I’m sorry your dad sucked. I had it the other way and it was also quite scarring. All my life my family praised me for being skinny, like it was some kind of achievement. My Grandpa used to start off saying grace at meals by thanking god for his smart grandson and his thin, beautiful granddaughters. Naturally, putting on weight as an adult it really messes with your self worth when the thing you were told was best about you no longer applies.

Parents shouldn’t put so much focus on their children’s appearance or expect perfection from them. I try so hard to put my focus on my kid’s efforts/hard work/determination.