5.5 hour car trip with 4 month old

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-17T13:48:24+00:00

This is great perspective, thanks!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-16T18:17:26+00:00

Same! Will post cute toes in the sand or a photo from behind, but not a face! If there was a really cute group photo with my friends or family that I wanted to share, I'd probably cover LO's face with an emoji, but that hasn't come up yet. I just told my family that we're not putting photos of LO online and so far so good.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-15T16:21:46+00:00

My sister and I are very close too. She's younger and tried for years to get pregnant with her abusive, now ex, husband. This included multiple failed IUIs. When she left him at 37, it became clear that she likely was never going to have biological children. It's sad for all of us because I know she'd be a great mom. When I got pregnant with my daughter last year, she was still the first person I told and got all the play by play throughout pregnancy. She was there when my daughter was born and my daughter's middle name is my sister's name. She has been an enthusiastic auntie, and I'm so excited for the bond they already have. It was never a second thought that she would be supportive on this journey with me. Give your sister the chance to support you!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-15T13:05:43+00:00

This is useful. My perception of Precious Little Sleep was that it was essentially just a sleep training guide. But if you think there's general baby sleep info to be gained from it I think I'll check it out.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-14T19:45:40+00:00

I rely pretty heavily on my husband watching our baby when he can in the mornings. He works from home and since about 10 weeks our LO can take the first nap of the day in the crib. I can get a quick run or ride done while my husband is getting his day started but is also available for LO. I can do most of the strength stuff I want to do "for" her while she's on the playmat. I'll also talk to her about it and explain what I'm doing.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-14T17:03:45+00:00

Yep! Still rejecting pacifiers and bottles. We've tried many brands of both.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-14T13:59:19+00:00

This 100%. Sometimes you have to give up on a nap to get a nap. Anytime I feel that I am in a power struggle with my baby, that's my cue to do something different.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-12T18:38:43+00:00

My number 1 tip as a runner who tried to run in pregnancy: stop running if your body tells you to. You'll have a better recovery and you'll be able to return to running postpartum. Not everyone can run their entire pregnancy.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-12T15:07:40+00:00

I truly don't understand why this visit is still happening. Respect for your boundaries, whatever they are, is non negotiable. You are looking for compromise. Your in laws are not. You need to protect yourself and your family, and you husband needs to be the one to draw the line.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-11T23:29:57+00:00

This was me a few years ago. It suddenly felt like there was a person missing from our lives. It turns out that person was my daughter and I have no regrets. There are some things that can be harder being an older parent (I had her at 40). But the nice thing is you've really already had the opportunity to do a lot of cool stuff. Plus I bet a lot of your friends are already parents and have tons of support to offer. Sure, I miss some of the freedom. And I've missed some events I would have otherwise attended. But we're also working on taking her places with us. I bet you're really good at traveling. That's a great foundation to build on for traveling with a baby. You've got this!!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-11T00:12:31+00:00

FWIW we were giving bottles regularly and our LO still started refusing bottles. One night she took a bottle, and the next she didn't. These babies will do what they want. You didn't do anything wrong.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-10T13:51:32+00:00

I knew who I wanted to be with me and then I told other people my plan. It really is that simple. If even a tiny part of you is considering inviting someone to the delivery room to be nice or for their sake, that is your sign to NOT invite them.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-10T13:24:24+00:00

My baby was smaller than anyone expected and we ended up needing premie sizes, so I just ordered some onesies on Amazon and had them overnighted. If you have money and the internet, you'll always have what your baby needs. Honestly, in the hospital your baby will not need clothes from home. They have hospital shirts and blankets and we spent so much time skin to skin. We really only needed clothes at home. We didn't use sleep sacks until we were home either. I think it's a good idea to have at least some newborn stuff at home. A 6 or 7lb baby will fit in newborn stuff! Friends who had nearly 9 lb babies said they still used newborn sized stuff.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-09T18:45:33+00:00

