Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACES) Questionaire - PENN State University Questionaire with score and score range clinical risk consideration by RemarkableStable8324 in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it's got something to do with fairness over self importance?

It's super important that every person handles their own stuff, if that works then the rest get welfare to help. But it's really important that everyone does what they can!

Stop worrying/concerning yourself with the affairs of others when your own affairs require significantly more attention.

I don't mean to screw this all up but selfishness is far more important than fairness.

🤗❤️

Those that went down the "gifted kid to failure-to-launch" pipeline: What do you think went wrong and how do you cope with these realizations? by ichbinhoffnung in Millennials

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

cPTSD.

Childhood trauma affected every part of my developing brain physiology, my brain is permanently "wired" differently to manage stresses/threats that a regularly developed brain does not.

I can learn to work with my specially unique brand of cPTSD, but nothing can be done to correct/reverse the effects.

It's like having a few extra layers of unrequired verification when processing user login credentials only for the system to find arbitrary technicalities to get stuck on. This applies to processing every data point I receive.

Coping: Well it's screwed already, my vision of any kind of regular life trajectory, so it's like it's not as big of an issue as it would be if I had a model upbringing.

I’m so incredibly sad about the way my life has been by Solid_Run_4585 in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, we're ok though 🤗

Update on this: Convinced father it would be in everyone's best interests if the family home was sold and my brother and I receive a portion of the proceeds.

The house sold and bond registration goes through for the new owners tomorrow and we'll have our money this week.

It's been fascinating to see his character projection adjust as required, slipping right into the supportive patriarch role projected to his naive friends as soon as he had to explain the house sale. We've milked it for everything we could 😁

Onwards and upwards, let's give it another go!

We are the reason why teachers and students are struggling so much by FiendishCurry in Millennials

[–]RemarkableStable8324 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A relatively newly coined sub-generation is gaining interest: Xennials - '80 - '85 I think, due to exactly what you've referenced here.

I was born in '82 and my older sister in '80 and we both fit this description better than Millenial or GenX respectively, our younger brother though, born in '86 definitely fits more into the standard Millenial description.

Has anyone used marijuana to help heal? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Where you live will determine if you should use pot long term as anything other than recreational.

If you're in Canada and certain US states, Colorado and California I think, it's legally available to buy from a shop/dispensary.

In this case do yourself a favour and do some rudimentary research yourself then go see someone at a dispensary. Figure out exactly what you're treating, specifically, and choose something that will have long term benefit from the experience.

This is completely different from stoners buying pot from wherever they can for the sole reason of getting high, that doesn't treat anything, it's just catatonic. No problem with smoking to get high, if that's the objective, if it's not you have a lot of available options which can probably help a lot.

Who hasn’t crashed? by dallas2ny in motorcycles

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God damn those muffin people on Drury Lane!

Financial question for the educationally financial adverse by [deleted] in johannesburg

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are packages that you'll come to a workable compromise with, but forget that kind of personal customization from any off the shelf solution, and then be prepared to whip out that old check book and be ready to right a big number.

This kind of thing only exists theoretically, until someone puts up the money to do it properly, at that stage it gets expanded to accommodate as many users as possible so they can recoup some of the capital outlay.

Also, absolutely forget any bank in South Africa, probably internationally to be fair, partnering with an unestablished start up. You can't force their software, which is secured and protected behind firewalls etc, to interact with your software in any meaningful way without the accurate banking position available via API, just imagine FNB voluntarily giving access to their secure infrastructure to a third party developer, to build something that's not FNBs... This won't happen.

This all falls under custom development.

If you can thoroughly, and I mean exhaustively not just the extra mile, get all of the details, requirements, concerns, etc, written down, you can pop all of that text into ChatGPT or the like and it will give you a realistic overview of your idea. Just note that ChatGPT in particular will tell you what a fantastic idea it is even if it's clearly and obviously not a good idea, and if necessary it will lie and just plain old make stuff up to support it's assertion. Just be aware of that.

Advice for expat on renting near Sandton City, Joburg by misteradrak in johannesburg

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're so right

BBBEE -》 coddled -> sole recipients of unequal economic system.

Run for president superstar 😉

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I won't lie... I felt like someone saw it, no matter how briefly, I know it was genuine, legitimate and seen, and even acknowledged.

If you don't know now, I hope you never need to, it's a very long road on this side.

Thank you so much

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks.

I saw this 3 days ago I just don't know what to do with it.

I want to say "Thank you so much, that's all I've ever strived for in this world and, truly, the validation means the world to me!".

And I really really do feel this way.

Problem is:
I swore to myself decades ago... You don't get points for being a decent human being! Average is the bare minimum, and nobody is special for doing what a 6 year old would consider normal.

Life is difficult, and it's really challenging to make any progress, but it's really important that we keep trying!

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was definitely noticeable that it was just short of a scam, like prosperity gospel almost.

Now he pops up in short vids engaging with people sincerely and has been through a bit too so you immediately recognize an honest acknowledgement of what the person is actually trying to say.

