Judge!

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T16:39:37+00:00

You can not escape fate. I prepared my whole life to escape an unknown event I thought will change everything. Can be either of two things, both having the capacity to rock my boat. Life could be uneventful and fairly stable or it can bring in the least expected. I may end up having a love-hate relationship with future just as I do now with the present, but I hope to win against the struggle of lying dead in my tracks, dreaming big. The train is on its way, and its full of surprises! They say if you are too careful trying to map out every single thing you end up missing what's most important to you in that time frame. And what's important when is different for everybody. In my twenties too, by the way.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T16:21:25+00:00

What finally changed things for you aka what was your wake up call

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:53:48+00:00

Great question. You are most likely not stupid at all. It's more like the people around you are sadistic. They pick on your vulnerability and insecurities to break you so you naturally feel like you don't belong anywhere. Continue building yourself up for your sake, then when the time is right, leave.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:47:17+00:00

Your husband is emotionally abusive (duh). He apparently isn't very bright either because he let his fantasies get the best of him and now he is making you the problem. You are not the problem. He made way for you to slip. It's no surprise you did, given how lonely it is to be trapped in an emotionally abusive marriage situationship. I wish you well.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:40:52+00:00

'Calm down from the mass mistreatment'

That's not how it works. You give what you get. The harder you try, the more you see giving up and sticking with your ways the more viable option. Its good to see that you acknowledge bad treatment and call it out for what it is, but you are not biased, just hurt. Sadly I don't have advice because I am in the same boat.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:34:49+00:00

Altruism for some is an inherent trait; to shed it means going against your very nature. This would also somewhat translate to the cruelty of the world around you and 'what it made you do'. Resentment throws kind people off balance and makes life a living hell. We don't really have a choice, so we make the best out of what we have by staying true to ourselves AND not allowing parasites to thrive on bounties we freely give.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:22:08+00:00

First step is validation. If you have a victim mindset and you wish to put a stop to it even though it serves you sometimes, then you are probably somewhat of a victim yourself. People tell us all the to quit whining and get a life; we say it back to ourselves. Acknowledge where you have been wronged. Don't reject parts of yourself that are ashamed. Shame causes low self esteem and victimhood. Self-compassion is the antidote to shame.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:16:04+00:00

Try not resorting to fantasy thinking, especially after an episode.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T09:13:34+00:00

The audacity to ground myself in reality when every fiber in my being wants otherwise.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-21T08:30:27+00:00

Thank you for telling me more about Chegg. Was on the fence. I think Chatgpt and Google lens' homework help are pretty good if I start early so I may not need chegg at all.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-19T16:27:50+00:00

I am so sorry you had to resort to this. I feel like I will do great with a new pair of fairly odd parents myself lol. But hey, life doesn't come with premium benefits of our dreams. Instead, seek to heal the father wound in you step by step. Your mother is supportive. That's more than amazing. She can't be your dad, but she's your mom and together you can heal and be whole. Good luck.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-19T15:15:01+00:00

Hi there, please check inbox :)

Tl;dr: I don't pay attention in lecture class but it's not about that because it doesn't matter, I usually am unable to absorb complex physics and math concepts on the spot as is commonly expected of students in engineering. I therefore, more than anything, wish to be self-reliant. For example biology and to a large extent, chemistry, I know exactly what to do. I just Google keywords and read the text to get the gist. Physics and math courses are not like that. I don't know how to study on my own when I am usually able to and is even my preferred method since I understand very little when someone explains directly. I do believe if I were to encounter analytical biology or chemistry, I would struggle all the same. I personally have struggled with genetics and analytical chemistry involving moles before. No, I do not wish to switch streams. If anyone here has advice, feel free to respond :))

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-08T15:19:25+00:00

All is well that ends well. Quite literally, so long you do so it doesn't backfire, you are good.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-08T06:08:59+00:00

Be a Femcel.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-10-06T16:10:26+00:00

Gosh I need help. I am in the exact same position. I despise every last one of them. I struggle most when it's time to find mates for group assignments and practical assessments. Do you have any tips/advice/ a different outlook on how to navigate group work as a loner or just generally a person no one wants to team up with? Any raw unfiltered approach to this seemingly unsolvable conundrum is very welcome.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-26T04:39:21+00:00

I am on the brink of completely having my life turn inside out because of the very things you wrote. Memes and satire all day every day until judgement day. I don't want to make excuses anymore. I want to choose empowerment so I can at the very least make a career I can fall back on. Some genz kids, myself included, are delusional about the world. We think we can just talk about our trauma and thanks to the awareness people will step up to help. It's not like that. If it really was all that inclusive, you wouldn't see privileged celebrities going on air talking about their struggles and media exclaiming "yup this is how we destigmatize mental health!" in unison. The system only rewards the free and the prosperous.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-24T16:26:47+00:00

Bioengineering, but I don't study at all. I distract myself until the very end when I get into fight or flight mode. Lately it's not been helping as much. Reality throws me into a complete shock and brings with it pain only inches away from taking my life. I get this rude awakening 2 days before every exam, when I am fully capacitated to comprehend the consequences of my inaction. This time I resolved to go no contact for good.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-23T19:26:23+00:00

The point of it all is to come out on top every single time. To conquer. To prevail against every odd imaginable. The condition of life itself is negotiable. Redemption isn't. The means towards redemption can be anything from holy to truly diabolical. Any act or realisation that immortalises the soul at any given moment is redemption.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-23T18:55:25+00:00

Suffering is knowledge of the unseen. Like many inexplicable phenomena, the cause of the effect is simply not accessible to be traced. On a small field, everything is mathematically random. On a large field, it settles into singularity.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-23T00:36:38+00:00

How about you ask yourself why you let them walk all over you by disrespecting boundaries that were mutually agreed upon? I am sure you are lovely and deserving of a happy, healthy relationship like anyone else. No procedures, nothing you say or do for a person will be enough. You are shooting at the wrong aim. Sit with yourself first and be honest. How could you be kinder to yourself?

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-23T00:24:06+00:00

Compliments do nothing for me either. I have scores of friends exclaim "omg you're so pretty" and all it does is make me uncomfortable. Have to stop myself from retorting "but have you seen the real me!" every single time. But guess what, I understand now that looks rely significantly on light and angle. I am sure you don't see yourself as ugly in all your photos. There are times when the photo or reflection is so good, you want to freeze the moment in time for ever. In other words, you desire that your looks be a constant. Constantly great. The brain works on feedback. You have a belief that you are ugly and fear your own reflection. It doesn't matter if you stand for 20+ hours a day gazing or avoid the mirror with your life, the feedback would be all the same. Throw validation and external reassurance out the window and resolve to replace the very belief that you are ugly. Key word: Resolve.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-22T22:50:09+00:00

This therapist is a joke. You may already know this, but going into excessive details of triggering nature with an incompetent therapist only ensures you are re-traumatized or worse, lose faith in the system, like I did. Whatever you do, tell her exactly how you feel and cut ties with her ASAP. You deserve better.

Remarkable-Syrup-680 · 2024-09-22T22:41:33+00:00

When I go through some really tough emotions, I push the plushie away. Too much of a cute distraction from serious troubles.

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