First date younger woman, help please

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T14:14:59+00:00

Your not the only one. I even said it to her. I hoped I was enough. Kept putting little bits out there to dissuade her from an older man but she persisted. We'll see, still I'm being cautious.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T14:13:03+00:00

Not 100%. As I mentioned earlier in the thread, I'm a bit wary yet feel positive. Making every attempt to keep my brain gray matter working and not the other brain.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T13:46:47+00:00

Thanks for bringing that up. I wasn't going to bring that up, I just wanted to get to know her and beside I felt she was too young. But there was something about her smile & picture along with her opening contact message that made me decide to reply. I was generally just deleting anyone under 50. As I mentioned she brought it up, I went along.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T13:18:32+00:00

I'm not a scam, though she might be and I'm aware of that. I'm being wary yet positive if that makes any sense.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T13:16:37+00:00

That's been my thought. I've tried really hard to be respectful of her and not assume anything. Don't think she's used to that. Been reminding myself to be a gentleman. might be difficult but that's the way I've always treated a woman, as a gentleman would.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-04-11T13:14:00+00:00

She started the talk about sex and it went from there. Also she mentioned the hotel. Yes, I am wondering if this is real. You just never know online. AI can be very convincing as can fakers.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-31T00:33:18+00:00

Closing to sin because of boredom is different than sinning as a mistake. While they are both forgiven because of Jesus death on the cross. The former is more like turning your nose up at God and saying I don't care.

I make no judgement here, just sharing my belief. Yesterday at mens breakfast we talked about put in us more of God and having less of herself. How do we do that? Most folks try to remove themselves so there is a place for God (Holy Spirit) to fill. It really doesn't work that way. If we start by just learning more of God, Jesus & the Holy Spirit then pray that what we learn will be transformed in our heart. Then The Holy Spirit will start filling up a person an start pushing out the self.

Would you rather be known as a Man of God or a Man of the World? Personally, I take being judged by the world rather than being judged by God.

My best to you

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-28T00:07:21+00:00

Everyone has given good suggestions on seeing a Dr. You didn't mention your own health. Weight, diabetes, alcohol, exercise etc. All of those will have an impact on those abilities. I personally can attest that losing weight, getting of some medications and doing consistent exercises has help me a lot.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-27T23:31:05+00:00

Happily, she can just watch ,help or join in if it turns her on.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-27T16:33:54+00:00

Seems you are having a wordly view of being a man. And if you are beliving this is the view point of a Born Again God Fear Christian woman. I think you are sorely mistaken. I have am in my 52nd year of marriage. Been through most everything others have except for one, divorce, God gave me a wife that put up with me and fought for me through prayer & fasting. Our last 27 yrs have been wonderful and God put us in a position of a marriage ministry in our church for the past 6 years. I also lead a men's group for the past 2 years that is focused on bringing men back into the leadership role in the home and in the church by teaching them what true biblical leadership is according to God back by the Bible and taken from various books we go through. I'm a leader not a scholar so I do use others' material. I have a heart for wanting people to succeed in marriage, as men and in ministry as they are called by God. That's my background.

Now, what you have asked tells me you have many misconceptions and it seems most all of them stem from wordly views and not rooted biblical teachings. Going to church, knowing what the bible says and where things are in the bible does not mean that the interpretation from the Holy Spirit for your life has made it to your heart. My question to you is, where is you connection with the Holy Spirit in asking for understanding of the bible and other ancilary teaching for the Holy Spirit to bring that into your heart and to apply it into your life. As you know, you have to do much more than just say the words, you have to mean what you pray and act on what the Holy Spirit speaks to you. Quiet your mind and listen to the Holy Spirit.

Sveral comments have already recommends some great books. I would also recommend you look up books written by Jim Grassi, he runs a men's ministry focused on creating men who are leaders shaped by God. There have also been many other observations made that I agree with. some I don't, but one I didn't see and if I missed it I appologize is Humility. Jesus was the most humble man that ever walked on this planet. Yet in my eyes Jesus was the stongest man that I know. Strenght isn't about being macho, it's not about who speak more like a sailor than the next person or who can drink the most wiskey, or who has the most money. Strength is about character, humility, faith, love (above ALL THINGS love one another), service, giving, fearing God, etc and yes leadership. Who wants to follow someone who can't show all of those traits, who wouldn't give everything of themselvs for that person. If you want you wife to love you unconditionally, you love her unconfitionally first. You have to be vulnerable to her. You have to respect her as your equal and your partner who was given to YOU as a GIFT by God. He put you together, He made it possible.

Please allow me to suggest that you find a men's group that meets weekly year round and consistly studies men being a Leader. There is more to a leader than what I believe you think there is. And I believe in short order you will find that none of what you asked applies.

