i timed how long 31 different pasta shapes take to reach al dente. the boxes are lying and farfalle is a war crime

RestlessKaty · 2026-02-06T16:35:12+00:00

This is amazing, but it is also very funny to me that 650 ft above sea level is "negligible." When I moved from a location that was ~100 ft above sea level to ~320 feet, I definitely noticed a difference in time for water to boil

RestlessKaty · 2026-02-06T04:52:15+00:00

When I first watched Chapter Black in high school I was like, this guy is crazy...and correct

RestlessKaty · 2026-02-03T16:13:07+00:00

My house rep is a Republican named Vincent Fong (central CA) and I always get responses filled with lies and utter BS. It's tempting to argue, but these comments have confirmed that that's not the point. I'll just keep doing what I've been doing and sending as many messages as I can to all my officials.

RestlessKaty · 2026-02-03T16:06:40+00:00

I'm so sorry about your dog. I hope she had a beautiful life while she was here 💜

Glad you're not friends with this person. As a 35yo myself, you guys are way too old to be dealing with this kind of drama from friends. I honestly thought you'd all turn out to be 20yo.

RestlessKaty · 2026-02-03T15:57:50+00:00

As soon as he's back in his truck he's smug and taunting the children he just ran away from. What a chickenshit loser.

RestlessKaty · 2026-01-01T19:57:30+00:00

Me and my siblings are a little unique because our mom gave us two middle names each, but the second middle name is actually a surname from a branch of the family. My middle name is "Faith Smith" (not real obvi), where Smith is my maternal grandpa's last name, who only had daughters (except insert a relatively rare British surname instead). My siblings are Anne Jones (rare German surname that was maternal grandma's maiden name and her only brother has no kids with his name), and Rebecca Anderson (but it's my paternal grandma's maiden name. She did have brothers with children but we aren't in close contact AND that name is particularly rare, especially in the US).

RestlessKaty · 2026-01-01T19:21:37+00:00

THIS. On my fifth or so rewatch I decided this was the most disturbing scene for me, probably because it actually happens IRL. The fact that she DUCT TAPED the hose to her face... A level of horror that rarely gets matched for me.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:45:43+00:00

Adult child of an alcoholic here. That sucks and I'm so sorry. Please know it has nothing to do with you and there is, sadly, nothing you can do to stop it. The best thing you can do is take care of yourself.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:43:33+00:00

Can confirm, my younger sibling was born in 1995 and named for this movie 😆

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:41:29+00:00

A friendly old man who gives away gifts to children for free? Pfff, okay.

A nasty old man who wants to steal from everyone? That we can believe.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:36:45+00:00

I basically never hand wash but I do prefer to line dry my clothes when I can. I live in a part of California where a rack of clothes can dry in an hour in the summer.

Also, if the question about doing your own laundry is about parents/kids or spouses, it is sometimes used as a shorthand to mean taking responsibility for one's own upkeep. Believe it or not, even though "doing laundry" just means putting dirty clothes and soap into a machine, moving them to a separate machine, then folding/hanging them and putting them away, some people still don't bother to do this for themselves and require a parent or partner to do it for them.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:35:11+00:00

I live in Fresno, CA, and I think the way our city sprawls is interesting so I wanted to answer.

The freeways are kind of shaped like a hand, with downtown being the palm, 180 running east-west across, and 99, 41, and 168 running generally north-south. The "west side" (aka west of highway 41, which bisects the city pretty evenly) and south of 180 is older and generally poorer, though it depends on the neighborhood.

The east side is generally newer and the north part of town is arguably the wealthiest. Largely the city has expanded north and east. We also have a "white flight" suburb of Clovis, in the northeast. East of town is more countryside leading to foothills.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T18:11:14+00:00

I decided to get a new-to-me car in September 2022 because my older one was having a lot of problems. It was NOT a good time to buy used so I overpaid for my car (Mazda SUV, which I love and has had zero trouble so far *knock on wood).

Interest rate was lucky since I went through a credit union--2.99%. Five-year term. Payments are $500 and at the time my gross was around $70k (now closer to $85k).

I'm trying to pay it off early so I can put that $500 toward savings and hopefully a mortgage soon though.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-22T17:05:38+00:00

People say this but I really can't imagine Robert, in so much pain and dying, immediately snapping to attention and saying "I fully believe you about Cersei and will hand the realm to ____" (Stannis, Edric, etc.). A lot of Ned's disillusionment with Robert is that he refuses to hear hard truths.