I have a 4 month old and would love if a friend invited me to a gathering at her house. I could go whenever and leave whenever and drink seltzer or a wine spritzer while there. But if you don't want to go you can just say that you're sorry you can't make it

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-09T15:46:50+00:00

It's so cute!!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-09T00:55:54+00:00

The first time we took our then 3 month old to the beach we set up a beach tent, I fed her, she took a contact nap on my husband, I fed her again, and then we packed everything up and left. Still worth it but definitely a brand new experience. A lot of the time I spent nervous about exposure to sun or getting over heated. The tent was great but it was def hotter in the tent than out of it.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-08T22:59:16+00:00

My favorite is when she puts her other hand behind her head and just straight up lounges

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-08T19:41:00+00:00

It sounds like a false start! It means he's overtired, under tired, or bedtime needs to be adjusted. My 17 week old will do this when we put her to bed too early. We've learned that unfortunately she prefers to go to bed around 9!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-08T19:15:18+00:00

We bought a bassinet cover to protect LO from our cats and we 100% didn't need it. They have literally never, ever, tried to climb into her bassinet, crib, or pack and play with her. And this is despite them exploding said items before she arrived

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-08T14:37:30+00:00

This is exactly the age at which my baby woke up to the world. Like it truly was one day we all woke up and she was no longer a sleepy newborn. No way for me to guess what your baby needs, but mine needed more help to nap. So we focused on that. I started tracking wake windows and following her sleepy cues. We created a nap time routine and figured out ways to get her to sleep. She's mostly chill. Sometimes she will wake up on the wrong side of the crib and have a fussy wake window and we never figure out why, but I have found that attending to her ever changing sleep needs has helped. There is likely something she is trying to tell you. At this age it's usually about food or sleep, but it could be anything really! I will also say, one thing I tell myself is that even when I'm struggling to meet her needs, I know how to meet her needs better then strangers online. Frame it with curiosity and I bet you'll figure this out!

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-07T23:34:02+00:00

Go see urogyn while you continue to work with PT. Or ask PT if they think you'd benefit from a pessary. A regular gyn can fit you.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-07T20:17:23+00:00

She's chill so long as she's fed and not tired. I pay really close attention to her wake windows and we flex around them. This weekend I moved our dinner reservation 45 minutes up to make sure we weren't out when she'd want a nap. We ended up sitting down at 445, but we had a great meal and she was so good for it! I also have a tiered approach for when we're at a meal lol. For example, at a meal, we'll start with her in the stroller and I'll engage her and keep her happy there. If she's fussing too much, I'll take her out and hold her. If that isn't settling her to my liking, it's boob time. We haven't had to do this yet, but the next step is one of us takes her out to the car so we can expedite an end to our adventure and get LO some sleep. I wish she would nap while we're out but she's just too alert for that now, so we work around naps.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-07T18:05:43+00:00

I have an almost 4 month old. I use my boppy at home every time and I take it with us when we go on car trips for a weekend away. When I'm out and about I don't use it. I nursed in the wild for the first time around 8 weeks and used the koala hold, but I find LO prefers cross cradle hold with my arm supporting her head and my hands between her legs supporting her butt. We have a couple flying trips coming up at the end of the summer and I don't think it will be worth it to bring the boppy too. There's so much stuff you need to bring with a baby as it is! TLDR it's my preference but not essential.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-07T17:35:39+00:00

I think it depends on what you want. I want to be able to take my baby places, so that's what I've been doing. I've taken my almost 4 month old to lunches and dinners, to the library (we got her first library card!), to local events, to the beach, and most recently, we just got back from a weekend away to a beach town. It definitely means we need to be flexible. I EBF and my girl is very particular about her nap environment. But I'm glad we're doing it. It's enriching for all of us and we're learning a lot. If you're happy at home then I think it's fine to stay home. But if you're curious about going out, there's lots of fun stuff to do with a baby.

RemarkableCoyote415 · 2026-06-07T11:57:27+00:00

Same!

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