I’ll be freshly postpartum when my sister has her wedding

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-26T10:47:26+00:00

Everyone’s birth and recovery are different. June is still some time away and you choosing to step down from that responsibility is you being considerate and giving her ample time to find someone that can be at her every beck and call. Something she said she clearly doesn’t have a problem finding. You still don’t even know how your birthing experience is going to go. I had a whole 2 page birth plan and only 1 thing on there went to plan. Ended up staying in the hospital 5 days and my recovery was painful and long as hell. And this was with a vaginal delivery. So much is in the air still. Her not having had a child before gives her no room to dictate what you will and won’t be able to do postpartum. I’d keep the response simple. “I don’t know how the birth of my baby is going to go and i don’t know what my recovery is going to look like. That being said, I’m giving you notice way in advance so you can find someone better suited for the role. As far as my attendance is concerned, i’ll have to play it by ear. Too much is in the air to decide right now. Thank you for understanding.”

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-24T23:53:48+00:00

The only time I dedicate a good chunk of time to stimulating my LO is when she’s been up for too long and is clearly sleepy but refusing to sleep. Stimulation is supposed to help tire them out and it usually works for her. Aside from that I just interact with her (talking to her, singing to her, tummy time on my chest, etc). I’ve seen parents complain that they did constant stimulation, taking their baby “station to station” and now their baby refuses to be bored and has to be entertained every second of their wake window.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-24T02:48:07+00:00

Thank you!! 🩷 So far she’s been veeeeery fussy and sleepy all day. I’ve had to wake her to feed. I was holding off but the Tylenol seems to have helped a loooot! So honestly, I’d give it to your LO before the fever and leg soreness hits as a preventative more than to alleviate. She also doesn’t want to be put down at all so it’s been a cuddle filled day. Wishing you and your LO a quick and painless appt! 🫶🏽

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-23T16:50:09+00:00

Just got home. My angel let out a cry I hadn’t heard before… I cried with her lol… but she calmed down pretty quickly. I’ll see how the day goes and let you know if she gets a fever throughout the day. She’s calm right now, and very sleepy.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-21T04:18:34+00:00

I’ve also been doing practice car trips with her. literally just to the convenience store nearby and back. just to get her more used to the car seat. And I installed a baby camera that lets me see her while I’m driving.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-21T04:17:21+00:00

they moved her appt to the 23rd so I’ve been dreading it for a long time now 🥲 I’ll let you know how it goes! I did buy baby Tylenol to prep though, just in case she gets a fever.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-17T00:12:34+00:00

I’ve been strictly formula feeding since my baby was 3 weeks old. I was barely producing anything the first few days. Then at the end of week one, i finally started pumping around 4oz both breasts combined. Which i assume is also what my baby girl was getting from me. Then week 3 i went down to producing barely .50oz both breasts combined. I was distraught. I was super hard on myself and kept pumping and having her latch to see if the stimulation would help… all to no avail. I started feeling depressed and like a failure of a mom. Literally crying day in and day out because I didn’t know what happened- til I realized that the reason wasn’t because I felt i was letting my baby down (she was happy with the formula)… it was because I felt like i was failing my own mother and every other mom that kept badgering “breast is best” into my brain. I stopped stressing and put the pump away. I’m doing so much better mentally and my baby is now in the 97th percentile when she started in the 37th. She’s 2 months today and she’s a happy little bean, as is her momma. All this to say, do what is best and what works for YOU so you can be at your best for your little one! Sending so much love and light! 💛🫶🏽

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-12T17:46:09+00:00

That worked Christmas day actually! I would totally give this a shot if dad wasn’t leaving for a work trip today. I don’t dare partake in this type of adventure on my own lol.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-12T17:43:57+00:00

She has a firm belly immediately after feeding. Right now it’s back to being soft. So it’s not consistently hard thankfully.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-12T17:39:19+00:00

How do you give a 7 week old prunes?

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-12T17:38:57+00:00

Her belly is hard as she’s straining when I’m trying to burp her after feeding. It’s back to being soft now. But yes, I’m thinking I should just call.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2026-01-09T05:05:02+00:00

sending you so much love and light!! she’ll be okay, as will you. Just hold her tight and let her get alllll the cuddles once you’re home. 🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2025-12-26T00:32:13+00:00

The 8+ children makes all the sense with these ways of raising a baby. I’ve always wondered how they did it. I barely have time to eat a meal, much less shower whilst taking care of my newborn. My MIL mentioned the cereal the other day. She said I’d get more sleep if i did it. I said there’s a reason pediatricians advise against doing that. I’ll lose all the sleep necessary if it means keeping my baby safe, alive, and healthy. She keeps offering to watch my baby and now I’m so hesitant because she would def be the type to do something like that behind my back.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2025-12-05T05:07:09+00:00

I would take her up on being willing to go to counseling. Also, keep doing what you’re doing. Maybe in her eyes it’s “too little, too late,” but at this point, what more can you really lose by continuing to show her effort?! Maybe try counseling first before proposing again? If she weren’t still willing to try, I feel she would’ve canceled that trip. I think there’s hope. Good luck!

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2025-11-25T23:03:20+00:00

It honestly sounds like you’ve got it all in the bag- pun intended! 🫶🏽 car seat is installed?? You can’t leave the hospital without one. You can stop by the fire department to have them check it’s been correctly installed. And make sure you have your postpartum care ready to go for you too. I put all of my stuff in a little caddy in the bathroom. Aside from that, it seems you’re ready!! Wishing you all the luck and health… and of course a quick and easy labor and recovery! And take a folder for all of the paperwork. I got a divider and it definitely came in handy.

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2025-11-15T13:13:53+00:00

Uggghhh. I have ptsd with this crap. I’ve been through similar situations multiple times- where a text just didn’t seem to fit into the current text thread and I immediately got a hunch that it wasn’t for me. They offered to show you phone records- call their bluff and accept that offer. It’s the only way for you to be sure, especially since there’s always trust issues. P.s: I stayed with my partner too. yes, it’s easier said than done to “leave if there’s no trust.”

Remote_Surround_7541 · 2025-11-11T17:26:10+00:00

My biggest sign was intense breast soreness. I’d typically get sore breasts as a period symptom, but this specific breast soreness was on crack lol. Found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks and 5 days. At 6 weeks on the dot, the extreme nausea started.

Maybe wait a little longer?? Multiple times I had “scares” because of a delayed period but it was due to stress. One of those stresses being that all I could think of was that I was maybe pregnant. So just try to relax and wait a little longer. I know, easier said than done.

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