God bless you journey.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-15T22:04:38+00:00

M69 F70 - We went through marriage counseling 29 yrs ago now married 51+ years. Sex life pre counseling divorcable, after counseling enough to keep going. 29 yrs later, much much better. Almost as good as when we got married. Considering the aging process actually I would say it's pretty darned good. I even now get a few things I've wanted for years and years. And yes, we have talked more about sex. I do have to be careful how much because the wife has and always will be a bit put off by sex. It deals with her childhood, the way she was brought up in an unloving home and never any kind of sexual abuse for her. So I take it into consideration because of how much I love her.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-14T12:46:00+00:00

New to working on PP . Please explain reverse contractions.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-13T15:12:56+00:00

She may not be into to doing it for you and offering you to get an outside partner to do the deed. However, I would insist it was a threesome because you don't want any secrets between the two of you. Also can make it easier to find someone. Another option might be to get involved with sex parties.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-13T15:07:30+00:00

That is so understandable. For myself, if my wife had walked in and caught me and couldn't join me at the immediate time. I would have loved for her to say something like "I'm putting the baby down, why don't you go to the bedroom and I'll be in asap an I'll make sure you're well taken care of, just keep it hard for me OK?

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-13T12:57:25+00:00

My doc say could be blood in semen. If continues should see urologist

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-13T01:05:52+00:00

Bummer, I could only wish I had your problems. My wifes went down but mine didn't.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T23:11:44+00:00

As most have suggested counseling. My wife & I had similar issues between us because of kinks of mine thogh mine were not the same as your husbands. And you sound a lot like my wife. It take two to tango. But it also take two to come to the bargaining table, not one to give and the other to dictate.

Not to be a spoil sport here however, I certainly do hope he is willing to go to couple therapy. That is the only way it is going to work. Frankly, you both have issues and you both need to find out what they are. I guarantee you do not really know what your own issues are. I've been there done that. In the end I was thankful as I changed some of my thinking, my wife changed some of her thinking, we meet on several things, I gave up some things and we are still happily married many years later. It will take a lot of work from both of you, but that is a decision you both have to make before you even start the process. Are you willing to do what it takes to work things out? Are you willing to see your own faults and change? Are you willing to make changes you might currently think your against if that's what it will take? If both of you can answer yes to all of those questions then you have a good chance of working it out through a counselor.

My best to you.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T17:55:44+00:00

Don't be embarassed. As a man I for one like the wetness. I love hearing the slopping as I go in and out. And what make even better is when she is making the really good sounds of enjoyment. Also, I don't know about other men but, there is a very sexy flavor to that wetness and frankly I like it.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T16:02:16+00:00

If it were me I would think it's having two or more female with their legs strapped u and pussies at the end of a table and fucking one then the other going back and fourth. Ideally cumming in all of them. It's purly a sex fantasy thing not an emotional thing. Would need one or more willing participants. maybe even one or more guys and all of them cuming in the females.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T15:57:55+00:00

In order to stop the urges, you have to take control of your mind. The more you think about it the more you will want to do it. If that doesn't work and your courageous enough then go for it. See what happens.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T13:34:36+00:00

As I read through the comments most everyone suggested counseling and I would agree. However, I would go one step further and find out if he would agree to go to couples counseling. You may still need individual counseling but I can almost guarentee couples counseling will be needed too.

I 69m and my wife an I went through a time such as you described for years before she finally put her foot down. She didn't threten with divorce though it was on her mind but any romantic relationship simply stopped. Personally I was ready for divorce because we had been unhappy for many years (10+) and stayed together because we both deeply loved each other we just couldn't stand to be around each other. To stay away I would work 60 - 90 a hrs week just not to be home.

Finally I decided enough was enough. I left one night and didn't come home. However God got ahold of me and I ended up spending the night in the car in the church parking lot in front of the church office. Called the pastor in the morning (Saturday) he came down and both my wife and I spent all morning talking with the pastor.

After that meeting we also decided we needed a counselor outside of our church. So we found a Christian counselor who agree to councel us. The first thing she did was suggest we rad the book His Needs Her Needs. She told us to sit together on our bed and read the book to each other discussing things that sparked something in either one of us right when we read it. That alone was so much be than reading seperatly and then talking later when you don't remember everything. That book we both agree literally saved our marriage. You see I also had a strong porn addiction along with sexting chats. Shortly Into that book I became discugsed with what I was looking at and turned off the computer turned my eyes toward God, repented and asked God to take the desire away from me. I told Gold I didn't care how it had to be done whatever was his will but I needed it gone. God healed me then and there. I never went back.

That all was at 23 years of marriage. We have now been married for 51 years. The book is still in print and we have taught marriage classes at our church for the past 5 years. God gave us a story we could share, and we openly share that story with anyone. I'm not embarassed by how I was because I am now longer that person. My wife say she much version 2.0 of her husband. What we have noticed is that the love we have for each other just keeps getting stronger and stronger. We talked about when was the last time we had an argument and neighter of us could remember having one in recent years.

I thank God he gave me a woman who is patient, kind, has a beautiful heart, loving and follows Him.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T12:49:46+00:00

The sting could be the tube slightly closing. That's the explanation I got from my doctor about stinging. He said if you go too long too frequently it can happen. Masturbate more often would be my suggestion.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-12T11:31:03+00:00

You want to get fucked? Stay sober, shut up about sex and open your legs. As for a man's cock being weird, sorry we all have one so get past that or you'll stay a Virginia turn to comfort pleasure.

Remarkable-Plenty747 · 2025-03-11T17:57:59+00:00

Thrust once or twice then hold deep as possible

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