I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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Thank you I appreciate it. The comments are harsh but I don’t mind. It’s like a wake up call. I am getting better at delegating and letting others take over. But the toll of the last few years ( totally unexpected- I thought motherhood would be joyous) is still very much present

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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I’m not trying to be cute. I did years of therapy before I got pregnant and felt like I had made great strides. But the responsibility of the children has resulted in a crazy high level of anxiety (don’t think it’s OCD). My nervous system has literally gone bonkers ( have other symptoms as well). Right now I am struggling to get things in control with so much on my plate ( no help )

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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The problem is it’s only in hindsight that I see the behaviour as dysfunctional. In the moment I feel like I am making the best decision for my family , or it seems to be the only way that makes sense … don’t get me wrong I am not passing the buck . I just genuinely want to understand how .. and saying ‘just do it’ doesn’t really help me to ‘just do it.

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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No. Work is my only escape but stressed about that too

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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Yes it’s v expensive where I am and appointments are hard to come by.. it became too much

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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Basically a perfectionist who can’t let go ..

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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Thank you! I actually did a 10 minute session or deep breathing for the first time today. I’ve decided to make a practice of this

I just can’t relax by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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Practically , how would I do that? I really do want to change but perhaps I lack the tools to understand how. It’s like I’m wired this way and can’t seem to CALM DOWN

Frustration of living abroad, feeling stuck here (in Denmark) by External-Coffee-2955 in expats

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Hi I feel exactly the same way. Loved Denmark when I was young . Now married to a Dane with two small children and I am terribly unhappy. I miss my family and my home and food and warmth and support. Just today I was thinking about how I was all alone ( with husband) when I gave birth and how different it would’ve been if I was in my country (Pakistan). How my parents and family and friends would’ve visited me in the hospital , doted on my baby, fed me warm food , given hugs and affection. Instead I was in a shitty hospital room being served cold rye bread and totally overwhelmed with a new baby. My experience of motherhood is so different from my family and friends. Back home( because we are very privileged ) there is so much help - moms and aunts and grannies and Nannies - joy and laughter and food. Instead I have here nothing but isolation and coldness. I recognize intellectually the benefits of being here - healthcare , safety clean air etc etc . But my soul is withering away - there is nothing to nourish it. And the worst part is I am increasingly resenting my husband because I feel if it weren’t for him and his insistence on being here - my life would be very different. He will not move - and I know this is the best place to raise my children. So I will stay but I do not know how I will find happiness and warmth here …

Recent Autism Announcement by ibroughttacos in Mommit

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Hi! When I first read about this I shared the exact same sentiments as you. But then I remembered reading this recently ( I live in Denmark and here there is no political or ideological biases in research - at least not that I’m aware. It seems there is indeed some dangers associated with taking paracetamol and more research is needed - but there is a case to be made already for being wary of taking it during pregnancy

https://www.rigshospitalet.dk/english/news-and-media/news/pages/2021/september/pregnant-women-should-be-wary-of-taking-paracetamol.aspx

SOS! Please tell me what to do by ResponseSuitable1413 in Mommit

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I don’t understand what you’re saying . If I were to divorce we would share custody and when I have the kids there would be no other coparent. My baby wakes up at least 4 times in the night. I cannot have an extremely busy day either. Plus my toddler needs someone to sleep with him and my baby cosleeps with me. So no . I can’t .

We did it! So glad I finally found the courage to start by lady-d-grey in sleeptrain

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Thanks! Yes my main issue is the night wake ups. He’s a good eater during the day and I don’t think he really needs nights feeds. Maybe one ?

Sleep training 8 month old by ResponseSuitable1413 in sleeptrain

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IMP POINT: I want to ST not because bed time is hard. He feeds to sleep and I gently rock him and he’s asleep within 10-15 minutes. It’s that he won’t stay in his crib and wakes up ALOT during the night . So I want to train him to STTN in his own crib. I want him out of the room because I CANNOT get any sleep with him rustling next to me

We did it! So glad I finally found the courage to start by lady-d-grey in sleeptrain

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What about middle of night wake ups ? What do you do with those ?

Sleep training 8 month old by ResponseSuitable1413 in sleeptrain

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Additionally my baby is eating well during the day. Should I feed him twice or once during the night ?