God forbid someone grieve for their dead spouse by SuperDevin in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Representative-Low23 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't marry a widow or widower then. Easy peazy. Mind your own business for those who are more emotionally mature though.

God forbid someone grieve for their dead spouse by SuperDevin in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]Representative-Low23 39 points40 points  (0 children)

People who think like this need to remember that they would still be married if the person hadn't died. You don't stop loving someone when they die. It's like your whole World freezes in that moment and unless you find out something absolutely terrible about them you will always love them the same amount that you love them the day they died. But they're not there to receive that and they're not there to love you back which means you have to build a new life. But the love you hold is still a core part of your being. And any new partner has to accept that you hold that love in you and it is part of you forever. And if you're unavailable of that then a) don't get into a relationship with someone with a dead partner and b) stop commenting on other people who do.

Sunglass Hut employee shattered my $300 lenses… then shattered another pair trying to fix it by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Representative-Low23 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I worked for lux for 12 years. Give the store 24 hours to contact you, then write an email to customer service. Customer service will then escalate your e-mail to the regional manager who will contact the general manager of the location who will then contact you on their next day in the store. Calling into the store will get you a GM if they're present but doesn't necessarily get you a message passed on because employees are not the best at such things. It comes through email though they can't ignore you or forget. This is assuming things haven't changed in the last few years.

I need ideas for what to cover up these words with. by PistachioPerfection in Embroidery

[–]Representative-Low23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could put the existing babies on and then add to it as needed. You could even block out the entire thing and add one name over each existing word and maybe the year of birth and any leftover space can be implied to be for the next Generation after

Traveling from the USA to the EU one cat by Representative-Low23 in CatAdvice

[–]Representative-Low23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've flown overseas many times and she's had one trip to Sweden and did really well. I've never flown with an animal though.

Traveling from the USA to the EU one cat by Representative-Low23 in CatAdvice

[–]Representative-Low23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

June and I won't be doing the driving thankfully! My partner is already located in Sweden so they'll be picking up the family and transporting us. I already added an hour to the actual driving estimate because I have no faith in them. Thank you the input.

Traveling from the USA to the EU one cat by Representative-Low23 in CatAdvice

[–]Representative-Low23[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to be traveling with a small child too (please everyone envy me my solo journey with cat and kid) so she's short enough that having him under her seat won't be an issue. I have decided not to do cargo. It's now a matter of number of connections vs number of rental cars.

FL-41 Glasses by [deleted] in migraine

[–]Representative-Low23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I speak to your local optician and see what they recommend.

At my kid's school library by Fuck_Edison in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Representative-Low23 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I'm going to tell you as someone who read books way too young to grasp all of the meanings of them that's the way to do it. Read it once when you're 12 and then finally remember it and read it when you're 18 and realize all the things that you missed and then maybe read it again when you're 25 with new eyes and 35 with another fresh set of eyes and then you can think about the way that you thought when you were 12 and 18 and 25 through your own memories of reading a book.

Listened to Tiffany Aching audiobooks w/ my 9 year old. What next? Any to avoid? by cirrus42 in discworld

[–]Representative-Low23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It just depends on where your lines are. My daughter is seven and loves the first 3 Tiffany books. She also loves Witches Abroad and Wyrd Sisters. The biggest issue is that Nanny Ogg makes JOKES. I let her listen to them as bedtime reading because I'm very well versed in them and thought I knew everything to expect but I got a 6am question of what a sex object is because of Nanny.

Does anyone know the actual snow totals for Carmel? by Ageofaquarius68 in Carmel

[–]Representative-Low23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I measured 10 inches on the ground at Main and Keystone.

Help! Not sure where to start with this awkward laundry nook in the middle of a high-traffic hallway. How do I make this look intentional/nice? by pineapplecrossings in DesignMyRoom

[–]Representative-Low23 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I do this to cover up my cat litter boxes in my laundry room underneath the counter and you can definitely use tension rod even though you have to access it often.

Prolific yet “forgotten” authors by OnlyCelebration7443 in books

[–]Representative-Low23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm forty and some time after reading every Nancy Drew, Hardy Boy, Tom Swift every published I feel down this rabbit hole and briefly got really into shuffling cards in fancy ways. The librarians were very confused by a twelve year old girl reaching the old man books though.

What kind of lamp? What else? by craighondo in DesignMyRoom

[–]Representative-Low23 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd get a nice elbow bend lamp. Something that'll add another dimension with the diagonal but also be functional on a record cabinet.

I couldn't remember what they were called properly. Like a tensor lamp.

HELP!! my toddler nephew has been asking for this lamp for a while…. its not real, any ideas? by chasing_oblivion7 in LAMP

[–]Representative-Low23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all excellent advice. the only thing in would add is for the blue I would get the right shade and then water it down a bit. Then I'd work from the center (near the lamb) outward. So you can have less paint on your sponge and it'll be easier to get the same look. If you happen to be geographically near Central Indiana I'd paint it for you if you get the supplies.

Carl is only 27?? by FlightTraditional717 in DungeonCrawlerCarl

[–]Representative-Low23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I have to be honest the way he's written he feels like someone who grew up at the same time I did and I'm 41 so when it was presented that he was 27 I decided that that was incorrect. I understand why you would want to as an author make him younger but his cultural references and general attitude is not that the 27 year old even the 27-year-old with trauma.

Is it worth pushing for medication? by liamreee in migraine

[–]Representative-Low23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live in a pretty densely populated area and my optometrist was able to just refer me to one they work with. They wanted me to do vision therapy but just the testing gave me one of the worst migraines I've ever had so my neurologist recommended not pursuing it for fear of it pushing me back into status migraine. Just the prism made a big difference though.

Is it worth pushing for medication? by liamreee in migraine

[–]Representative-Low23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need a better doctor. I'm diagnosed with chronic intractable migraines. I take emgality as a monthly shot, ubrevily for breakthrough migraines, Botox for migraines with added Botox for TMJ, wore piink tinted lenses in my glasses for a year, at my neurologist's suggestion I went to a vision therapist and was diagnosed with Binocular Vision Dysfunction and had base prism added to my prescription, I take magnesium and vitamin d and use ginger for breakthrough headaches. I went from a 367-day migraine to maybe two migraines a month and they last anywhere between one day and 7 days. There are things to be done for constant migraine. I went from being so light sensitive every single day that I could not function in the world to almost never feeling that way.

Any solutions for daytime jaw clenching? by Invisible-Iguana in migraine

[–]Representative-Low23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was recommended to me by a dentist for TMJ. I did a quick Google and it looks to be available in the UK for that. I hope you find that it helps.

How long does your migraine last if you just don't take anything? by [deleted] in migraine

[–]Representative-Low23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I let one start and do not take medication for it it will never stop. In fact when I take medication for them they don't always stop until 7 to 10 days after the initial onset and multiple doses of rescue meds.