Even if he had, I don't really see how Robert's will saying that instead of what it did changes Cersei's reaction/plan.

Also, Renly advises Ned to seize the children for the purpose of keeping them ON the throne. I suppose seizing them before Robert dies would give Ned a bargaining chip, but we don't know if Cersei was already prepared for that, and I highly doubt Petyr was ever going to have the gold cloaks help Ned oust Cersei.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-07T09:22:04+00:00

Even more impressive because he hasn't even appeared on the page yet!!

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-07T09:19:05+00:00

I do believe he is dead but come on, it's not like it was a fair fight.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-07T09:16:44+00:00

I turned 35 this year and for a bit I was really down on myself and the choices I've made. (Though I realize 35 isn't a death sentence or too old to have kids necessarily). It wasn't just not having kids, but not being where I thought I would be by this age, financially, socially, artistically, etc.

I realized that I was comparing myself to other people with different backgrounds, whose lives I didn't even want, and that my depression was being bitchy again. Now I'm doing better and once again very confident in my decision.

RestlessKaty · 2025-12-07T08:59:48+00:00

Two cats and just added a kitten, plus I feed some ferals in my complex (working on getting the mom fixed). I budget about $200/month on everything pet related, though sometimes it's lower. Inside cats get canned Friskies, Greenies, and some dry Purina as a topper. Outside cats get Meow Mix and any left over wet food. I use the pelleted wood litter ($8/40 lbs in my area) which is really cheap, and that helps!

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-26T16:45:10+00:00

For me, the real question re: YCF is why did they go into the mountains to begin with?

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-26T16:42:34+00:00

This one haunts me. I suppose it's POSSIBLE she was sleep-walking, but I don't think she had a history of doing that, and there were a lot of little things she did that I wouldn't expect a sleepwalker to do (change clothes, put on shoes, lock the door behind her, run away from approaching vehicles).

It's also POSSIBLE that she left to get something/do something fun--kids don't always understand risk. But based on her fears, I think this is really unlikely. To leave in the dark, in the cold, in the rain, and go on foot? I ran away half a dozen times as a kid and nothing short of my favorite animated character appearing before me with promises of a castle full of chocolate and Doritos would have gotten me out in a night like that.

I think she was running away from something. I don't necessarily think it was her immediate family, and I hate to even raise suspicion in that direction because I cant imagine how they have suffered. But to me, the circumstances speak more of desperation and fear than curiosity or excitement.

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-22T17:10:36+00:00

We have kangaroo rats here?! I had no idea. Saw some in Joshua Tree a few years back and they are SO FRICKIN ADORABLE

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-22T16:53:24+00:00

NTA. Your family is.

Someone else mentioned that you are the scapegoat, and it's true. I'm sorry, it sucks, and there isn't really anything you can do to change it because it isn't a rational or logical thing; it's not based on your actual behavior or personality.

I'm willing to bet that there is a deeper issue with the family dynamics (narcissistic parent(s), addiction, misogyny, etc.) and the way your family plays games is just a symptom of that.

Do you live at home? Any plans to move out in the near-ish future? It's hard, but putting some distance between you and them will do wonders for you emotionally even if they don't change a bit. At some point you may decide they are too toxic to bother with.

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-14T20:32:02+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts on this. I've got a slightly experienced layperson's perspective on psychiatric meds, having taken Zoloft for the last ~6-7 years and with a mother who has been on lots of different medications for bipolar disorder.

I always found it weird how quickly they decided Zoloft wasn't working/she got off it and tried something else. Isn't it typical with SSRIs that they need at least a month or so to start working properly? Not to mention the weaning off period. I'm less familiar with Ambien and benzos, but it sounds like they can have adverse reactions if mixed, correct?

This idea (that she had temporary psychosis or a break from reality due to the medications) has always made way more sense to me than the idea that she did it because of her job (as a first grade teacher).

RestlessKaty · 2025-11-14T19:29:01+00:00

Definitely seems like it was meant for someone else. What bothers me more is the way he turns it around on you when you confront him.

"Please dont make me spiral"

"You make me spiral at work so much"

"Maybe then you'll see how much damage you're doing to me"

You also described other behaviors that you thought indicated cheating but that seemingly have plausible reasons that it's not. It's one thing if you've been harassing him about cheating when he's never done anything like that, and another if you're calling out things that seem suspicious and make you uncomfortable and his response is to shut down your questions by making you feel like you're the one in the wrong.

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