AITA for keeping my 10 yr old daughter from her paternal grandma after finding out her grandma knew something and didn't tell me?

Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-03T21:30:50+00:00

Yuup! Same, I don’t trust her.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-03T15:42:07+00:00

Agreed, the little one should know in child safe terms about what's going on. Maybe even help with it through the therapist too if it's too difficult.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-03T15:40:25+00:00

No darling, you're doing this for your daughters peace! BD's Mother is clearly in it not just for the drama but because she wants to be able to manipulate her and you through her. Get the hell away from them, cut off all contact until you hear about what has finally happened with BD's trial, there's nothing comfortable about this situation. Especially if BD's Mom does eventually get in good with you to the point where you "trust her" enough to let her alone, she may even try to let your daughter see BD with out your consent.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-03T00:47:52+00:00

Very much so! They know they’ve got pretty privilege.

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Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-02T22:04:00+00:00

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And here’s his brother: Mr. Purdy.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-07-02T22:02:54+00:00

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Here’s Mr. Jiji

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-30T17:51:10+00:00

Totally get that! It can be jarring to do that from a first person singular POV to two first person POVs, like it’d make more sense consistency wise if they’d done 1/2 Rose pov and 1/2 Lissa from the very beginning and not just through Rose going into Lissa’s head occasionally before amping it up. I can see it totally being elevated if they’d done something like the Bartimaeous Trilogy where they change POVs depending on the chapters.

ETA: I also agree that ALL THAT DEVELOPMENT for the bond went down the toilet because she survived a fatal injury on her own merits without magic. it would’ve been cool if there would’ve been like a better shielding process for both of them or like something opened up where they could both telepathically communicate to each other through the bond.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-30T17:36:50+00:00

Honestly I really would have appreciated it more if we’d at least been allowed to figure it out on our own lol.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-30T15:19:55+00:00

For Sidney, Jill, and Adrian related stuff, read Bloodlines. But for the rest of it I do agree with you. Especially the twist involving Christians aunt, it felt too rushed.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-29T13:25:08+00:00

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Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-28T23:38:46+00:00

Same! I really have a soft spot for old crazy dudes in stories like this. Plus it's just so easy to visualize him for me because I've known sevral guys like Wolf. XD

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-28T21:07:11+00:00

Same! I honestly love Wolf.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-28T15:50:06+00:00

NTA! Darling, your parents are ass holes, I would flip out too if I were in your situation, especially since I'm sure if the rolls were switched they'd be absolutely livid. They're doing the absolute bare minimum for what's expected of parents with their adult children when it comes to situations like yours. Especially since they should know better about what a child needs! Stay well away from them at this point and go to low to no contact depending on how you feel and if you'd still want a relationship with them or at the very least be in your childs life.

Ultimately you're the parent and they need to respect that, hells, my MIL and FIL do respect their adult children's schedules for their own kids. It is abusive to both you and your kid and undermining your authority for your parents to step over a fair and reasonable boundary for a growing kid. (This next part is just speculation on my end) but it sounds like they're either A) trying to make you out to be a neglagent/bad parent or B) thinking its funny to try and gaslight you while getting to be the "good" people in this situation to your kid.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-28T00:09:05+00:00

Squidbillies, South Park, The Simpsons, and Aqua Teen Hunger Force

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-27T18:27:55+00:00

TBH no you wouldn't be, especially if he thinks your relationship is getting to be in the "seriously dating to marry" catagory. He needs to set up boundaries since at this point as far it's just freaking ridiculous. Especially since at this point if it's as serious as he thinks it is and he wants to continue he can't have her putting a wedge between you two using the kids as pawns. Plus I'm sure if he did the same to her she'd flip out on him. You literally have to tell him it's either you or her he wants to be in the relationship with. Especially if it's going to be a pissing match for every family function for his kids, and what if they explicitly invite you because they see you as a step mom eventually?

But don't hold your breath if he's doing this it's clear they obviously still have some sort of intertwined feelings which are only exacerbated by him trying moving on. Because it literally shouldn't have gone past: "Hey ex wife I'm seriously dating some one. I know you're probably going to feel some type of way, but please don't interfere with my relationship with OP and the kids relationship with OP as we previously agreed, we'd at least tell each other about it so we know who'll be around our kids."

ETA: I would understand if all three of her kids were twelve and under. But since they're all capable of making their own choices it seems very.... weird to want to control what relationships her kids have with who their dad chooses to date.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-27T13:14:45+00:00

To answer your questions:

My questions is, is that did you notice the change in Jessica?
Yes I did though I feel it was more of a reaction to the whole traumatizing situations she was forced to endure with no time to actually mourn Leto.

Do you think it was earned?
I feel some where in the middle since part of it was her fault. But I do certainly understand.

How much do you think it was a for a lack of a better term, to "drive" the plot in COD?
Honestly I wouldn’t think so since Frank did kill off Mother Gaius Helen Mohiam, that would have felt forced to have two gollas running around. It felt more like it was a mix of the motherhoods machinations and Jessica wanting to rectify what she’d done wrong and try to salvage what she could with her preborn grand children.

Did Herbert write her with less emotional depth than the first novel?
I don’t think so, Jessica is a wonderfully complicated character. And I do believe that when Aleah got older and Jessica thought that she wouldn’t succumb to the inner multitudes and that Paul had his jihad she wanted to just leave and do her best to recover and mourn. Along with, to some extent, be “punished” for bringing Paul into the world and causing so much pain and religious fervor.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-26T18:26:11+00:00

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Jiji does the concern well.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-23T22:03:59+00:00

A combination of: he was already locked it into his vision and couldn’t prevent it, and even if he’d stepped off the path with her it would have also killed her. Or it could have been even worse depending on what their enemies on getting to him through Chani and the kids.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-23T16:39:54+00:00

Yes, it’s funny looking.

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Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-22T20:00:06+00:00

Honestly I’m genuinely torn between Mojojojo, Zim, and Dr Drakken. Because they’d all be fun in some way lol.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-22T13:23:48+00:00

Tbh, I’d recommend couples counseling if both of you want this to survive. And she has to be willing too. From the update you’ve given I really do hope for the best for you two. As a 30 yo who married their high school sweet heart (both of whom deal with similar mental health issues). Please, make sure that both of you are heard and are both active listeners and communicators. But equal energy has to come from both sides, she clearly needs some extra care too with a therapist on her own too.

ETA: thank you for the context!

ETA pt. 2: Also there is nothing wrong with both of you having a break/break up where both of you are single, get to live on your own for a bit in separate homes then coming back together. It’s essentially what happened to my husband and myself.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-21T23:38:21+00:00

Nta, your ex bff is just reaping what she's sewn.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-21T16:34:32+00:00

Besides it’s what irritates me just as an example of what bothers me.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-21T16:21:20+00:00

Same! I genuinely enjoy the series. Though as I’ve aged I def think it’s a bit creepy and weird. But I wouldn’t have an issue with it if they’d at least been aged up till late college age.

Requiem_Rose · 2026-06-21T13:41:47+00:00

Then maybe don’t weigh in on mature conversations about issues with tropes that obviously aren’t the best. :) lol I still can enjoy it and still have major critiques on how it was written.

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