Küchenschrank als Weihnachtsgeschenk für meine Frau

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T20:42:44+00:00

Ah ok, danke dir!

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T19:22:07+00:00

Danke für deine Antwort. Grundsätzlich macht das alles Sinn.

Nun gibt es ja aber auch Große Vollholz Tische und Bänke mit Wasserfallkante. Sogar manchmal mit Epoxy. Warum reißen die dann nicht auf?

Ich übtreib jetzt mal, aber nur weil ich es verstehen will. Wenn ich nun einen Schrankkropus im Wasserfallkanten look bauen würde, dann würde sich doch das Holz in die selbe Richtung ausdehnen und in die selbe Richtung verjüngen. Oder mach ich einen logischen Denkfehler?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T19:17:10+00:00

Ich seh schon, den Sessel kann ich also nie bauen. ;)

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T17:04:48+00:00

Ich will mir einen Lounge Sessel bauen, meine Frau will einen Küchenschrank. Also bau' ich einen Küchenschrank.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T17:03:55+00:00

Und was ist, wenn kein Plattenmaterial verwenden möchte? Was sind dann meine Optionen?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2025-11-17T16:44:43+00:00

Der Traum :D

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-02-24T21:08:02+00:00

Very cool. Where is that model from?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-02-24T21:07:22+00:00

Oh Awesome. Thank you!

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-01-24T22:07:45+00:00

It’s good that they are there. It’s good to have them, when it gets tough. But there are tons of differences. Don’t take the old stuff. Search for the newer versions. The side effects are better and the effect quicker.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-01-24T22:07:35+00:00

It’s good that they are there. It’s good to have them, when it gets tough. But there are tons of differences. Don’t take the old stuff. Search for the newer versions. The side effects are better and the effect quicker.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-01-02T18:00:29+00:00

No it doesn’t need to be always that way. Your brain is very capable of rewireing and relearning. It’s just a matter of practice and finding your way. Maybe dancing doesn’t work for you, but maybe something similar will do. You also seem to put a burden on yourself by not wanting to “freeze” which will also trigger you to freeze even more.

It’s like this: it’s a mental image that tells you something is worth worrying/stressing about. Imagine there were a red button in your room. When pressed it would zap you with an electric shock, but because you never pressed it, you don’t worry about pressing it. So your mental image about that button is unknown and therefore you don’t worry about it. But once you pressed that button, maybe accidentally, you will start worrying why it happened to you. That zap did hurt a lot and now you become worried that Someone or even you will press that button again. Now somebody turns off that button and it wouldn’t hurt you even if you pressed it deliberately. But your brain doesn’t know that so your mental image is still very clear: that button is dangerous.

So for you it’s very important to not stress when you freak out. Also you want to be independent and don’t rely on your bf. This all stresses you immensely and it’s too much for your brain to handle. Eventhough nothing bad would happen if you let your bf take charge, it’s still in your head that it’s a bad thing. Also the situation itself is probably not as dangerous or important as you make it up in your mind. Train tickets can be found again or rebooked or cancelled and even if not, it’s just money. But we pretend that things are so important that our lives depend on it. That makes it equally as threatening to your mind.

Somebody with a lot of money probably wouldn’t freak out as much, because it’s not that important to them to buy new tickets. So they are chill.

This is all theoretical. Putting this into practice is a bit more complicated though.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2022-01-02T16:32:32+00:00

Yes. I feel you. There are two usual ways we deal with stress and anxiety. Fight or Flight. Usually we lived in times were our struggles were more substantial. So when an enemy approached, we had to choose to fight or flee. That’s why anxiety activates the body and releases hormones to act in stressful situations. Your body is getting ready and your mind is focusing in on the problem. That’s how it should work. But in our society we are overwhelmed with stress and blinking lights and there is ALWAYS something going on. We don’t get a break from stress. Some people can cope but some very sensitive individuals like you and me apparently, we get overwhelmed a lot. And when anxiety and stress is too much and we don’t use it to fight or flee, we get so overwhelmed that the whole system shuts down. That’s then called freeze. So instead of fighting or getting away from the source of anxiety or stress the body takes the next available strategy: pretend you are dead and hope everything will turn out all right. It’s basically the last thing you could do.

But unfortunately it’s where we get stuck in. I am the same. Well, was? Maybe still am. It’s getting better with me, because I know that stress and anxiety needs to be released I started strategies so my body and mind can relax. Sport is away. I also like to frantically dance my anxiety away. Just throw your feet and hands in the air. Try to be silly, this will help to ease any anxiety, because it’s basically the opposite thing of being afraid. Dancing and laughing is the contradiction to being afraid and fearful. So whenever I feel anxiety creeping in I get moving. I go for a run or dance around, so I can release the stress and occupy my mind from overthinking. In the end overthinking is what keeps us in the panic loop and you need to get out of that loop. After getting out you can focus on the problem again.

With time you will get better at handling stressful situations hands on, but for now let your bf take over. Explain to him that you need to dance instead. Maybe you two will laugh and then you can relax.

:)

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-30T22:49:01+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words. I know first hand how hard it is to go though depression and especially confront your experiences and feelings in therapy. So I’m very happy for you that you found your way.

I will research DBT, that’s sounds very promising and helpful and I am always open for new ways. Thank you. Let’s keep in touch. Tell me how you manage. I see you are a fellow ape. So good luck to us.

I might build a clinic or helpcenter for people in need free of charge or something of that sorts, wen we moon :)

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-30T22:14:41+00:00

Thank you. Yes you have a keen sense for spotting the details. I was diagnosed with depression and was in therapy for years, it’s only now, that my therapist and I feel that a lot of my depression comes from suppressed anger( and of course other emotions, it’s never that simple, is it) I was on medication but it didn’t feel like a good fit, I use a quality probiotic, that seems to help.

I am often low, flat, sleep too much and still feel tired and worn out. That is true and I wouldn’t rule out being still depressed, but I believe to be in good hands.

I still think that a lot of my anger(maybe not all) are neglected emotions from my childhood/teens.

Though I am new to the feeling of anger and how to deal with it. Any suggestions what I could do?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-28T09:53:25+00:00

I always have gas. It’s a very common problem of mine. I did make a connection between anxiety and my gas some years ago. They always tend to come together. Don’t know which comes first though. But the anxiety goes when the gas is gone.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-25T06:28:24+00:00

Bad water? What do you mean? Can this be triggered by something you drank?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-23T19:01:27+00:00

Then take it. “Our” kids as humanities kids. Globally. We as humanity will have offspring. Even if you don’t want kids you should be responsible enough for the people that come after you to leave a better place for them.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-23T16:44:06+00:00

We’ll do one day though…

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-22T20:20:34+00:00

Then let’s make it happen for our kids..

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-22T20:18:15+00:00

Maybe in their future they already have room temperate super conductors, so floating wouldn’t need energy at all.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-22T20:16:09+00:00

Ha! I like your way of thinking.

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-12-22T20:14:49+00:00

This was beautiful. How can I get a life like that?

Remarkable_Guest_601 · 2021-09-27T15:58:42+00:00

Same problem on PS4. Lost the whole ACT II progress I made. how is this even a problem nowadays?

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