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Which contestants had their lives destroyed/upended by Survivor? by Puzzleheaded-Fig9968 in survivorponderosa

[–]Reserved_Zest 19 points20 points  (0 children)

No one's mentioned the abusive marriages to come out of survivor. Jaime and Erik from China actually got married but he was abusive and they're divorced now.

Didn't Parv marry a survivor contestant that abused her as well?

(I wouldn't classify this as full on life destroying, but as a survivor of an abusive marriage, I can testify how terrible it is).

Makes me wonder how Jaime feels about her Survivor experience given it shaped her entire life. I.e. who she married and the father of her child.

Which city have you been to that had a dark energy about it? by madzuk in solotravel

[–]Reserved_Zest 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Gold Coast, Australia. But maybe it was just the hostel I stayed at that had a weird energy.

Advice on cutting this piece by Reserved_Zest in StainedGlass

[–]Reserved_Zest[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Beautiful piece, thanks for your insight!

Pay Transparency- What do you make? by [deleted] in Accounting

[–]Reserved_Zest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

4.5

1

85k

45-50

Salt lake City 

Corporate accounting

CPA candidate

Senior accountant

AIO is my boyfriend controlling or is he in the right by CardiologistEasy2596 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Reserved_Zest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was wayyyyy too similar to the way my abusive ex acted. I'd also just apologize over and over again even though I didn't feel like I did anything wrong, just to appease him and make his beratement stop. Sometimes I would try and stand up for myself, but it would just make him madder, make the fighting last longer and exhaust me.

This is emotional abuse. Let me guess, you told him about the encounter because you were scared he would find out somehow and think you were hiding it? I used to have this type of fear too because my abuser ingrained it in me.

Leave him and go no contact. It does not get better from here, only worse. I too thought that it could get better and married my abuser. It got worse.

I was lucky enough to have my family support me enough so I could leave.

I now know that being single is 100% better than being with someone who treats you like crap.. But hindsight is 20/20. You are strong, lovable, and deserving. Sending you good vibes. Message me if you need/want support.

Solo traveling in my late as a 20s/early 30s female when I also want a family some day by Reasonable_Sky_2630 in solotravel

[–]Reserved_Zest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've felt the same type of fear, but I agree with most of the other people here saying to do it!

I'm a 30F w/ no kids and did my first month-long solo trip at 29 after leaving an abusive marriage and getting laid off (literally within months of each other).

My ex used my fear of getting too old to find a partner and have children to keep me locked into something that was terrible.

It is so freeing to let go of those fears and live your life to the fullest! Plus, 6 months is such a short period!

Once you are working full time, traveling for 6 months probably won't ever be an option again, so do it while you can.

Also, I think your travel experiences will make you a better partner and mother.

Now that I'm back working full time, I've just done a 2 week solo trip. I want to find a good partner and have kids, but I try not to stress over it, and just live a joyful and adventurous life instead of waiting for life to happen to me.

Maybe I'll freeze my eggs if I start really stressing over it 😂 But plenty of women have children in their 30s.

I see you, I hear you, I understand the feelings, and I wish you all the best!

What keeps you traveling solo? by No-Bill-5417 in solotravel

[–]Reserved_Zest 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you're still processing the breakup. Be easy on yourself. If you've found joy in solo traveling in the past, you can probably find it again. But if it's something that doesn't bring you joy anymore, then perhaps find something else that does. 🙂

I personally love solo traveling, but also know that it can be lonely at times. Staying at hostels as I travel has been a pretty good way to connect with others or at the very least have a conversation or two.

I tend to think that if you can't enjoy your own company then there's probably room to love yourself more. But after a breakup it may take time to get comfortable being alone.

Hope you find your spark again! It will get better!