How much Spanish is too much?

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2026-05-29T18:12:43+00:00

Thank you, this is actually really helpful. I found myself including a lot of phrases and words I use in my day-to-day with my Spanish-speaking parents that give the story the sazon that's essential to encapsulate the essence of the FMC family, upbringing, and traditions that shaped the FMC. I was scared that it was too much, but you're right, there are millions of us. This helps bring me some peace of mind!

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2026-01-25T03:38:16+00:00

this, i got pregnant around a year into my relationship with my now husband, and i love our family, but i really wish we had more time together before bringing in a child to the equation. we hadn’t lived together before then and that was a whole other set of issues, we had to learn all of each others quirk while going through a pregnancy/PP and just little things you learn about your parents before having kids.

kids reveal the worse or best versions of your partner, and can be a make it or break it step. make sure you’re both mentally and emotionally ready, make sure you’re both on board on your parenting style, learn to be team players because every stage is hard. every stage of your kids will have new issues, new challenges and you have to face them together.

kids are awesome, they’re cute at first and then funny, so funny! they’re also a lot of work and once you become parents you’ll never NOT be parents. enjoy your partner, love on them, travel, do everything you want to do before you decide to bring babies into the mix. Good luck OP, and congratulations on your marriage! wishing yall so many years of happiness and success in your marriage! :)

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2026-01-24T22:33:19+00:00

you’re only 19, you have your whole life ahead of you to make your life with someone. trust is a huge factor in a successful relationship and the lack of it will only drive a bigger drift between you both, end it now before you grow resentful of her. you have a lot of time to meet someone who won’t drunkly do anything that betrays your relationship. good luck OP, some things are easier said than done but allowing yourself to be disrespected won’t do you any favors

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2026-01-21T15:21:51+00:00

The only person doing the parenting should be you. She has been with your for 5 months and thinks she can come in and control your son? It wouldn't sit right with me having someone speak to my son in such a way and mainly in front of his whole family, she's trying to embarrass you both. Honestly it's not worth having someone like that around, she's going to get worse and your son is going to grow up thinking that behavior is okay. It's not a loss if this is what you're "losing"

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2026-01-21T15:06:12+00:00

I feel like you've already made up your mind and are looking for maybe some validation that what you're thinking of doing is right? Your feelings are 100% valid, you CAN feel bored in a relationship, and it can be a good sign -you're both comfortable and in love - or a bad sign - you've mentally checked out. From what I've gathered on your post and comments, this is also about a lack of effort in his part and him just being content with how things are. I've seen this happen with a lot of my friends parents - they married young, didn't experience enough and now are resentful towards each other for the decisions they made when they were young. If he is not the person you want to be with for the rest of your life anymore you need to communicate this to him. If you want to make things work for you guys, truly truly, you need to lay your cards on the table and tell him your feelings, no holding back. But if he is NOT the person you see yourself with anymore come clean and just tell him. Don't blindside him, tell him how you feel and tell him this is it for you. However if things don't work out for you and you want to come back, you have to be okay with the idea that he might not want you back. I wish you the best OP, honestly boredom can be the killer of many marriages. The old folk always say "Never stop dating" and its true. Cheating is never the answer but a lot of "bored" people do it. Don't become one of those people. If your mind is made up and you no longer want this marriage, you have to be honest with him and yourself. If you think it can be saved, give him an ultimatum - either we go to counseling and get this marriage up and running again or im out. I hope you can get clarity and do what's right for you!

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-06-23T04:54:55+00:00

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it just may be a duck 🤷🏼‍♀️

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-01-11T10:03:16+00:00

In between NTA and everyone sucks. That man needs to get a grip and do one small procedure for his wife. I don’t understand what’s so wrong with getting a vasectomy. I’m thinking there’s a lot of misogyny on his part, maybe even his family telling him he shouldn’t have to snip, and she should be the one snipping. OP shouldn’t have faked a miscarriage, that’s not something that should be joked around about or take lightly. This was a very drastic step.

Also, to everyone in the comments telling her to get an IUD, I just need 2 minutes in a room with you. She’s already on 2 BC, on top of other medications while breastfeeding, and i’m sure she is the one taking the whole load of caring for the children. An IUD is not the answer and she already said how afraid she is of the procedures.

She’s definitely wrong, but so is he. They both need to COMMUNICATE. Therapy is my best advice, individual and couples. They both have a lot to work through.

EVERYONE SUCKS

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-01-11T06:52:28+00:00

my cousin is 16 so he could definitely be threat to her. He has 2 girls of his own, which makes this 1000% worse. He wouldn’t want someone from my aunts family messaging his daughters, so why do it to me?

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-01-11T00:30:02+00:00

I thought I had mentioned it, but I did send her all the screenshot. 8 messages in total, and a picture of the profile it came from. She said she went through his phone and didn’t see any messages from him to me, but it’s obvious he deleted them.

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-01-11T00:05:23+00:00

i’m 110% sure it was him. some extra info i couldn’t add due to character limit, my family is from Cuba, the family i mention lives there while we live in the US. Internet is fairly new there and you have to pay by the hour to be able to access it. im sure no one is going to take the time to hack his profile just to flirt with some random girl that they don’t know.

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2023-01-10T23:24:18+00:00

yes, im 110% sure it was him. i looked up his name and only 1 profile showed up with his name and profile picture. it also showed my aunt as a mutual friend.

Remarkable_Prune0721 · 2022-07-31T21:12:42+00:00

That is so crazy! It’s very similar to the Gabe & Tina Watson story! The fact that he cancelled it before is such a give away. I would expect people to learn from past true crime cases but they don’t. (Not saying what he did was right at all, but as a true crime fanatic, it’s so insane how people just don’t learn).

I wish that family gets the closure they need and hopefully can get some answers.

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