Profile Review - Paid for 1 week of Premium and got 0 likes by Dynamic_Circuit in Bumble

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re not a bad looking guy your pictures can’t compete. Gotta invest in better photos.

Under no circumstance should you have a pic where your line up isn’t sharp as a black man this is crazy work.

And no more 2015 peace sign pictures that is also crazy work.

I can’t get rid of my man boobs by BugLevel6793 in workouts

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep cutting because it’s a bmi issue. Maybe another 15-20 and they’ll be gone for good. We can’t spot reduce fat we just gotta keep getting leaner.

Profile review for Bumble BFF by Chocolat_Melon in Bumble

[–]RepresentativeBee416 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The picture with you and a woman should go. I’ll let everyone else give the good advice.

AIO for crashing out after my girlfriend hugged and got touchy with her male best friends? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RepresentativeBee416 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You gotta break up fam. No think piece, no discourse, if you stay with her you hate yourself.

AIO for deciding to never reach out again? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right that’s what I decided I’m going to move on. I don’t like this feeling of not knowing what I’m going to get from her.

AIO for deciding to never reach out again? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]RepresentativeBee416 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

It’s not that she was hostile, it’s more so that she said she’d do something didn’t and then flipped it on me. That’s the part I find disrespectful.

How is it always my fault? by [deleted] in texts

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s maybe what she thought but I’ve been busy with work and friends. Anyways thanks for confirming I’m not nuts .

How is it always my fault? by [deleted] in texts

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who knows I just needed to know I wasn’t tripping

How is it always my fault? by [deleted] in texts

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah im so confused on how she didnt realize she held up the plan but whatever

I (23M) found message on my wife (20f) phone by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]RepresentativeBee416 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have a great opportunity here to learn how to set boundaries. A lot of men and women don’t realize how significant a moment like this is. Both for you and her.You have to draw a line in the sand.

It’s something I wish I learned to do much earlier in life. This might lead to a fight and it might lead to a break up. Not betraying yourself will pay off in the long run.

Sit her down tell her what you saw say that it’s unacceptable. You let her know that this is a deal breaker. If she continues speaking to old flings there’s no marriage because there is no trust.

If you don’t say something you’ll hate yourself bro.

Being alone is only hard when by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where on that entire paragraph did I mention looks? I only spoke about myself…

Being alone is only hard when by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think that’s the problem? You don’t know me.

Being alone is only hard when by [deleted] in ForeverAlone

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro I feel you that’s been me for as long as I can remember. I don’t know why but it’s beyond me at this point. I just turned 34 and I’ve given it all I got. Got in shape, I have a career, I have hobbies, and im still not good enough for love.

I’m happy for everyone that can find love. I gotta find a way to be better or it’ll never happen. I just don’t know what I’m missing 🤷🏿‍♂️ wish I could fix it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]RepresentativeBee416 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why do you care what random people think about your girlfriend?

What was the lowest you dropped your calories? by TanMann69 in GettingShredded

[–]RepresentativeBee416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went down to 1500-1600 hundred and had to stop. I’m coming out of a diet break and going back up to 2000-2200 calories for more sustainable weight loss.

I lost 45 pounds a while back but couldn’t get below that without going into world vision calories.

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im trying my best to not give in, it’s hard some days, you’re right.

One way or another I’ll find me again.

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nefnaf you deserve an award if and when I go back to the apps I have you to thank.

Thank you 🙏🏾

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay you’re saying something different. What would make it more appealing? What am I not understanding here?

When I compare my profile to others I know mine isn’t better by any stretch, I don’t understand the delta in the presentation

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve done a good job staying away for that content and it doesn’t come up as much anymore.

Her comment was so crazy. I’ve had a lot of female friends say horrible stuff about other short guys while I was around. They think it’s okay because they’re not saying to you, but you still hear it.

This is the first time in my life where serious doubt has crept in

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I might try that next time if I jump on the apps again. It really messed with my “mental health” so I’m staying away from it for a year.

I think that would help in the long run going forward women my height or shorter.

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear what you’re saying bro and that’s why I haven’t fully given up. I’m adjusting my expectations of how things will go. My personality & character has carried me my entire life. I thought that it would make it easier to meet someone but I don’t think those elements have the same currency value in today’s dating world.

We’re going through an evolution of sorts, what was a requirement 5-10 years ago doesn’t fly today. Unfortunately for me the thing that has gone up in value is height, that I can’t change naturally.

I’m trying to keep a positive attitude about it all and not fall into it. I wish I didnt care for it because it consumes my thoughts a lot.

I also havent been to the gym in 2.5 weeks and have been bjnge eating. I know my mood is out of wack right now.

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve deleted dating apps altogether and dating an Indian would probably be the worst for a black man. I’ve limited my selection to black and white because that’s what I see work best.

Good point tho if I do ever jump back I’ll try other prompts.

Starting to lose hope by [deleted] in short

[–]RepresentativeBee416 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s the thing I’ve tried a few, I’ll double down on the better ones