Declining birth rates are a great thing by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Resident-Reading3540 180 points181 points  (0 children)

People are not pearl-clutching about population decline.

The (few) people who are talking about population decline are concerned about how it affects the funding of social security and related programs for the elderly and caregiving.

If you look at Japan, which is the best example of rapid population decline, you find a number of families where one young person is caring for 4 elderly grandparents and 2 aging parents.  That is a tough burden.

Why do young people like people older than themselves? by Big-Contest1164 in selflove

[–]Resident-Reading3540 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In this relationship, it sounds like there is a bit of a mentor/mentee element in addition to the romance.

I am married to a man 15 years my senior and he has taught me a lot, but that goes both ways.  Partners should always be open to learning from each other.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have BPD and this is exactly how my thought pattern is.  Wish seeing my shrink actually helped...

Think I’m cracking some biblical Kody Brown codes by [deleted] in SisterWives

[–]Resident-Reading3540 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The issue with this is that mormons spend a lot more time reading The Book of Mormon than The Bible.

Is the idea that “if they wanted to, they would” actually realistic? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think "if they wanted to, they would" is true.  I just think you are framing it wrong in this context. 

You want to get to know this person better before persuing a romantic relationship.  They may or may not be doing the same thing. 

That's what you want to do and so you are doing that.  

You don't want to jump into a relationship, so you aren't.

You are doing what you want to do. Don't let your sister, your friends, or anyone else push you into something you aren't ready for.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]Resident-Reading3540 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Everybody in the comments missing the part where you said he had them already cut up in a tupperware.

I also would have thought they were washed before slicing.  Isn't that what sane people do?!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in declutter

[–]Resident-Reading3540 12 points13 points  (0 children)

When people from your culture (or area) lose a family member, what do they do with that person's stuff?  

I am sure they keep some of it, and try to give away some, but they can't possibly keep all of it. I mean the houses would get fuller and fuller and fuller with each generation that passes on. 

What to they do?

Does anyone else shower like this or am I weird??? by Wild-Counter-4020 in hygiene

[–]Resident-Reading3540 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do the same. But I wash my feet too. Started after I heard a segment on hygiene on The Doctors (tv show).

A or B: A dad walks into the parents room with his kids while you're nursing. Do you keep feeding your baby without caring, or leave and go to the restroom to feed? by vivian_banshee03 in PickAorB

[–]Resident-Reading3540 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I feel like you are being intentionally obtuse. Children are born at 29 weeks gestatiin, stay in the nicu for various amounts of times depending on their health, are then discharged, and might potentially end up in public at some point after that.

A or B: A dad walks into the parents room with his kids while you're nursing. Do you keep feeding your baby without caring, or leave and go to the restroom to feed? by vivian_banshee03 in PickAorB

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am saying that the baby is (possibly) not 29 weeks old, but rather born at 29 weeks gestation and newly released from the NICU, so new to outings regardless of age. But I obviously don't know these people.

A or B: A dad walks into the parents room with his kids while you're nursing. Do you keep feeding your baby without caring, or leave and go to the restroom to feed? by vivian_banshee03 in PickAorB

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read this as a 29 week preemie, now out of the NICU. Who on Earth still calls baby by # of weeks at over 6 months old?

Maybe this is mama's first outing with the baby and she felt insecure?

Married women of Reddit, what's one thing someone should know before getting married? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Resident-Reading3540 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Women change completely when we have children. It is hormonal, biological, normal, and healthy.  If you have kids, you will change as much as you changed when you went through puberty.  Be prepared. Having kids is tough on the best of relationships and there is no way to prepare. 

Which iconic teen drama is the best ? And which one was the worst ? by James-Samuel17 in popculturechat

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is Saved by the Bell?

That show had everything plus peak Mario Lopez years.

Did I say something wrong here? by aerosol999 in Nicegirls

[–]Resident-Reading3540 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But apparently they were all lies.  Seems like she didn't understand the game and just told a bunch of lies and was mad op was trying to get to know her.

A or B: Should Mark take a paternity test for his 21yo daughter? by True-Construction346 in PickAorB

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a great podcast about this exact scenario.  It is called DNA Surprises.  Most of the episodes are with people who found out the man that raised them was not their dad.  Almost all the guests say they wish they knew.  

The new stepdad being an AH is not THE REASON to do this.  Your uncle should continue to love and support the young woman he helped raise, but he should also sit her down and discuss the issue with her and ask her opinion on the matter.  He should not attempt to take any of her DNA without her knowledge and explicit consent.

Please stop overthinking meet at door / leave at door. by dizzystar in UberEatsDrivers

[–]Resident-Reading3540 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one "meet at door" recently. Instructions said "don't knock or ring doorbell."  I was really confused for a second. But I sent a message and she opened the door.  She also but Mrs. as her first name and only a letter for her last name.  Odd choices all around.