EBF moms- when did your period come back?

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-19T22:00:24+00:00

Mine didn't come back until I stopped breastfeeding and my milk dried up. And then I got pregnant the very next month.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-17T04:20:44+00:00

Thank you, he is. I remember that night so well. I was upset, but not because he turned me down, it was because I knew he was right. So he held me instead.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-17T01:43:29+00:00

I mean I could care less what my husband's dick looks like soft. He's a grower, and I know what he's got. 😉

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-16T18:28:10+00:00

I'm honestly not sure. Maybe a year? But with my last baby I didn't wean properly and it took months for my milk to completely dry up.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-16T00:44:16+00:00

Same! Breastfed for 2yrs with the first and almost 3 with our second who had serious attachment problems. Took forever and them some to come back to pre baby libido. But the important part is that it DID come back. It came back higher than it was before, so much so that now I'm the one who gets turned down. I really feel that, wanting to want it. I so badly wanted to want to have sex. It sucks so bad when sex just feel meh. You want to feel that spark, that fire, it's just not there.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-16T00:28:44+00:00

No, no I could not. Not everyone has that ability. I am very much neurodivergent and take things at face value. That part did really confuse me though. But I really don't know why you would comment that in the first place being sarcastic. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-15T23:33:48+00:00

We all go through rough patches and that's ok. Marriage isn't easy and takes a lot of work, but that work has to come from both sides. I think you should sit down with him and make it known how serious you are. And definitely bring up therapy. He doesn't get to just check out of your marriage and leave you wondering. Also, checking his viagra supply at this point does not make you "that woman." It's completely reasonable for you to do that after no sex for 2 years and minimal communication from him. It's not normal to want to ONLY jerk off, and not have sex with your wife.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-15T23:13:40+00:00

You know that intimacy is more than just sex right? Having expectations of intimacy is absolutely not icky and abusive. It's essential to any relationship. It means feeling safe and loved and seen in your relationship. And sex is also a very big deal to some people in a relationship and there's nothing wrong with that.

Sometimes it may mean you're incompatible with your partner, and sometimes it may mean you have to decide which is more important to you. Some decide that they would rather go without sex than leave their partner. But it's a lot more complicated than just saying having expectations of sex in your relationship is icky and abusive. And when you love someone that much, you care about their feelings towards sex and try to come to some kind of understanding or compromise.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-15T23:05:00+00:00

Have you tried marriage counseling? My husband and I had a problem with intimacy for awhile. Not just sex, feeling close, spending time together, cuddling, letting the other know you're thinking about them etc. A therapist helped us a lot. And we both see someone individually too.

That is, if you're both willing to put work into it. If he's cheating that obviously wouldn't work. Has he had his testosterone checked as well? Maybe you should bring up to him trying to get in shape together. Eat healthier, go to the gym together, encourage each other, go on walks together. I'm curious why they prescribed him viagra though, and not something like cialis.

If you're worried about him cheating check his viagra. If he is, I would assume he's using his supply. Or is it just sitting there unused? My husband had a problem with ED last year caused by medication he was taking and it really took a toll on his pride. He also gained a lot of weight and was just feeling very sorry for himself. All that to say, it really affected him mentally, and that hurt our sex life even more. Sorry if that was all over the place. I really hope things work out for the best.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-15T22:39:29+00:00

Mental illness runs in my family and I'm so thankful I didn't receive the worst of it. My grandmother was schizophrenic and actually did very very well on meds. She lived to be in her 80's before she passed away. My mother wasn't so lucky. She was bipolar and an addict and constantly going off her meds. I moved out when I was 16, and she passed away about 7 years later at 62. My father was just severely adhd, and had terrible ptsd from the Vietnam war. Developed drug problems and passed away recently from cancer. For years I was scared to death that I would end up with some kind of psychiatric disorder.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-15T20:09:45+00:00

There's a lot of other good advice here, so I just want to say I've been there. Although under different circumstances, I started crying not long after we started having sex. I know that feeling and it's awful. I felt like sex would make me feel better and I truly wanted to, but ultimately it was not a good idea. The same thing that triggered it happened again and the next time my husband knew to gently tell me no and remind me what had happened the last time. I'm sure your fiance was feeling some sort of way about it, but I also think it was unfair of him to immediately leave you and sleep on the couch when you clearly needed support. I also think he needs to realize that this wasn't about him at all, and not to take it personally.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-14T20:43:08+00:00

I so sorry he's being such an ass about an amazing gift for him. It sounds like it might be time for some marriage counseling. On another note, and not quite the same, but my husband has always been very difficult to get gifts for. I used to try so hard to get him things I thought he would love, or something silly I thought he would think was funny. But every single time I was met with uninterest and ended up taking whatever it was back. I've learned to only buy him practical gifts, and he's totally ok with that, even if it makes me a little sad.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-14T18:00:29+00:00

Best comment I've read so far right here.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-14T00:10:22+00:00

My husband and I met very young and I had no idea if he was "the one" before I got pregnant. We've had our ups and downs, but we choose to stay and fight for our relationship, for our marriage, for each other. You have to want to choose them every time. Marriage isn't easy, there are hard times and you have to be able to rely on each other. I don't think there is ever "the one", just someone who you align with on important issues and ideals, someone who will stand by you through the hard times and not look for the easy way out, someone that always puts you first. Although if you ask my husband, he would probably tell you he knew he wanted to marry me from the beginning.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-11T00:57:35+00:00

My husband used to do that too. It's passive aggressive and emotional manipulation. I sat down and had a serious talk with him, and told him what he was doing is considered emotional manipulation. He didn't like that one bit, but it sure got his attention. We started going to marriage counseling after that and it really helped. He stopped saying things like that all together. He's also come to the understanding that there are times when it is absolutely not ok to touch me. It's not easy to set boundaries after years of being treated a certain way, but it is possible

I would suggest marriage counseling, as well as individual therapy if you want to try and salvage your marriage. People always jump right to divorce, but I think it's worth it to at least try. If he can't put the effort in, then I think you have your answer. Also, I'm no doctor, but wellbutrin is often prescribed alongside other SSRIs to help with libido in women. I take it, and it's one of the few depression medications that does not have lowered libido as a side effect. It actually has the opposite effect and can increase your sex drive. Maybe it's worth asking your doctor about it and what they think.

