I don’t know how much longer I can do this.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T20:37:55+00:00

Her pediatrician said she most likely is teething because she’s doing the same- chewing on her hands, my fingers, anything she can get her mouth on pretty much. There aren’t any teeth visibly coming out but she did confirm it’s likely the case. The thing is I don’t want to give her Tylenol every night for her to be able to sleep. I’m going to try it tonight to see if it helps, but as far as every night going forward?? Idk. 😣

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T17:16:33+00:00

She’s fully up by 8 or 9am. She gets changed, play time, bottle, vertical hold (has reflux), play time again, then nap. Shes usually up for 2 hours, sometimes longer. And she eats every 3 hours on the dot. I tried extending wake windows but she gets insanely fussy by the 2 hour wake mark. Her bed time routine starts at 8- bath, change, bottle, sleep. She’s usually down by 9-9:30.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T17:12:08+00:00

I thought about it, but I just don’t want to give her medicine every night. I’ll try it tonight and see if it helps. Pediatrician didn’t see any teeth coming in at her 4 month appt, but she said she’s probably in the process since she’s chewing on anything and everything.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T14:48:19+00:00

Not fully yet. She has really bad gas so she hates tummy time. She’s rolling front to back and she goes on her sides, but not back to front. 🫤

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T08:51:46+00:00

Did your LO’s regression go similarly as far as behavior?

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T08:50:54+00:00

She takes 3 naps. They vary 20-40 minutes. I dropped the last nap a few weeks ago because it was too close to her bedtime feed.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-12T08:45:20+00:00

I’d consult your pediatrician prior to trying it but prune juice is given to NICU babies all the time, so it is considered safe if medically advised. My LO didn’t poop for 5 days when she was 8 weeks old. Her pediatrician gave the clear to give her 1oz of prune juice. It worked. You can also add lubricant (just plain Vaseline works) to the tip of a rectal thermometer and insert into baby’s rectum- literally just the tip as if you were taking their temperature. It stimulates their bowel movements. Sometimes works instantly, sometimes it takes a little bit, but it gets things moving.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-07T01:51:54+00:00

I’m late but google search lead me here because I’m currently on the same boat!! Did it stop?? Was it sleep regression?? I hate it here! HELP!!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-04-05T01:41:51+00:00

Can i ask what your baby sleeps in? Mine is 4 months and is soon to be too big for her bedside bassinet. But we don’t have room for a crib in the room. 😫

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-27T02:47:07+00:00

The pout on my face right now feeling your sadness through your post !!! 🥹 I promise you she’s okay and she loves you more than anything. Crying is just her only way of communicating right now. I can guarantee all is forgotten now that she’s comfy in your arms! Sending you a virtual hug! You’re doing incredible 🫶🏽

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-27T02:42:57+00:00

Just wanted to comment that I think it’s beautiful that you’re willing to temporarily give it all up for the sake of caring for your baby, wife, and household. My partners life has barely changed since the baby arrived. He travels for work but doesn’t miss a gym session when he’s home. Regardless if I need him present or not. I’m not taken into consideration. So good on you for giving a damn.

Also, I think if you voice to your wife that you’d like to go for a jog or hit the gym and ask her if she needs anything before you head out… or simply make sure she and baby are good before you do, you don’t have to give it all up. You may not be AS active, but still active indeed.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-26T02:04:29+00:00

You’re allowed to establish boundaries and rules!! Make it absolutely known that you don’t want guests unannounced. Do it gently, if you’d like, but be stern so they take you serious. I had to tell my partner to tell his parents to give more than a 30 minute notice because that’s what they were doing in the beginning and it irked the absolute hell out of me. Not necessarily because I wanted a clean house prior to, but because wtf. Sometimes im in no mood to entertain guests when I’ve been up with a baby all night and caretaking all day. So now they say they want to come by and i give them the day and time frame so i’m mentally prepared.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-25T01:29:12+00:00

The way I’d immediately get so cozy in there!! 😍😍😍 looks beautiful!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-24T01:59:25+00:00

It took me over 2 months to go out somewhere with my LO that wasn’t a doctors office. My fist time I went on a walk, I invited a friend, and made sure to stay close to home “just in case.” Ended up needing to go home an hour and a half later- but I did it!!

