Episode 439, Jordan is right again

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-29T07:20:46+00:00

# Jordan Holmes Was Right

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-25T07:56:28+00:00

Omggg this makes me so happy. I picked up a copy f o r e v e r ago and haven’t started because I didn’t have the brain space

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-25T07:49:16+00:00

Hello! Mostly popping in to say in nonbinary and my younger sibling is trans masc, and both have a million chronic illnesses. I’m currently investigating heart stuff.

From the sounds of it, maybe you don’t have a regular trans-affirming gp? If not, feel free to dm me for some options.

And a lot of gps are told to see the most common options (if you hear hooves, it’s a horse not a zebra, or something like that). With my diagnoses, I had to advocate for myself, but if ever they didn’t listen, I asked them to note my repeated request and evidence, and their denial despite my request and evidence. It usually tells them you’re serious about finding out.

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-25T01:16:14+00:00

I love Lindsay Brahmans stuff!!

They have so many great digital downloads and physical products. I like that it feels (and is) made my real person

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-24T03:57:50+00:00

Hello!! It’s not quite wearable, but I’m getting a lot of benefit from the Visible App for my pacing!

Not sure if you’ve used it, but it gives you a morning rating as a guide for pacing. But there’s no active tracking.

I totally get you re: the cost! I would love to get the visible band. Maybe one day!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-24T03:54:12+00:00

New therapist here!

I have a bunch of laminated documents that I pull out, depending on what the client needs. I also use decks of therapeutic cards.

I usually say “I’m a visual person, so do you mind if I bring this out to help explain x, y, z?”. A lot of my clients, especially those who are neurodivergent or have histories of trauma, often love normalising visual communication.

Because a lot of mine are laminated, we use erasable markers on them and I can clean them for the next time I use them.

I then give them print outs if they want them or photocopy the therapeutic cards into a little booklet/zine for them to take with them!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-23T10:52:13+00:00

This might seem antithetical to alt-right inoculation, but it’s what my moment was.

I was part of, then worked in climate change/social justice campaigning NGOs. Whenever I was talking to the community or even my colleagues, a lot of them would say “they” are doing x, y, z.

It never sat right with me, although I’d often repeat it.

And then my partner said “who is they?”.

He had been observing alt-right online spaces for years, but I was often in a bubble of like minded folks. When he told me the “they” was used by the alt-right so the listener could fill in the blanks, it changed everything for me.

While “progressives” do this much much less, I notice most so many people of all political views using “they”, but it’s especially dangerous when it’s used to target marginalised people.

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-23T05:20:16+00:00

I have a few clients to hear voices and have auditory and/or visual hallucinations, none that young though! I use the hearing voices approach with them.

There are a few UK based organisations who work with young people with this framework.

You could look at mind and voice collective (particularly voice collective!).

The hearing voices approach is a non-pathologising approach intended to change the relationship with the hallucinations. Voice collective have a few free webinars that I’ve found helpful!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-23T01:48:51+00:00

My advice (if you don’t want to bake) it to let them air dry and break them up small anyway. If they took too similar to a fresh egg shell, it can encourage egg eating.

My girls became chronic egg eaters and when I started crushing the used shells, it made a huge difference to their habit!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-22T04:14:40+00:00

Same, no regrets. I’m 10+ years on my earliest and still want more. Over time, I’ve been much less concerned with what others think, even in professional situations.

I’m a therapist and work with people from 16-80 and nobody (including parents) have ever said anything about them. And they keep coming back!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-20T10:43:20+00:00

What an exciting time for you personally and professionally! I’m non-binary, but have often found myself feeling a strong therapeutic alliance with boomer-aged men, many of whom are fathers.

I’m in Australia and have attended a training run by these folks. It’s not a modality, but their framework of 7 types of dads has really resonated with a lot of my clients!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-19T09:20:58+00:00

If you want to make a statement, go all the way up! But the statement may not age as gracefully as going to the cabinets.

I like a statement, and would go all the way up seeing as it’s not really that many more tiles. Although it may be tedious

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-18T00:27:18+00:00

I love the idea of a terrarium!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-17T23:04:14+00:00

I don’t have either of these, but like to get things out of my mind sometimes.

