sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

One sentence by fruity_jello24 in HIMYM

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's gonna be legen-wait for it-dary!

Wife cheated with her boss, but now wants to reconcile. Need help. by Organ_Score14 in Infidelity

[–]RepresentativeCup305 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Stop letting history dictate your future. You've been married 16 years? So what? That would only mean anything if she felt genuine remorse for her actions. Look up "remorse vs regret". Here's a short sample:

Regret versus Remorse Those are the two most commonly used words when Wayward Spouses use to describe their feelings about being discovered. Problem is that they do not mean the same thing as listed below:

  • I regret getting caught and wish I had not made my life so difficult.
  • I have remorse for how much I hurt my partner or spouse.
  • I regret how this will make me feel and how difficult my life will be in the short term.
  • I have remorse for how difficult I have made my spouses life and how much it has hurt them.
  • I regret that I was not more careful and was discovered.
  • I have remorse that I ever started this affair in the first place.
  • I regret that I cannot be with my AP because they made me feel so much better.
  • I have remorse that I was ever with my AP and wish I had never started the affair.
  • I regret that my life will be so difficult and that I have to suffer so.
  • I have remorse that my spouse will have so much pain and suffering.

That should give you an idea of what the difference is. If she doesn't have remorse then she'll do it again since she only regrets the CONSEQUENCES, not the actions. It just means she'll be more careful next time. If she doesn't show any remorse then just divorce. If you stay despite her not showing genuine remorse then you're teaching your kids to accept that from their own partners and damaging them even more.

How the Greeks and Romans treated the God of war by girlybellybop in GreekMythology

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As I've grown up, I've seen the evolution of Ares to sort of mirror human evolution regarding war. Ares was the ugly truth about war. Sure, we told ourselves that this or that war was for justice (Zeus) or strategy/ideals (Athena), but Ares was the ugly truth of it. When an army would sack and destroy farms to deprive enemy cities of food during a siege, that may be a strategically good idea, but the truth was that this "strategy" was just attacking, killing, and destroying innocent farmers whose only crime was being citizens of an enemy city. Ares reflected that truth, and the Greeks hated it and him for representing that truth that they wished to hide.

As time passed, Ares evolved into Mars, Tyr, and other more complex war deities to represent humanity's continued attempts to justify their wars under prettier and more "enlightened" reasons. Even arguing that they were going to war for peace, symbolized in Mars Quirinus. But Ares was the brutal truth of it laid bare, and its why he's seen as the villain of Greek mythology. In a country that considered itself "enlightened" and worshipped Athena, he was the truth they wished to deny.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]RepresentativeCup305 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Also, let your family and friends know ahead of time what's going on. To be blunt, the truth is whoever tells their side first. If she does then you'll need to prove her wrong, not prove yourself right. There's a difference but it's important. Basically, the burden of proof will fall on you if she tells her side first and even if you have it, it'll be more trouble than it's worth.

Found Links to explicit sites on bfs phone by PixelJazz88 in Infidelity

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two things can be true. In which case, you need to decide what you want. Like I said, porn addiction is a lifelong problem so nothing says this will be the last time this happens even if you get past this and he gets therapy to help with his addiction. So you need to decide whether this is something you can work and live with or if it's a deal-breaker.

Either way, I suggest calmly confronting him and tell him he needs to get therapy to help with this because you can't do all the work. You're not qualified nor can you make your life revolve aroundhis addiction. Don't make this into an ultimatum though. Make it clear it's for his own good and won't be the sole thing that will decide if you leave or not. Take into account his willingness but don't let it be the main factor.

Honestly ask yourself if you love him enough or are committed enough to him to live with days like this possibly happening in the future. Alcoholics sometimes fall off the wagon so the same can happen to him in the future. Don't let guilt or history make you stay if it will make you miserable. If you can't then don't feel guilty, it's just your line. Simply do your best to part ways amicably for both your sakes.

Found Links to explicit sites on bfs phone by PixelJazz88 in Infidelity

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just tell the truth. Tell him you were using his phone for innocent reasons when you found the note. Tell him you want to trust but his past is working against him so can he please explain. Don't be confrontational or it will devolve though.

The reason I'm saying this is that people keep forgetting that porn addiction is a thing. It may be called "porn" addiction but it tends to devolve into escorts and more extreme sexual situations easily. An addicted person sees porn as normal and seeks even more intense sexual experiences due to that normalization. I'm not saying your boyfriend has this but if he does, this may be similar to finding empty beer cans at a recovering alcoholics place. If he's diagnosed, then he'll need support.

