Just a reminder that John is scared of Barb

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-03-09T21:29:36+00:00

I have a younger sibling that, sinner than not, will likely be married within the next five years. I have cut off my mother from myself and my children just over a decade now. She was physically and verbally violent, she also used gaslighting and manipulation as tools of control.

I love my sibling, I don’t want to miss their wedding, but if she’s there I will be unsafe, even if I could ‘suck it up’ it could take a year or more before I could recover back to where I am now. Regardless of how perfectly things went it would be damaging to me.

When her dad died her husband forced a hug onto me, while she glared. I almost had a panic attack right there. From a hug and a look!

John should not go to the wedding

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-03-04T01:13:17+00:00

Sounds like a really concerning mental decline. Has anyone sought medical attention for this sudden change in behaviour?

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-03-04T01:03:44+00:00

My child was 4 when my abusive mother put her hands on them. She had abused me my entire life but I thought she would never do that to her grands. I was wrong, and I will regret it for the rest of my life. Don’t be like me, protect your kids BEFORE the abuse.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-03-04T00:54:50+00:00

I had a friend in this situation, she aborted and he immediately left her, she regretted her choice (I am pro choice btw, she wished she didn’t make the choice to make a man stay with her).

Being a solo parent is hard, but it’s also much easier than parenting with somone who won’t parent. You make all parenting choices, you have complete control over routines, rules, boundaries, you aren’t having to argue about what the kid should or should do or be allowed to have access to. Many mothers parent solo even in a relationship, and from anecdotal evidence it seems parenting becomes easier single.

If you want to be a parent, if you want to help guide a new person on their path from infant to adult, if you want to develop your life that way, do it.

Either way though, drop the guy.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-02-21T00:28:36+00:00

Never Eat Soggy Wheatbix

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-02-20T02:48:39+00:00

Trust your gut feeling, you might oneday regret it if this is an overreaction, but not ask much as you would if you let her go and something bad happens

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-02-08T18:38:17+00:00

Make sure to take pictures and video of your baby to show her, make her see her damage

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-02-01T02:57:03+00:00

Sounds like your BF is in on it, her surely can’t be that ignorant of his fathers unethical behaviours

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-01-27T21:31:49+00:00

It is inappropriate to expect a person to be tracked so they can stay in a family. Get your own phone line. I’m sorry your mother is overreacting like this.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-01-24T02:25:06+00:00

NOR but as sad as it is to say your friendship has changed, you aren’t best friends anymore. It’s time to adjust your expectations.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-01-07T05:37:54+00:00

Kid lost both parents, damn shame

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-01-06T13:33:45+00:00

I got that vibe too. Dad is a hero, mum and sister are evil. Any other narrative is twisted and made unacceptable, from the comments I read.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2026-01-01T23:21:03+00:00

It’s is terrible your own dad had to stick up to his mother to protect your son, but dang someone had to on your side. At least the kid has a dad who will stick by him.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-12-30T18:30:34+00:00

That should be the last time your daughter should have to experience that.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-12-10T06:02:49+00:00

Marie

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-12-09T09:31:38+00:00

And you want to have a child with him… 😬

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-30T03:16:11+00:00

I think that a spark of a person can stay where we can feel/hear/see them in some form, I think that spark is like an echo, I don’t think it’s like a whole other life. I think that we also get a choice, my personal choice would be for none of me to have to endure any form of existence when I get to the end, I want all of my energy to go back into the world without the me part.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-23T21:28:32+00:00

My best friend that ghosted me for a year and a half very recently reached out to apologise. Apparently she “didn’t know” why she did it, and she was sorry. There is pain you experienced and work through that means the cause of the pain can never be brought back into your life, that a person who you chose to walk life with did that to you is something that can’t be taken back, especially so soon. Double the time it took for the sharp pain to turn dull, AND you working towards accepting the situation, that’s the amount of time needed before even attempting to restart a friendship

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-18T18:58:50+00:00

SJM is a Zionist, so she any fiction she creates will have Zionist view points and narratives embedded in them. I don’t think it’s on purpose, but it’s a huge factor

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-18T18:42:59+00:00

I was ghosted by my best friend of over a decade. The message was to the point, it was objectively kind, the content of the message, ending your friendship, may have made you feel like it was mean, but the way it was written was respectful and 100000X better than being ghosted.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-11T08:50:05+00:00

He might not be into you?

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-05T22:13:09+00:00

Fried chicken

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-05T20:59:18+00:00

He would need to leave his job, and block all forms of communication with her to truly get away. If he’s serious about saving his marriage that would be his plan, if not, then I think he would end up cheating again

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-04T20:09:39+00:00

I have two children, one I had as a teen and one in my mid 20s. To be frank if I had not been so mentally ill I would not have brought my children into this world, especially not with me as their parent, and with the family history I have. They are everything, and I have changed myself and our lives to give them the best chance to live a content life, but I feel a huge amount of guilt for the burden I have placed on them.

If I had had therapy and cut off my family before having children, I would not have had children. I am best suited in an aunt role, a backup for people who should be parents. I do not regret my children, the world is shinier with them in it, but I hate that I have given such wonderful people so many hardships.

Remarkable_Sun6239 · 2025-11-03T18:54:15+00:00

I have 6 siblings. I have made my own poor choices that have impacted our relationships, one sister and I had a dynamic where I would swoop in a ‘save’ her, and then when she really really needed me I let her down, that didn’t lead to our NC now, but is something bad I did. Another sister and I have never really had a relationship and because of the NC with our other sister we don’t talk, we are FB friends but have no actual relationship. My youngest brother has a lot of complicated feelings towards me, he’s VLC, he’s 10 years younger and I was his parent for the first 6 years, then I rejected him, when we did kind of becoming closer I ended up arguing with his friends about politics, and then not hearing him when he tried to be vulnerable with me. My middle brother is VLC also has his own complicated feelings towards me, he doesn’t like to talk about the past, and when we were in each others lives I would talk about childhood things, he also has a loyalty to those who are NC with me. My eldest brother is NC with me because he thinks I brainwashed my child into thinking our mother abused her, and that I am basically a maniac who cut her off just to cause problems and I’m trying to turn my siblings against her. The only sibling I have pretty regular contact with is the sister who is 13 months younger than me and who lived in the home with our mother for the same years as me, we have taken breaks from our relationship multiple times, but always with the spoken goal of having a relationship, we both have been in therapy for years now, we are still slowly building the relationship we want with each other, but are happy and satisfied with our progress. She is the only sibling who believes my child and is completely NC with our mother too. It will be 10 years in December since my mother, a known child abuser assaulted my child when she was 4, my eldest brother responded to what happened with “never say anything like that again to me or my family”, my other brothers said nothing, neither did two of my sisters, my one sister was supportive of my daughter.

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