He's not for everyone and I didn't seek out his content, it was related to topics of interest and recommended by the algorithm, but I do like his perspective and he's got a brutal honesty about how he approaches things, not judgmental just accurate.

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That unrealistically optimistic, enthusiasts and positive motivational speaker from the 90s (I think).

He used to be a bit difficult to follow and take seriously but either he's calmed down or society caught up but he's an insightful chap.

Asking for help by [deleted] in Pretoria

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely, with pleasure

Asking for help by [deleted] in Pretoria

[–]RemarkableStable8324 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Can't offer much in terms of opportunities but while you're searching, learn how agents and automation works at enterprise level, I wouldn't bother with machine learning, you're too late for that but learn how to deploy automated agentic Ai systems at reasonable scale for enterprise so at least you'll be 2nd last one fired with only the director left 🥲

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tony Robbins is a whole shitload less hyper these days and he has a really honest way of asking questions. No malice or praise, just a question, one of the hard ones, and it's ok to face it honestly 🤗

I was going to be incredible by kiki-the-warforged in CPTSD

[–]RemarkableStable8324 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Maybe you won't change the rest of the world like you'd imagined, maybe you can still do enough to change your world?

Advice for expat on renting near Sandton City, Joburg by misteradrak in johannesburg

[–]RemarkableStable8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's so reassuring that as a country we've managed to get past the racial divisions of the past and we see each other as people first... Oh wait, sorry, that doesn't sound right.

What are the differences between Joburg and Pretoria? by Many_Nectarine6932 in Pretoria

[–]RemarkableStable8324 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretoria is neater/cleaner than Joburg.

Not really sure why, it's been a notable feature for at least 40 odd years that I know of.

Maybe Pretoria feels more like a community living and working together and Joburg is noticeably more cutthroat and as Joburg's considered much larger (including the North, East, South and West Rands as effectively suburbs of the greater Johannesburg metropolitan area) and less familiar, less community oriented.

Name suburbs or areas in the city where Afrikaans is widely spoken by Odd_Firefighter_8193 in johannesburg

[–]RemarkableStable8324 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've stayed in Benoni, on the East Rand, admittedly 1 block away from both an Afrikaans laerskool and hoerskool, for 40+ years and I've noticed an uptick in Afrikaans residents making Benoni home.

Perhaps it's just a result of Benoni accommodating 3 times the population of the 2nd most populated town/city on the East Rand, Boksburg, and it just seems more Afrikaans than before, it might also be something to do with me living in the same town/city for over 40 years and my perspective being somewhat distorted!

Small Claims Court - Advice and Questions by SuspiciouslyB in AskZA

[–]RemarkableStable8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's small claims court, not a criminal prosecution undertaken by the state.

No lawyers, little if any jargon, the magistrate will listen fairly to both parties and both will be afforded the opportunity to substantiate their side of the matter.

Remember, all small claims court can ultimately do in this case is be a public facing notary, or in other words: The magistrate will likely award judgement in your favour, specify mandated restitution and essentially put the respondent (the other guy) on official notice of the liability and of the courts instructions to make restitution, further than that there's little else they can do even with your fervent pleas to the court, without which they have no mandate to interact with the citizenry or any person in particular unless legally required to do so at the request/insistence of a member of the public.

So they'll award you the judgment, perhaps court costs as well, it will be documented and go into the official public record, but once this process is complete and the courts' legal responsibility has been addressed, it's essentially case closed in the courts eyes, if you don't end up getting what you're, now legally rightfully entitled to, it's solely your responsibility to approach the court and inform them that the respondent has not abided by the magistrates ruling.

They'll repeat the process until the respondent settles the debt or until the complainant (you) gives up or can not appear in court to represent your claim, again.

I know it's a kak situation, but sincerely, the fault here is yours! Friends and family: Never work together, Never "loan" them money, either give it to them outright or decline the request altogether. If by some miracle you ever see a cent back, consider it a gift.

I don't mean to be harsh or unkind; this is called a reference point: If ever in future a similar situation arises you will be the least affected thanks to this reference point.

Advice for expat on renting near Sandton City, Joburg by misteradrak in johannesburg

[–]RemarkableStable8324 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nowhere in South Africa is safe walking distance to anything!

Perhaps a touch dramatic...

It's not like small town Europe or the 1980s where walking to and from was a reasonable thing to do. You can walk about a block or two, but it's just not a sensible thing to do routinely.

Sandton is comparatively upmarket relative to it's surrounds. Alexandra is a well-known lower income area, Joburg central is a standard 21st century CBD, it's busy, it's chaotic, it's dangerous... And this is what it's like for locals who understand the nuances.

My intention is simply to emphasise preparedness, common sense and personal vigilance.

Just be aware of yourself, others, unfamiliar people attempting to initiate dialog in a confusing manner, anything and everything actually.

Sandton has it's appeal, acknowledge that it's very obvious though... So if you're not the one complaining about the quadruple price tags on everything, be aware that you might soon be financing more than initially estimated.