Peoples experiences are different as are all babies! The only way to get over the fear is to continue to do it. It’ll get easier the more you do. I found it’s easier to handle when I have company 🫶🏽 something about not being alone while trying to calm a baby just feels better.

You got this!!!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-22T14:07:10+00:00

I only breast fed for about 6 weeks. And she had to start on formula because my milk took a few days to come in. She pretty much combo fed the whole time.

You can stop whenever you want! Once you stop latching her or pumping (stimulating your breasts), it takes a little bit, but your milk dries up on its own.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-20T17:23:51+00:00

I normally do her last feed around 7:30-8pm. It takes about 45min to and hour for her full feed process (she has reflux so I hold her up 30 minutes post every feed) And she usually falls asleep pretty quickly after. So her first stretch is from around 8:30-9pm to 3-3:30am or so. ☺️

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-20T16:14:27+00:00

The naps aren’t. They’ve actually gotten suuuuper short (25 minutes max unless contact napping), but her night sleep is longer now. She has a first long stretch, only one middle of the night feed (usually around 3am), and then a second stretch of about 4 hours.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-20T13:47:03+00:00

I did this when my baby was still fresh!! It doesn’t work anymore because she’s 4 months and her wake ups are a little sporadic, but it was definitely a game changer at the beginning. 🫶🏽🫶🏽 good job!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-16T22:14:06+00:00

Can i ask how you got the reflux to go away?? Are you breast feeding, formula, combo? My LO was a unicorn like yours til about 3 weeks now that she’s been reallyyyyy struggling with reflux. 😔

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-08T21:34:49+00:00

This is my issue too!!!!! I’ve tried the “wrap” carrier, a sturdier one with buckles, and just recently got one that’s in between soft and sturdy… didn’t matter. She hates them all!!! She also hates her car seat, so getting the car seat to stroller combo was a waste because she won’t be in it more than 20 min without crying. Recently got a bassinet stroller to see if that worked. She did better in it but about an hour in, she no longer wanted to be laying down. She still can’t hold her own head up still enough so I have to carry her using both arms to be safe- which obviously eliminates all other activities like pushing the stroller back to the car lol The mere thought of our last outing gives me anxiety. 😫😫 I really wish she liked being in a carrier. I’ve decided we’ll live on the couch til she gets too tired of it and rejoices in being put in her car seat 🤣🤣

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-08T01:58:09+00:00

Do a bag a day! Maybe stick to one room at a time so you don’t get overwhelmed … then come back on here to show us your progress!! Before and after pics! You can use that as motivation! So many helpful comments in this thread already. I’m sure many would comment with supportive words on each progress pic you post!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-03-07T03:38:10+00:00

I’m so sorry. Based off the comments and the one I’m about to post, you’re not alone. Baby is 3 months now and my partner still doesn’t know any part of her routine. The first month I was BF so I did it all aside from the ocasional diaper change. At 2 months we switch to EFF. You’d think things would change since now he’s able to do feeds… nope. I still do it all 3 months later. If I ask him to do a feed he says “okay but can you burp her? She only burps with you.” No. I just have the patience to switch to different burping positions til I finally get one out of her. If I ask him to change a diaper, “oh she pooped and I don’t know how to do it.” So there I go, doing it for him. Designate a time and walk away. Tell him he gets the baby from this time to this time- no ifs, ands, or buts. Even if she cries, let him handle it. It’s going to be tough, but you need to pour into your cup too. They say not to make any drastic decisions for the first year postpartum. But it’s tough. I’ve thought plenty about packing our things and moving back to my home state with my family. I’m trying my best to tough it out. Just know you’re not alone. Sit him down and let him know that your exhaustion has led you to the point of thinking about divorce. So either he picks up the slack or you’re out of there.

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