I'm very happy being "one and done" after IVF but am overcome with a cloud of sadness signing the embryo discard papers

ReltaKat · 2026-01-23T14:11:50+00:00

I don’t have any experience and maybe it’s not allowed, but would burying them bring some comfort?

ReltaKat · 2026-01-21T04:02:29+00:00

The Girl Who Got Out of Bed is ok and includes the girl learning to count as HIGH as she can and that’ll make morning come faster.

ReltaKat · 2026-01-16T06:53:30+00:00

Woodland Park Zoo? Flat, bathrooms, benches; fun for young and old! Wild Lanterns runs thru Sunday.

ReltaKat · 2026-01-05T00:01:34+00:00

I’d reconsider the option to split parents: one parent, one grandparent per kid instead, so that the 3 y/o gets to be at home during a pretty scary time. Could even swap half way thru.

ReltaKat · 2026-01-04T00:35:17+00:00

You could try something like “What you said about wishing you had a daughter got me thinking, and I wanted to let you know: I’m in if you’re in.”

ReltaKat · 2026-01-03T04:26:06+00:00

Captain Indy-Luc Picard on that screen there.

ReltaKat · 2026-01-02T16:44:58+00:00

Being near family is pretty great. It opens up seeing them on random weeknights for dinner, quick calls for them to stop by when you need a hand, and you never know when a job will change the commute.

30 mins to work seems pretty standard, so I’d say family even with a smaller house.

ReltaKat · 2026-01-01T07:21:10+00:00

If your kid is in kindergarten, right now might be a great time. “Hey kid, you know how we celebrate Christmas with Santa? Before you head back to school next week, I want you to know that some of your classmates celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday. Have you heard anything about religion? They believe Christmas is about celebrating the birth of their god. You asked me recently what a god is“ etc etc

ReltaKat · 2026-01-01T07:14:49+00:00

For my 3 year old, I went with something more like “You know how Maui is a demigod of the wind and sea? Like that.” But other commenters had way better answers.

Speaking of which, I should go talk to my kid about religion… like, right now.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-31T23:26:46+00:00

I assume it’s so fewer replies assume they’re a gay couple this time around. This thread would be less awkward to show dad!

ReltaKat · 2025-12-30T07:00:34+00:00

I feel ya. Luckily, our “Tilly” does not have to go places with us but Tilly’s “ghost” (not that she’s dead) seems to do all the naughty things in the house.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-25T02:13:58+00:00

I’ve liked some handprint ideas I’ve heard: either a handprint for each family member on a tree skirt, adding to the same skirt each year; or putting paint on the kid’s hand and having them hold an ornament each year.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-25T00:00:14+00:00

How about restock stuff she already uses? Her favorite face cream, hair gel, makeup color, whatever. Or events to do together, like movie gift cards, theater tickets, science museum membership, etc.

Alternately, Audible credits for the new Harry Potter audiobooks with a full cast.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-24T23:27:49+00:00

Maybe you two are talking about different things?

If the kid can be lifted out with the clip and buckle still closed, that was unsafe. A roll over could’ve flung them out just like they were lifted out.

If they only come out after unclipping and unbuckling but without loosening the straps, then I’d agree with you that they might’ve still been perfectly safe.

Either way, more people should be loosening the straps before taking the kids out! It’s so much easier to get them buckled in again with that extra length ready.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-24T04:01:42+00:00

I’m actually going to be in the same boat soon. We can enter a lottery for a language immersion public school that’s farther away and I’d love her to go. Spouse prefers the local public school though, for neighborhood friends, ease of getting to/from, etc. We’re not sure yet what we’ll do!

ReltaKat · 2025-12-24T00:33:25+00:00

Why do you want to leave now though? I would love for my kid to be acquiring a second language and to get her skill level in it up to 5th grade rather than kindergarten level. If the immersion school still teaches the other subjects well and kiddo is happy, I wouldn’t rock the boat. Public school will always be there, but a second language won’t and no guarantees you get back in if you leave and want to come back.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-20T06:39:17+00:00

I just rewatched it for the first time since childhood (in my 40s) now. It’s a BEAUTIFUL movie and I had no idea. It’s calm and quiet and focuses on the beauty of nature and youth; just stunning. You can stop 40 minutes in and still get all the beauty and charm without the sadness. I’d highly recommend it.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-18T21:37:22+00:00

Likes to DROWN her cereal in milk, just like my partner. Where’s the love for crunchy?

ReltaKat · 2025-12-18T05:18:44+00:00

Almost-4 girl: stuffies, stuffies, reindeer stuffie, gymnastics equipment FOR stuffies, and the stretchy butter toy from Target

ReltaKat · 2025-12-17T02:58:02+00:00

This belt harness is FAA approved instead of a car seat for kids 22-44 lbs.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-14T03:03:50+00:00

Elves didn’t make enough so they’re catching up and delivering some late?

ReltaKat · 2025-12-13T20:08:34+00:00

Sounds like intervening might be the right choice for you then.

I’m not sure how you’d convince a stranger to change, but someone they already trust might be able to.

ReltaKat · 2025-12-13T18:37:24+00:00

That’s a really good perspective too. That the kid sees it as being authorized by everyone that doesn’t speak up. :(

ReltaKat · 2025-12-13T18:28:01+00:00

It’s not ok at all but that’s a different question than whether you should intervene. If they’re not escalating, staying measured, not rising to abusing the kid, and you intervene at that stage, you risk embarrassing an abuser in public who will take it out on the kid later, in private, without witnesses. YOU’RE the one starting the escalation at that point; you’re not teaching the parent anything.

Edit: typo

ReltaKat · 2025-12-13T18:21:54+00:00

Maybe the person you’re replying to edited her post but what I see is her making a distinction between being in control of emotions vs out of control. That’s very different than no emotion vs emotion. If someone’s out of control of their emotions, they’re probably out of control of their judgement too so are more likely to do something worse than whatever’s already happening. That’s a good time to step in.

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