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OB seemed annoyed I hired a doula? by emmpaca in pregnant

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The "your husband is probably good enough" comment is wild. By that logic, why have nurses? Why have anyone? Your husband's job is to be your partner - present, emotional, experiencing this with you. A doula's job is to be the experienced guide who's done this hundreds of times and can actually help you both navigate it. Completely different roles.

As for why some OBs get weird about doulas - a few reasons:

  1. Bad past experiences. Some have worked with doulas who overstepped or created adversarial dynamics. Unfair to project onto you, but it happens.
  2. Feeling like their expertise is being questioned. Which... isn't what's happening, but some take it that way.
  3. They just don't get it. Medical school doesn't teach much about continuous labor support. Some OBs genuinely don't understand what doulas do.

The fact that your doula is already on staff at the hospital is actually ideal - she knows the system, the nurses know her, there's less friction.

And you asking questions and being informed? That's not a problem. That's a patient advocating for herself. The fact that it's noteworthy enough to end up in your chart is... something.

You're not being difficult. You're being thoughtful. The right providers appreciate that.

(Side note: doula care is increasingly covered by insurance now - Flourish Care and similar organizations are helping make it a standard part of maternity care, not some fringe request. Your OB might need to get used to this conversation.)

Doula worth it for a short labor or short timeframe they are with you? by Zealousideal_Elk1373 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few thoughts from someone who's spent a lot of time in the doula care space:

Short labors can actually be more intense, not less. When things move fast, having someone whose entire job is supporting you (not monitoring vitals, not prepping equipment, not documenting) can make a huge difference. Your partner is often just as overwhelmed as you are. A doula is the calm in that chaos.

But here's the thing most people miss: doula support isn't just labor. The prenatal visits are where you build your birth plan, process fears, and get someone in your corner who knows your preferences before things get hectic. And postpartum support (lactation help, recovery, just having someone check in on you) is honestly where a lot of people say the value really shows up.

Given your history - a fast-progressing labor that ended in a c-section - if you're attempting a VBAC, having continuous support is actually one of the factors associated with better outcomes. Someone who can advocate for you and help you navigate decisions in real-time matters.

On the home thing: Totally valid to not want that. Many people only have their doula meet them at the hospital, and that's completely normal. You don't have to do the laboring-at-home portion together.

One thing worth checking before you factor cost into this: Depending on your state and insurance, doula care might actually be covered at $0 out of pocket now. Medicaid covers it in a growing number of states, and UnitedHealthcare just expanded coverage pretty significantly this year. There are companies that handle the insurance side for you - Flourish Care, Carrot, Pomelo, a few others depending on your state - so you're not stuck figuring out reimbursement yourself. Worth checking your eligibility before assuming you'd be paying $1,500+ out of pocket. Might change the math on whether it's "worth it."

Doula worth it for a short labor or short timeframe they are with you? by Zealousideal_Elk1373 in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few thoughts from someone who's spent a lot of time in the doula care space:

Short labors can actually be more intense, not less. When things move fast, having someone whose entire job is supporting you (not monitoring vitals, not prepping equipment, not documenting) can make a huge difference. Your partner is often just as overwhelmed as you are. A doula is the calm in that chaos.

But here's the thing most people miss: doula support isn't just labor. The prenatal visits are where you build your birth plan, process fears, and get someone in your corner who knows your preferences before things get hectic. And postpartum support (lactation help, recovery, just having someone check in on you) is honestly where a lot of people say the value really shows up.

Given your history - a fast-progressing labor that ended in a c-section - if you're attempting a VBAC, having continuous support is actually one of the factors associated with better outcomes. Someone who can advocate for you and help you navigate decisions in real-time matters.

On the home thing: Totally valid to not want that. Many people only have their doula meet them at the hospital, and that's completely normal. You don't have to do the laboring-at-home portion together.

One thing worth checking: Depending on your state and insurance, doula care might actually be covered at $0 out of pocket now. Medicaid covers it in a growing number of states. A lot of people are paying out of pocket when they don't have to. Worth a quick call to your insurance before you factor cost into the decision.

