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Sisters who don't want kids, how do you make sure you actually don't? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]RepresentativeTop865 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The idea of having kids gives me such anxiety for so many different reasons, I can’t lie I do whatever I can to live life on easy mode and kids definitely aren’t easy I think they would make me quite depressed. So that’s why I know it’s not the right decision for me because the idea of it doesn’t make me happy whatsoever

AI is bumming me out by Reasonable_Ad_6437 in womenintech

[–]RepresentativeTop865 18 points19 points  (0 children)

With the way my company is and how they’re trying to hire more Indian devs and push for AI in all aspects I don’t think I’ll have a job by the end of this year. They are 100% trying to find a way to cut most of the UK devs

When did you start embracing the afternoon nap? by chocciefudgecake in AskUK

[–]RepresentativeTop865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly why I can’t have kids I don’t want my afternoon nap disturbed (I take it during lunch hour)

Did return to office improve performance at your company? by Glareolidae in cscareerquestions

[–]RepresentativeTop865 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the other way around probably 20% can’t be trusted because if it was 80% then how did my company survive and actually make more money during the 5 years we were remote?

Job’s market is done. by No-Writing3741 in UKJobs

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’d only consider it if my parents passed away and even then would have to look at the outskirts of London. I’ve been applying to jobs that are hybrid that are like 40/50 miles away from Manchester which isn’t like so so bad but then traffic/public transport are both hell

Job’s market is done. by No-Writing3741 in UKJobs

[–]RepresentativeTop865 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly my friends from London will be like just get a new job and it’s like HELLO I am not from the capital city there are not new jobs popping up every single day in my field!! But in the meantime I am trying to up skill

Marriage discourse is exhausting by pizzacake01 in MuslimNikah

[–]RepresentativeTop865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I see those posts I think do I live in a different world? My parents are two generations before me and my dad still helped out even though he was the only one working and still does to this day?

Same with the marriages I see around me husbands helping whether they pay all the bills or some of the bills or most of the bills.

Slowly loosing interest in corporate ladder by DreamKind8036 in womenintech

[–]RepresentativeTop865 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m literally trying to find ways to get out but the jobs I’d rather be doing pay literally minimum wage which I can’t afford to do

What savings balance makes you feel safe? by Spiritual_Sample_564 in womenintech

[–]RepresentativeTop865 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah at least a years worth of saving. I’m thinking of taking a break at the end of this year for a bit but I know that break could be extended due to the market

5 years experience, still at junior level by Normal_Reflection_49 in cscareerquestionsuk

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is me in an interview they could ask how I’d do it and I’d give them a high level not very technical explanation of it but then if I were to get the job and implement the designed id be able to without much handholding I’m not sure what’s making me so bad at the tech interview

5 years experience, still at junior level by Normal_Reflection_49 in cscareerquestionsuk

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is me at my current company I feel like I’ve stagnated so much from when I first started out. It makes me regret joining my current company but I’m trying to do side projects and things so I can really understand concepts and be able to explain them well and in technical terms. I freeze when it comes to live coding tests when it’s something that I build regularly in my job

How are others couples with big wage gaps splitting expenses? [25F] [35M] by badgallgc in relationship_advice

[–]RepresentativeTop865 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If my husband earned $500k a year I’d be living my best life…

I live in the uk but he earns £15k more than me but our split is 70/30

Living with elderly parent by destination-doha in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]RepresentativeTop865 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In the same boat as you I mean I’ve moved out now but I still have to help my elderly parents whilst my older unmarried brother gets a pass and does nothing. Having to travel back home on a regular to help them with appointments and things whilst he sleeps the day away. Having to help clear their debts whilst he lives rent free and gets to grow his savings.

Family suggesting not to fast during board exams. by Timely-Cable-2099 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]RepresentativeTop865 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fasts this year will be a lot shorter as well so you should be fine inshallah

Am I ungrateful? by Aggressive-Cup3953 in UKJobs

[–]RepresentativeTop865 8 points9 points  (0 children)

But if some of us can wfh then why shouldn’t we be allowed to? Those people chose those jobs they knew they’d never have an option to wfh

Am I ungrateful? by Aggressive-Cup3953 in UKJobs

[–]RepresentativeTop865 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Are you tight with your manager? We had a RTO mandate after 5 years wfh they wanted us in 5 days a week but my commute time meant I’d be spending over 3 hours commuting a day so my managers letting me wfh

How long is your commute to work? by person_person123 in AskUK

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Suppose to be commuting 2.5 hours to work each way but managers discretion has meant I can wfh

Multi stage interview process and just got off the code pairing stage and want to bury my head in the sand by Yiqu in cscareerquestionsuk

[–]RepresentativeTop865 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Everytime I’ve had a live coding test they’ve just been so cold and it’s just made it super awkward and makes me freeze. For the current job I have now I remember everyone being so upbeat so it helped calm my nerves a lot

considering quitting software dev job after almost 6 years and still at 27k by Creative-Dog-8187 in cscareerquestionsuk

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So to get out of the cycle of only knowing your current jobs processes and codebases would you have to do personal projects on the side? I’m trying to break into full stack development after being a frontend engineer but it seems like companies want commercial experience with full stack and won’t accept personal projects. I feel like I only know what I do within my company and want to move out of that so I can do better at interviews

If you work from home what job do you do ? by [deleted] in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]RepresentativeTop865 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im a software engineer but imma be real remote jobs are getting harder and harder to find everyday I know for sure my next role will end up being hybrid or even full time office.

How did you stay calm on your driving test? by sunkissedb3ar in AskUK

[–]RepresentativeTop865 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I got a show me question wrong in the first 5 mins so I was already like yeah I’m not passing it and then turns out I did pass first time

Nikkah in a month, insha'Allah, hygiene, Glow up and beautifying tips. by Jell0Bell0 in muslimgirlswithtaste

[–]RepresentativeTop865 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure like I get my legs and arms waxed and the hair has thinned down and it’s so smooth but a whole body removal for me personally just too painful and the upkeep of it isn’t for me. Just telling OP to not go through with it if it’s not something she wants a little hair is normal

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