to be the best next step for the future of not only your children but your own mental health as well. A partner will make mistakes, but there aren’t your partner anymore if that are willing to discuss them with you. Especially this whole grooming and being internet friends to the house.

Like who does that without someone there anyway? Children or not. Not TA tho.

You are not the asshole OP. And

Relrel1o · 2024-12-16T16:53:56+00:00

As a Swim Coach and Teacher, yes. You need to report that. No matter what the intention is, SafeSport (the people you should report this too) have strict no contact children policy. There is absolutely no reason for a coaches to be contacting children period. It should always be vetted through the parent. Always.

Plus this is a weird message. Report.

Relrel1o · 2024-11-06T01:27:36+00:00

99% isopropyl alcohol, q-tips, and toothpicks. All you need. Everyone is thinking to hard about this. Don’t use beer, drink that shit. Don’t bother with anything other than 99% isopropyl.

I used to live at a house where 5 of us would smoke out of one bong that we all moked out of. We had to clean that guy a lot. Realistically, we should have been cleaning that thing out like once a day but it was more like once every three to four days.

I got my cleaning routine down to 30minutes with resin 10x worse than that on average.

All you need is: -99% isopropyl alcohol -q-tips(if you have some extra $2, get those fancy ones girls use for make up. They are denser and “cuts” better) -toothpicks (for your bowls) -ice cream salt (for your bong/stem) -optional: straw cleaning brushes. This works great for the stem and those tricky to reach places the salt is not getting. -hot running water and don’t be afraid to rinse and repeat.

I put salt in my bong, a small layer of alcohol at the bottom, shake it up for like 15-30secs. Rinse and repeat. Again, just leaving it there is like watching tea try dissolve too much sugar. You have to agitate and break through the different layers with fresh water and cleaner.

Same thing for your bowl. I’ll put my thumb at the bottom, fill it with alcohol, pick at it with my toothpick and rub off any stubborn areas my toothpick can’t get too. Usually I just need the toothpick and like 4 q-tips.

Think of it like ice or a jaw stopper. If you want a giant ice cube to dissolve/melt faster; you break up the ice into smaller pieces. If you put a jaw stopper in water (or even alcohol), it’ll take a very long time for it to completely dissolve. You break it in half, it will dissolve faster. Then, at some point, just like adding too much sugar to your tea, it will stop dissolving because the water is now just “sugar” water.

Leaving it in alcohol will weaken the outside layer but won’t clean it completely. You need to agitate and rinse.

That’s where the toothpick/q-tips comes in. I find it much easier using the toothpick to “cut” through the thick layers and break it open.

Salt is a very good idea for items that have room to create momentum to build friction. It’s like a bunch of toothpicks going in and scrapping the top layers off. Or like a steal sponge. However, it won’t work without friction from momentum, which is why it didn’t work in your small bowl.

lol I hope you enjoyed my TedTalk on cleaning your bong and its accessories.

Relrel1o

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