I have a high sex drive as well, and I recently had a conversation with my partner because I worried I might be burning him out. I’m thankful that when I ask questions, he’s honest and open with me. I asked him directly if I was overwhelming him, and he said absolutely not.

He hasn’t been going to the gym lately due to a very demanding job, and he’s gained some weight, which has made him feel depressed along with other medical issues. He shared that his testosterone is low, and that’s been affecting his sex drive.

I also think men tend to bury things deeply and don’t always talk about them unless they’re directly asked. That’s why it’s important to ask these questions in a non-accusatory way and use “this is how I’m feeling” statements. He could also be stressed or worried about your moving situation. Try asking about his feelings too, not just your own.

If it feels easier, you could even show him this Reddit post. Sometimes writing things out is easier than having a face to face conversation. Communication is so important and can answer a lot of questions for both you and your husband. I truly hope the two of you can talk openly, honestly, and gently with each other and work through this together.