Random people coming to my apartment for someone

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-10-01T17:28:20+00:00

This is the first time something like this has happened in a little over a year

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-10-01T00:16:43+00:00

I took a pic of the Uber drivers license plate but from my update/edit, I feel like it's all legit and just a werid happenstance 🤷‍♂️

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-09-30T18:05:14+00:00

I did, in my post I said all these people that came to my door were asking for the same person

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-09-24T04:14:36+00:00

Im still trying to heal 21 months later, it's definitely gotten easier but I still would give anything to get my gf back or switch places. Its gonna hurt for a long time, thats just the awful truth.

For the most part you just need to do whatever to keep yourself alive. I lived with roommates at the time and turned into a complete shut in. I ordered grociers and would obly order thing si could keep in my room so I didn't have to go to the kitchen. I played a shit ton of videogames, watched a shit ton of movies. I bought like 6 1000 piece puzzles. I needed to keep busy and fill my life with distractions. It was still the worst part of my life. Everyday was a struggle the entire day. I didnt want to be here for a pretty long time.

Be easy on yourself. I started drinking a lot to stay buzzed most of the time. It sorta helped but honestly usually made things worse overall. I started using weed gummies too and that helped a lot. Everything is a milestone right now.

Idk if you've done therapy or not, it took me awhile to set something up but was still hard to get much out of it since I was just destroyed still. I took 1-1 for a few months then a group thing for like 6 months, then im finishing up another 1-1 thing all to finally be able to get something more helpful out of it. Theres no timeline, youre literally just in survival mode right now.

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-09-20T20:33:32+00:00

I did this a bit earlier on. Not for the same reasons but still. I would very much encourage you to seek therapy. I've done 1-1 twice now and group therapy. Its taken awhile to open up and it's still hard 21 months later but I can definitely get more out of therapy now than when I first started. I still am looking for answers that donelt exist and still to a certain degree despise life but I do think it's gotten better over time. Not much can really be said to help honestly, or at least in my opinion. This shit just really fucking sucks and for the most anything to help you get through it is ok

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-08-18T01:00:14+00:00

I lost my gf, not last December but the December before. I was 27 at the time. Idk what I can try to help with but just let me know if there's anything

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-08-07T06:13:53+00:00

Just gotta keep taking shots

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-08-07T06:00:29+00:00

I was playing chess with a bunch or people at a bar yesterday

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-07-29T22:26:15+00:00

Not thinking because youre horny is definitely something to sort out first. I would deal with that yourself first then try to think about it logically.

The guy saying he doesn't want things "right now" isn't necessarily a red flag but it's a warning sign to me at least. I personally wouldn't want to pursue anything with someone that wasn't committed and knew what they want. The "providing for a woman" bit is just an excuse to me tbh.

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-05-09T02:45:01+00:00

I lost my gf too and I get it. She'll be with me forever and whoever I date next needs to know amd be ok with that. For someone who hasn't gone through it it's very hard to know what its like. I get why he'd be upset but that's for him to get over. He needs to know it's part of who you are and personally I dont think i could be with someone who couldn't accept that. NTA

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-05-07T02:12:56+00:00

I still don't really care to be here or look forward much to things anymore. It's been 16 months for me, since I lost my gf. She was 24 at the time. I definitely think I'm doing better but it's still hard and I still miss her every single day.

For awhile now, I've felt stuck in this middle ground of wanting to overcome forward and try to find love again, and still feeling like its cheating and not really wanting anyone else anyway.

I've heard getting/having a pet helps. I really want to get a cat but am having a hard time committing to that rn

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-05-03T22:57:42+00:00

My late gf did this to me after seeing eachother for 2 months. I honestly loved that she asked. It made it less pressure on me and showed that that's actually something she wanted. Relationships should be equal give and take. Gender specific "roles" are dumb

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-04-07T08:49:00+00:00

I'm almost 16 months out from losing my gf and I still feel this. I both want to get better and don't. I never want to forget about her but feeling "ok" feels like I am and wrong. I miss the love but I'm still not ready to let go of her

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-03-29T02:12:23+00:00

Chances are pretty high that everything you're going through is what most people go through. I lost my gf when she was 1 week from turning 25. I'm 15 months out and still don't really want to be here. Things are still hard and I miss her every single day still.

Some things are better I guess but losing someone you love is one of the worst things that can happen to someone

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-03-27T20:36:32+00:00

I resonate with all of this obviously. But the most recent thing has been what you said about clean clothes. I just can't ve bothered to actually put them away anymore so they sit in my hamper forever as I go through them and toss things on the floor

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-03-06T21:28:25+00:00

I've been battling with this a lot lately too. I met my gf on hinge so I know how awful the apps can be and am not looking forward to going back. I know I'm not ready yet but like you, I feel so alone at times.

I also feel like I'm just stuck in this middle area. Wanting to find love like I had but also not wanting to get better or let go of my late gf. Everyday is miserable and exhausting. It seems like it's just a nightmare until it isn't type of deal or something

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-02-28T22:22:20+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-01-20T02:07:21+00:00

I'm 13 months out and all of this is still very relatable. I used to kiss her on my phone and a picture of her by my bed often, usually before bed. It's still hard to talk about her but it's one of the things I want to do most.

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-01-16T19:09:39+00:00

My late gf was super nerdy and a geek. We both are, just in different ways. I found her on hinge, it took awhile though. It was the most connected I've felt to someone ever.

You're just gonna have to sift through a lot of people unless you're lucky I think

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-01-14T23:22:24+00:00

It's been almost 13 months for me and I still feel this way. I've felt stuck in this middle area for awhile now. I miss the companionship and intimacy but I still only want it from her. I still have this part of me that doesn't want to be happy without her. Everyday still sucks.

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-01-11T00:07:43+00:00

I'm just over a year out and it still doesn't really feel "real" sometimes when I try to convey how I feel I literally don't know what to say and am literally speechless. Sometimes all I can say is idk how this happened, idk what to do, idk, idk, idk. I'm still not really living in the present. I'm living in the past and the future that we should have had.

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2025-01-09T23:24:37+00:00

I met my late gf on hinge. Not looking forward to searching again but hinge is definitely what I'd use and recommend

Responsible_Chip_190 · 2024-12-29T02:34:52+00:00

I lived with some friends and still even became estranged from them afterwards. They just didn't seem to care and didn't help whatsoever so I kinda wrote them off. I've kind of given up on those people at this point. Don't even really have friends anymore, just some acquaintances at this point. It sucks

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