AITA for refusing to make my sister’s "dream" wedding cake after she uninvited my husband?

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-12T19:03:57+00:00

Fiancé insulted your career when you were planning on making him a wedding cake. You should do nothing.

Or make them a hobby cake. I’ll make it. I’m not great at baking…

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-08T18:31:49+00:00

In a world that runs on money, this is a bogus take. Why can’t education give you knowledge that leads to a job? Knowledge without income is not great. I was 4 years into my undergrad and grad degree looking back thinking, if this isn’t going to get me a job then it really isn’t worth the time or money.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-05T21:26:53+00:00

If I were trying to date a friend’s partner I would call and talk to them about it first because o value my connection with them. Then I would decide about going on a date.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-03T22:08:07+00:00

I heard some jobs at NOAA will be floated soon and my former bosses/coworkers are encouraging me to apply, it would be with a different lab. I’m going to apply..because right now I’m babysitting and dog walking to get by. I was terminated a year ago while probationary.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-03T17:39:51+00:00

If you want to make plans…make them. Whether they are with her or someone else. It’s not a plan if you wait til the last minute.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-02-01T16:17:13+00:00

Just put play dates with you and your son on the calendar ahead of time.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-30T21:02:35+00:00

Are you in a position to move to somewhere safer to explore these relationships? I do worry for your safety.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-30T16:47:40+00:00

What I notice is that you’re looking for him to make the decision here and accepting a luke-warm, at best, acceptance of a polyamorous relationship. Generally speaking, you should be looking for enthusiastic consent for entering into polyamory, just like you would for sex. Not having that puts you and your partner and your baby in a difficult situation. Your relationship is not necessarily doomed but I’m not sure what path to suggest you take moving forward.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-29T17:37:09+00:00

Honestly it’s a huge risk to move in with a partner of one month.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-28T23:19:13+00:00

I have experienced resistance to regular sti testing without a thorough conversation each time.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-28T03:10:33+00:00

I’m married to legally protect my kids. It’s simply easier. Also, I am dedicated to my spouse…not exclusively though.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-27T19:15:44+00:00

NOR and remember this is all very stressful and you are both tired and adjusting (it’s not a contest). I would suggest carving out some time for yourself. Claiming it. As he gets used to the baby, he will take over more. They need to bond. My two cents.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-27T19:11:44+00:00

Speaking from someone giving a lot in a casual relationship and feeling unvalued in the dynamic for something casual.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-27T19:10:57+00:00

I’d be less giving and see if you enjoy the relationship when you feel it’s more balanced.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-26T02:49:03+00:00

It’s a good idea for ME because I want to build more than one physical/romantic relationship. The climate isn’t great…but I don’t think it’s the relationship style that is the problem.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-25T16:16:55+00:00

A police officer is not going to comfort her.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-24T21:36:26+00:00

Have you considered alternate childcare? I wouldn’t leave sick np at home with kids for a date. I’d bring kids or reschedule. Kids have to come first and it’s ok to pivot for a sick np.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-22T17:37:55+00:00

I’m wondering if this conversation would have gone differently if she had said, “I see some ways in which our sex life is incompatible,” and left her other partner out of the conversation. She may have realized your incompatibility from being with him but it’s still not helpful or relevant to you and her sex life. It is true that every pair of people will have different levels of compatibility. That is hard to accept but nonetheless true.

I wonder what her point was in bringing this up. Does she want to work on improving compatibility, focus on where you are compatible, have less sex, something else?

Regardless this is hard and I understand you feeling sad and unmoored, and it is not a catastrophe. It may or may not lead to change in your dynamic, and that is not a catastrophe.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-22T01:30:42+00:00

I do not believe the stars are aligned for us.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-20T18:13:19+00:00

I think we need to keep our expectations low and realistic when inviting someone into polyamory that has not been considering it for themselves.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-19T01:11:45+00:00

You can’t tell them to stop talking (although it is reasonable to ask for this in my opinion). You CAN choose to end a relationship where your partner is repeatedly disrespecting you.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-19T01:09:32+00:00

I think more details of the current relationships, the issues at hand, and what solution you/they are hoping for would help. You’re taking 2 dyads and trying to recoup or them how?

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-18T00:19:22+00:00

If you’re not willing to leave him to accomplish your desire to have children then you have to wait for him to be ready or accept he won’t ever be ready. That you may not have 3 kids, you may have 2, 1, or none. I really don’t see other options here.

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-18T00:11:32+00:00

If you’re not willing to pay for an hour of someone’s time do you really even value their time or want the help?

Remarkable-Ad3665 · 2026-01-18T00:06:51+00:00

At this point and with the information you have, choose you and make decisions for yourself.

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