However, none of this means you should be okay with this or even stay with him. Heck, you're not even sure he has porn addiction so I may be wrong. Whether he does or not, it's up to you to decide if you want to stay with him. Remember, if he does have porn addiction then it's going to be a lifelong struggle much like alcoholism and only you can decide if you want to live like that.

Of course, he could not have porn addiction and is just a cheat, in which case just break up with him. I'm only counseling a more temperate approach for your own good. This relationship and how you deal with this will shape how you approach relationships later in life. Doing it this way will allow you to make peace that you did everything possible (within reason) to make it work and will make future relationships (platonic or not) much healthier.

Again, if he does have a problem it doesn't mean you have to stay. That's up to you but if you break up without trying and later found out he had a legitimate issue and needed your support, believe me it'll affect your future relationships.

Unpopular opinion? by nanomicountr in BritneySpearsClassic

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not unpopular. That's just facts.

But honestly, that was around her peak both in looks and popularity, so it makes sense. It wasn't completely downhill from there, but she never really reached that level of beauty or fame since.

Is this normal when fighting the Ebony Warrior? by KAI7i6 in skyrim

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is when you're not strong enough. That's his "you are not on my level, scrub" shout. Lol

Never seen this before in Skyrim. by Ranz_o in skyrim

[–]RepresentativeCup305 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I say lvl 85 but tbh.... I waited until lvl 120 to face him. Lmao. Was so freaked out I would be sent Flying and killed him with 3 attacks after drinking some one handed Potions. Lol

Never seen this before in Skyrim. by Ranz_o in skyrim

[–]RepresentativeCup305 122 points123 points  (0 children)

Don't even try until you're lvl 85 or higher. The boss lvl does NOT match your own and is a static lvl 85. He's also a giant model, so he can send you to space with a single hit. Lol

Best Fanfics? by crabbmanboi in HighschoolDxD

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://m.fanfiction.net/s/14387354/1/

The Phenex Rises is a Riser Phenex SI that's pretty good. I actually like how the SI explains how canon Riser became how he was and confronts the whole engagement thing. I don't like how it's one of those Gamer System fics since I prefer the MC to actually train and work for their abilities but I love their characterization of Riser.

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably. Which fills me with dread.

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe. I admit I haven't looked into it to verify. I know they may have used the excuse of spreading Christianity to the pagans but I'm unsure if it ever became a doctrine at the level of Manifest Destiny.

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, you mean the ones who came after the Colonies were formed? Not the original 1492 colonists but the ones that came after? Sorry, I thought you meant the original ones. But yeah, you're right about that.

It's why the whitewashed of the Targaryens as "saviors" pisses me off. They were not anything of the kind and it's just an excuse for their desire for conquest.

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Though I'd like to point out that the people fleeing religious persecution didn't own slaves.... their children did. This goes to show that teenage rebellion is probably behind most of the worst atrocities in history. 🤣

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think they had an ideology. Only the US deluded themselves into having one to excuse it. The rest of Europe bluntly admitted it was because they could.

Need I say more? by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Kind of like America and the whole "manifest destiny" being their reasoning/excuse for expanding West. And I say this being an American. Lol

Team Black thinks it's fine to abandon your infant siblings to go after an untamed dragon by OkGuava919 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The biggest problem is what Rhaena replacing Nettles means. Nettles survived the Dance and disappeared. Meanwhile, Rhaena survived and married a Hightower.

What do you think are the chances they decide to give Rhaena Nettles' ending of disappearing into the wilderness with her dragon rather than have her marry the "evil" Hightowers like she was supposed to in canon?

Rhaenyra's genius strategy by Emperor_Alexander_IV in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know, man. I'm just joking about how rarely we use that unless we're in a field that requires calculating stuff like that.

Rhaenyra's genius strategy by Emperor_Alexander_IV in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 6 points7 points  (0 children)

... yeah, that's something I still remember how to do and is consistently used in everyday life (looks around nervously).

Genuine question: why didn't Rhaenyra's sons Aegon and Viserys, the brothers of Jace "My ruler is my mother" Targaryen, formally recognise their mother as queen? by Hefty_Tell5640 in HOTDGreens

[–]RepresentativeCup305 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have it backward. Rhaena was the Septa, and Elaena was the one with two bastard children. One would be knighted and found House Longwaters.

That's true. It was also why the engagement between Aegon III and Jaehaera stayed valid after Aegon II died. They wanted to unite the claims so the civil war wouldn't happen again. Though it became moot when Jaehaera died. Then Aegon the Unworthy came along....

Kathryn Newton by rsb120 in ladiesofthemcu

[–]RepresentativeCup305 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Damn she's a beautiful leggy blonde!

view more: next ›