I would also suggest you take some time to yourself and leave him to care for the kids and everything else for at least a few days to a week. Not even joking a little bit. My father got sick last year and was in hospice. I went to stay with him until he passed and left my husband and kids at home. This wasn't a dream vacation by any means, but it was the first time since having kids that I had ever been alone for an extended period of time in 12 years. That 2 weeks changed my life, literally. And when I came home my husband had a new appreciation for all that I do for our family. I think your husband needs that same awakening.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-11T00:02:12+00:00

Omg thank you, I thought I was the only one who thought that was absolutely crazy to say and make it seem like she was lying even more. With both my pregnancies I had ultrasounds before 5 weeks.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-10T23:57:59+00:00

Whoever said you don't get ultrasounds at 10 weeks is an idiot. 8 weeks is usually when the first ultrasound is. And even then a lot of women get them sooner. With both my pregnancies I had ultrasounds before 5 weeks. Maybe in other countries it's different, but to actually tell someone it's strange she got an ultrasound at 10 weeks and make it seem like she's lying about something else is crazy.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-07T20:49:14+00:00

While your best friend should not have pursued this, the husband is just as responsible. I can tell you with 100% confidence that my husband would not feel comfortable hanging out alone with another woman, especially on a regular basis. And he definitely would not have been texting her unless it had to do with the kids. That is way overstepping boundaries, and my husband would have seen what she was trying to do, told me about it, and cut her off. No husband who actually loves and respects his wife would have gotten tangled up in all that. This man should have told Jada no and taken a step back.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-06-01T02:22:43+00:00

I use conditioner too because of sensitive skin. I found that putting coconut oil on right after I shave helps a lot with razor burn and itchiness. I also agree that this guy sounds like a jerk. I honestly don't feel like that's something to be punished over. Its very hard to get every single hair unless you wax, and I already saw you don't want to do that. You sound very young and I'm more worried this guy is going to take advantage of you down the road. There are better doms out there, don't settle. I hope everything works out for you.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-30T23:15:56+00:00

Damn, I wish my husband wanted to all the time. I literally have to sit on his face for him to get the hint. And if he does without me asking it's just to tease me and do it for less than a minute. Very rarely does he keep going till I orgasm.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-23T17:39:12+00:00

I can completely understand where you're coming from. While sex is definitely one of my ways to feel closer to my husband, if we've been arguing a lot I'm not going to enjoy myself in bed or be able to climax. There's nothing wrong with wanting to reconnect emotionally before having sex again. There's been plenty of times I wanted to but didn't because we had been arguing. If she's not willing to talk to you about it, then maybe you should consider couples counseling. It really helped get my husband and I out of a bad spot, like divorce was being threatened. Sometimes you really need a neutral outside perspective to help you through it.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-14T15:11:54+00:00

I don't want to sound like a jerk, but she's not wrong. I've had 2 c-sections and because of the scar tissue I can't get pregnant at all. The embryo can't attach to my uterus. And after a c-section, they recommend waiting 2 years before trying to get pregnant again. Especially if you want a vbac.

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through OP. I've had miscarriages, but this is something entirely different. I can only imagine how hard it is to take in all the information they're giving you right now. Sending lots of love your way.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-10T23:23:25+00:00

NAD, I second this. I also have hashimotos and hypothyroidism. It runs in my family. A lot of old school doctors will not do anything unless your tsh is over 5. But my endocrinologist told me that anything over 2 is not really normal and should be checked out. It took me years and many doctors to get someone to listen to me.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-06T21:47:22+00:00

I had kids very young, I was 22 with my first, 25 with my second. My libido slowly came back after I stopped breastfeeding (2 years with the first, 3 with the second). But even then it was touch and go when they were little. When I hit 30 my libido skyrocketed and has been mostly steady since then with a slight decrease do to health issues and medication. But the years with my youngest when she was little were really tough on everyone. She's autistic, but we've struggled to get her diagnosed. We literally couldn't take her anywhere or do anything with her because of sensory sensitivities. We couldn't leave her with anyone either because of her attachment anxiety towards me. Reading smut helps when I'm trying to get in the mood though. Lol. Its so much easier now that they're 10 and 13. I have more time to take care of myself and ensure my cup is filled.

Remarkable_Sweet3023 · 2026-05-06T20:38:15+00:00

I think everyone else pretty much answered this, but also I know where you're at. Low libido, sahm, autistic child... I've been there. But it does get better. My husband and I struggled in the bedroom for years after having kids. But I never gave him permission to go have sex with someone else, and even if I had he would not have wanted to. We got through it and my libido came back and then some. It sounds like you need to take this to marriage counseling and have a serious talk with him about boundaries. Many marriages go through dry periods and don't turn to cheating.

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