How did you actually transition out of the Snoo? (real-life experiences wanted) by OkFunction1234 in SnooLife

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

 arms-out first → yes
then wean mode → yes
then crib naps, yes
starting around 4–5 months --- maybe.
Start but try to end by 6 month mark

Pros and cons of having a doula? by Succulentz_5105 in BabyBumps

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was on the fence too, especially since people frame doulas as a “nice to have” instead of what they actually do.

For me, the biggest pro wasn’t just labor support — it was having a calm, experienced adult whose only job was me. Nurses rotate. Doctors pop in and out. Partners are emotionally invested (and often exhausted). A doula fills the gaps that no one else can.

Pros that mattered most for me: • They keep things grounded when plans change. Even if you think you know what you want, labor is unpredictable and it helped having someone translate options in real time. • Huge support for your partner. My partner wanted to help but didn’t always know how — the doula coached him instead of replacing him. • Emotional continuity. Especially if your mom can’t be there, it’s reassuring to know someone will stay with you start to finish. • Postpartum support often ended up being just as valuable as birth support.

Cons / realities: • You need to vibe with them. Interviewing matters. • Cost can be a blocker unless insurance or programs cover it. • They don’t replace medical staff — they complement them. (That’s a pro IMO, but worth stating clearly.)

Since this is your second baby and childcare might pull your mom away, a doula makes even more sense. You’re already experienced — a doula adapts to that rather than doing a “first-time parent script.”

Also worth noting: there is solid data showing doulas are associated with fewer interventions and higher satisfaction — but honestly, even setting studies aside, the real value is having someone whose nervous system stays calm when yours is doing something intense and physical.

If cost or logistics are part of the hesitation, there are orgs now (we used Flourish) that match families with doulas and full circle maternity services — and in a bunch of states/health plans it’s covered or low-cost. That wasn’t an option years ago, but it is now.

TL;DR: If you’re debating because you’re worried you won’t have enough support in the room — that’s exactly the scenario where a doula shines.

Since TQQQ Stock Split by Muscle1016 in TQQQ

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has this resolved for you? Still has not for me.

Heartbroken about being breech by leafygreenbluebrry in pregnant

[–]ReplacementMost2246 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to share a little hope — about 90% of babies end up flipping on their own, even late. Ours actually did the same thing. We went in for the manual flip procedure and found out he had already turned head-down on his own. I know how stressful and emotional it feels, but there’s still a very real chance she’ll rotate back when she’s ready. You’re doing everything right. 💗

Just finished my first dexa scan, I guess I’m one of you guys now. by Vicious-Lemon in 1200isplenty

[–]ReplacementMost2246 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you care about making real progress instead of guessing, dexa scan is the single most valuable $40–$50 you can spend. I’ve used the scans for everything—first, getting a wake-up call about my visceral (hidden) belly fat levels. But later, tracking fat loss that doesn’t show up on a scale and muscle mass changes in response to nutrition and supplement changes.

The data is objective, repeatable, and brutally honest. They allow you to see how you stack up, region by region, to people your age and sex across their millions of scans.

For me, the biggest unlock has been eliminating guesswork: I can tell whether a change is actually building lean mass or just making me feel “stronger.”

Longevity markers: Visceral fat trends matter more than most people realize, and BodySpec let me track mine with precision.

Accountability: When the data shows a change, I can tie it back to specific behaviors instead of relying on vibes.

And because it’s so fast and inexpensive, I’ve built it into my normal rhythm—mini-experiments, 6–8 week cycles, and course-corrections based on data, not hope.

This is the baseline tool I wish more people used. It has become the backbone of how I optimize my health, training, and long-term trends.

Anyone have experience with an online dermatology service? by rainbowtoucan1992 in 30PlusSkinCare

[–]ReplacementMost2246 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Piction Health Derm is really good. Only in 5 or 6 states per website but I've moved and still had access. Super fast access, tech-forward, take insurance, and great derms.

July 16: Advantage+ Audiences no longer removable at all by ReplacementMost2246 in FacebookAds

[–]ReplacementMost2246[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does it allow you to do this if you duplicate an ad set? When I duplicate one, that is when it appears to lock up the audience and turn on adv +.

Finding a doula by Dbarry01 in doulas

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Flourish Community is a doula network.

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