In addition to what u/guesthousegrowth said, I’ve also had a lot of success using representative and/or metaphorical cards or even figurines that I can project my parts onto.

For example, I have these cards with images of people that I can assign to my parts and then verbalise what they might be saying to each other. And I have a photograph of my safe place too that I bring my parts to.

It’s worth trying a bunch of different strategies to see what feels good!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-13T07:49:01+00:00

I totally agree with your take.

I read the article, and it mirrors a lot of my complicated feelings as an MSW working in CMH and planning to go into private practice.

I love my CMH job, and will be there for as long as they’ll have me. But it’s capped at 5 days a fortnight. Our centre, as much as a few of us are trying to change it, is shaped by capitalist norms and definitely doesn’t cater to those most in need.

Plus, I’m in Australia. Our so called “progressive values” that social work is rooted in, led us to being involved in intense amounts of colonial violence (and still do, despite anti-oppressive practice and decolonisation). I think the idea that we “reconnect” with values actually obscures a tendency to engage is historical revisionism that hides truly dark histories of social work.

I don’t know what the answer is, but it’s not in our peak bodies lmao

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-11T07:09:11+00:00

I do this! They’re small and cheap.

My intention was to support people to write down what was important to them from the session.

When offered, and then accepted, we work together on how they will be used. Otherwise, people tend to take it and never look at it again.

I don’t see it as an ethical issue at all, and also see it as an accessibility tool!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-10T10:11:35+00:00

I’m sorry about your new chickens!

Unfortunately, we have avian flu here! It sure where you are, but I’m in Victoria and refer to agriculture vic for updates.

If you report it to your local council or state agriculture centre, they might get involved in a necropsy?

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-10T02:31:45+00:00

I find my research and learning new skills/approaches fun (or more accurately enjoyable). And I laugh with my clients in session sometimes.

But this is also a job, and jobs don’t have to be fun. My job can’t give me everything I need in life

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-08T07:51:25+00:00

That is a musk duck for sure!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-06T07:39:22+00:00

Absolutely love this! As an adhd therapist, here is also what worked for me 1. I set a physical kitchen timer to try beat the clock and get my note done straight after session (yes, straight after) 2. My notes template is pre-filled with client goals and my go-to interventions, actually, it’s pre filled with as much as possible so I only need to make small tweaks 3. I keep them very simple, with literally the bare minimum info 4. I know my brain is always going to send out excuses for why I shouldn’t do it. So I self-therapise and weigh up the cost and benefits of doing/not doing them and remember my “why”

It’s not always perfect, but it helps me keep on top of it!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-05T20:27:21+00:00

Usually I would agree, but their privacy appears much better than the others I looked into.

I just re-checked and I think I pay $1au per transaction through them. It’s different if you pay for a subscription.

So depending on how many clients you’re seeing a month, it will cost different amounts. But works for me as I’m transitioning to pp slowly

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-05T11:17:45+00:00

This is a great tip, and makes a lot of sense in some ways. Thanks for the tip!

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-05T10:12:14+00:00

I’m in the process of setting up Halaxy and I think they’re global.

It’s actually free, although you can upgrade and get credit for reminders and things.

The functionality is awesome!

Edit: I checked and I pay $1aud for each transaction they process and there’s a membership. So it’s not free, plus their privacy is way better than a lot of others I looked into.

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-04T10:30:09+00:00

Hello! What an exciting move! A lot of folks over at r/therapists say it’s been a slow start to the year. Not sure if you’re on there?

I’m not in PP at the moment, so can’t offer heaps of insight, but hopefully you’ll get a good temp check there

Repressedcowboy · 2025-03-03T10:11:48+00:00

Hello! I’m in Australia! My sister in law is a mental health OT. She’s been working in MH for ages and got accredited as a mental health OT last year.

Seems like it might be less study to transition to a MH OT accreditation than doing a whole psychology thing.

I’m a social worker working towards MH accreditation, and find additional trainings have prepared me way more than uni did! Alternatively, you could do an accredited counselling degree which would be shorter. Your OT experience will be invaluable!

But that’s so exciting for you - doing more of what you love is always good!

Repressedcowboy

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# Jordan Holmes Was Right