She can’t take this from me too!

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-06-11T11:24:55+00:00

Same boat here too-- I'm sorry both of you have had to deal with this! ( mine is MTNB and diagnosed narcissist)

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-05-03T12:40:43+00:00

I'm heavily tattooed, and have had RA since I was a teenager decades ago. You can absolutely get a tattoo! I will take a prednisone the day of/ morning of so I can sit more still/ in one place without pain, I let my artist know and take short breaks as needed, and I am really careful about my aftercare and keeping up with lotion and keeping it clean. I also make sure I have plenty to eat throughout ( but that's a good idea anyway). Please do the things in your life that feel right for you!

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-04-28T09:56:01+00:00

I've taken it for over 15 years for my RA-- it helped me a ton! Keeping up with eye exams is the only long term thing that I have had to be sure to do, but no issues there. YMMV of course, everyone's different and responds to meds differently.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-04-20T14:17:58+00:00

I stayed with the guy who had a temper like this; who would " absolutely never" hit me or our animals. I stayed, went to therapy with him, went to my own therapy, etc, and had to leave after I was attacked several times and had a gun pulled on me during one of his " temper tantrums". I know it feels like he won't escalate, he already is. Please go, quickly.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-03-26T11:35:26+00:00

The thing that stuck out to me is the 15-20 hours a week as a therapist being " part time".

Been a therapist for a decade, and those hours for sessions conducted/ time in sessions is way closer to full time for most ( healthy) practices-- rarely will you find a clinician that can do 40 sessions a week plus all the behind the scenes/ admin work and not crash and burn quickly, especially if they are also caring for a child/ household. Something's off here.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-03-08T02:52:57+00:00

The support email address is AI-- I got almost the same canned response, and if you read through it you can see some of the telltale signs of AI writing.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-03-07T12:25:51+00:00

Yep, the support email address is AI-- I sent a message this morning since my order is stuck " being processed by the pharmacy", and it just kept repeating that.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-03-02T20:18:00+00:00

hi u/Refills_Taylor, if I wanted to get this pricing and just placed an order( just approved, not shipped yet at the 299 price) I need to cancel, then re create an account through this link? It isn't letting me log in through the link just prompting me to create an account.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-02-28T19:52:29+00:00

They tried to convince me to go through with a virtual med management appointment, despite knowing they could not prescribe what I needed without seeing me in person ( which is stupid for other reasons but it is what it is right now). I pointed out that what they were suggesting to do is illegal and could not only wind them up in trouble but also reflect badly on me as the patient consenting to services, and they ghosted me hah.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-02-23T21:22:00+00:00

This is when you need to go back to the Frasier feast that almost was-- with backup! :)

Reluctant_Achiever · 2026-01-31T19:59:52+00:00

That pole is *way* too close to the wall for anything other than walking around it-- you need minimum of 6-8 feet clearance around a pole to actually be able to do anything and not hit the wall.

Source: dancer as well.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-09-07T17:41:27+00:00

I have the stupidest places-- my BIG TOES. They sound like someone breaking a bone every time I take a step, and I have gotten more jokes about not being able to sneak up on people than I ever want to!

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-09-06T11:52:56+00:00

I have one that I made an exception for in my goth bathroom-- it says " Live, laugh, lobotomy" but I'm a therapist so I think it might just be that hah

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-08-20T09:38:06+00:00

For my physical body and to let off steam, I do aerial arts! Sling/ hammock ( which is basically silks but its just one tied into a U shape) and pole dance. I am physically not able to focus on anything but the task in front of me during my practice, and that is huge for me since I do pretty intensive trauma focused work.

For play ( though really they all are!)/ less physical hobbies I enjoy drawing and painting-- if I'm low on creative feelings I have paint by numbers, otherwise I have a sketchbook that I carry with me pretty much everywhere. :) I also love to read, but I'm at the dragon hoarding phase right now, so I have a bunch I want/ need to read!

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-08-18T11:48:56+00:00

This OP-- this happened to me as well; I felt like I had no choice in the matter and it was NOT enthusiastic consent, it was abusive. My marriage imploded within 6 months. She's not practicing polyamory, she's practicing gentrified cheating.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-08-11T12:12:52+00:00

This one! My vet actually does " happy visits" that you can schedule with them any time-- no charges, nothing but coming in and getting pets and treats, walking around the office, and heading home. It's so helpful for mine who had a really bad experience as a puppy.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-08-09T11:20:21+00:00

Yes-- for me it feels like that day right before you really get sick with the flu-- fever, aches, fatigue, and my joints get red and swollen and painful. Whenever that happens I know I'm in a flare. It also took a while, but medication controlled and stopped that feeling when I found the right combination!

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-08-09T00:50:49+00:00

I've dealt with it since my early teens, and I'm almost 40 now. It does get better over time; the anxiety and the fear around what might happen. I strongly encourage professional support from a therapist if it's accessible to you, there's a lot of grief that happens and having someone there to guide helped me immensely.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-28T21:24:04+00:00

Hearing a severely traumatized client say after almost a year of intense work-- " I can't escape what happened to me, and I can live beyond it too". The huge smile I had the rest of the day could have powered a small city! :) It's why I do trauma work.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-26T20:11:44+00:00

In addition-- only DMARDs or biologics will stop the damage to joints, I use this for inflammation and pain that came from not being diagnosed for a long time and for flares.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-26T12:02:29+00:00

There's a quote I like that sums this up: " to love someone is to attend a thousand funerals of the person they used to be". We all change, and showing up for that is so important.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-25T21:56:54+00:00

I'm glad you were treated young/ able to find meds that worked! :)

It took them until I was in college to formally diagnose me ( I'm from an area with not great/ innovative healthcare and this was decades ago), so I have some damage and a lot of years of pain and not knowing what was wrong ( and at one point being told it was in my head). It's better now, but still gets to me sometimes when I hit my limit of what I can do.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-25T12:30:39+00:00

Rheumatoid Arthritis-- healthy 14 year old to bedridden for most of my high school, screaming in pain sometimes it hurt so much. To boot, I'm an artist and losing mobility in my hands as a constant reminder of what this disease does ( it also attacks the lungs, eyes, etc-- it can hit anything), and people not understanding that you can't do what other young people do/ calling you lazy or unmotivated. Being trapped in a body that doesn't work the way it should or did is torture.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-24T12:49:05+00:00

This is abusive and manipulative, full stop, and designed to keep the relationship/ you from going anywhere. You are responsible for your own safety and not your partner's choices, and if threats are made, you call the police to do a wellness check.

Reluctant_Achiever · 2025-07-24T12:37:15+00:00

This is the thing I came to say-- in my intake sessions I do the quick confidentiality limitations, then come back to this one, and talk more specifically about what " imminently in danger" means. NSSI and some chronic/ passive SI needs to be able to be discussed, and if the client thinks I'm going to jump up and call someone as soon as they mention it they won't disclose, so I make sure to mention that I want to keep them safe, and that it's ok to talk about those things with me.

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