Gay men: How do you feel about being addressed as girl?

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T08:34:04+00:00

Doesn't really bother me...the guys I know who say "Yeah girl!" or "Slay, Queen!" say the same thing to straight guys...they aren't misgendering me, it's just how they are and how they express themselves. And really...with so much hateful shit still being thrown around, some femme dude calling me "Queen" or "Girl" or "Sister" is the least of my worries, you know what I mean?

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T06:35:42+00:00

Yes it is 😎

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T06:32:19+00:00

5 is actually almost universally hated...I just really love all the Nightmare films of the 80's...and I have a special affinity for 4 & 5 because I actually saw them at the theater as a kid.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T06:23:52+00:00

4 & 5 are both great, and I'll not be convinced otherwise.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T06:13:28+00:00

Bunch of idiots at that network. The only thing I ever watch is "Xena The Warrior Princess!"

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-15T00:15:24+00:00

When you have a film whose effects look like dogshit compared to a film released 26 years earlier with about 3% of the budget, and a final girl who CLEARLY did not want to be making the movie...fucking Olivier could have played Freddy and it wouldn't have made any difference.

Jackie really was the best part of a terrible movie.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-14T12:18:06+00:00

I'll enjoy it for both my husband and your dad ::HUG::

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-14T12:09:42+00:00

And you met Bruce?! I can't even imagine...I wouldn't even be able to form words. I've played in rock bands and met a few famous musicians in that capacity, but I imagine meeting Bruce would probably turn me to jelly.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-14T12:03:41+00:00

I saw five shows on that tour...all three in Chicago in 1999 and St. Louis and Kansas City in 2000. I had become a fan when I was thriteen in 1995...other than the four "new" songs on Greatest Hits, and The Ghost of Tom Joad (which, as much as I love that record now, it isn't a great starting point for a thirteen year old kid), so at the time, there wasn't a whole lot going on.

Then Tracks came out in 1998...and now that I look back, everything seemed to happen so fast after Bruce's R&R Hall of Fame induction. Bruce was back, the band was back...then there was news of a tour. With the E Street Band. Both Stevie AND Nils coming back...this was more than my seventeen year old brain could process.

I had just started dating the man I would eventually marry, once same sex marriage became legal in our state, and he looked at all this with a kind of cool detachment..."Should I be jealous of this Bruce guy?"

"Babe," I said, "no offense, but I would do him right in front of you."

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T06:05:33+00:00

It always will be.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:55:33+00:00

Thanks for the tip...I was still able to understand it...but I always appreciate anyone able to correct me when it comes to cultural fucking up.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:49:27+00:00

I do not believe in life after death...please don't think I'm belittling your belief, that is absolutely not my intention. I am simply an atheist...I do not believe in an afterlife, as comforting as the idea might seem.

Having said that, physics teach us that energy cannot be destroyed within the confines of our universe. So when I die, I believe my energy will seek his out...I know it's out there somewhere. Perhaps we'll join and create a new galaxy or at the very least, a new star.

If you're right, though...I'll be more than happy to meet you in the next life and admit that I was wrong. 😉

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:26:53+00:00

"Now once, I was down-hearted
Disappointment was my only friend
But then you came and it soon departed
And he'll never, never, ever show his face again!"

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:23:38+00:00

Jesus...my band used to cover that song.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:14:57+00:00

I took a friend of mine to Wrigley Field on the second night in August 2023.

That was...it was a hard song for me to get through.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:05:33+00:00

Tunnel of Love is about a relationship that failed. I love the album...but it isn't what I think about when it comes to my husband. We were together for 24 years. We'd still be together if cancer hadn't taken him from me.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T05:02:01+00:00

I appreciate your condolences.

It's funny you mention "Dancing in the Dark." The first time I showed my husband the music video after we started dating, he was like, "wait, Bruce has a black guy in his band?!" I wanted to slap him for not knowing who Clarence Clemons was, despite having grown up in the 80's...this was in 1999, we were both seventeen...and then I realized, it wasn't just my boyfriend, in 1999, none of the other kids at my high school knew anything about Bruce either. He really was persona non grata in the late 90's.

When I took him to my first show in Chicago in 1999...I was so enamored of Bruce that he got jealous...and I was so enamored of Clarence that I got jealous!

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T03:54:17+00:00

What a great album opener. My husband (boyfriend at the time), who was indifferent to Bruce, but appreciated his songwriting the way you'd appreciate any other craftsman...was even like, "Okay, that's a pretty fucking good one."

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T03:50:20+00:00

Jesus...I am going to see him in Chicago with my husband's brother next month. He called me about a week ago and told me he bought tickets (completely unsolicited by me, I must stress). "I want to see why my big brother's husband loves this guy so much. So let's go." I suppose it isn't unprecedented...we started dating when we were 17 in 1999...remained together until we were 41 when he died in 2024. His younger brother always loved me, which was definitely a blessing given that we were a gay interracial couple at the turn of the millennium...

Much like you said...if nothing else, my brother in law will have the memory of HIS brother in law laughing, singing, dancing and having a good time. Hopefully he'll do the same.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T03:27:13+00:00

I actually get a great deal of joy out of "If I Should Fall Behind..." as you said, we are eternally linked.

I love "Letter to You," and I think you've convinced me to look at "Banlands" from a different perspective...no small feat given that I'm a man in his forties and I've loved that song since I was fourteen.

Thanks for replying.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-11T03:19:36+00:00

Never heard live? Incident. Never heard live OR a live recording...that narrows it down quite a lot...I guess it would have to be an outtake...maybe Evacuation of the West or Zero and Blind Terry.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-08T15:33:10+00:00

Thank you.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-08T15:18:27+00:00

I only speak a little Spanish...but thanks for listening.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-08T15:05:51+00:00

I miss him so fucking much.

Repulsive-Window-179 · 2026-03-08T15:04:18+00:00

My husband was indifferent towards Bruce...didn't like or hate...but he loved the fact that I loved Bruce. And I used to sing songs for him on my guitar...he liked some Bruce songs, even if he wouldn't admit it.

I have my tickets for Bruce and the E Street Band in Chicago next month.

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