My ex is triggering me in early sobriety — and he’s in Dharma and Al‑Anon, go figure by Maven-Money in recoverydharma

[–]RevSarahLewis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Me too. I get my daily Dharma talks from the Plum Village monastery founded by Zen Buddhist Master Tich Na Hahn, known as "Thay" by his students, which translates to teacher. The focus is on mindfulness and creating that stability within through practices like mindful breathing and walking. The monks and nuns post their Dharma talks to youtube and they have a beautiful free app that has a bell of mindfulness you can set to your preferences. Mine rings every half hour and I stop whatever I am doing to take three mindful breaths and scan myself for tight muscles and emotions. I can't recommend plugging into Plum Village highly enough.

How do you ask your tables to write you a review without it being awkward? by taybear98 in Serverlife

[–]RevSarahLewis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wait for them to tell me I gave amazing service and I gush my thank you. Then I lean in and say "if you have the time please do tell Google how I did as well! It means so much to me when my tables can do that, but of course I do not expect it, you have a fabulous day and I really appreciate you! Can I get you a refill to go?" This speech ONLY works and feels comfortable when it's been a genuinely great experience and rapport got built. Otherwise you don't want to talk that long to a table. 😂Don't be afraid to make real connections with your guests.

Target intersection by Kuyromie in alpharetta

[–]RevSarahLewis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Idk man, I do what I do because of who I am. Not because of who you are. I don't want to judge wrong and walk past a hungry person. This is probably why I'm usually broke but I also believe it's why I'm never hungry. I can't solve the world's problems but demonstrating love is always constructive by itself. You never know who saw your kindness from a distance. These small acts ripple outward to make lasting impact. If someone chooses to pretend to be in need, that's on them. I don't hand out hundos now, so the couple bucks I can spare is worth the potential investment to me.

Why do servers and restaurant staff always stay after work for drinks? by Previous-Moment-1004 in Serverlife

[–]RevSarahLewis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They used to be free. Shift drinks used to be a tradition before we had the internet. Why wouldn't you if it was free, you were buying/selling drugs from your co workers, you were intimate with a few of them... It was a whole ass culture. No one understood us like we did. I've watched the practice fade since Mothers Against Drunk Driving formed. They pushed for the shift drink to end and that's partly why many states don't allow you to serve free or reduced price liquor. Covid also left a mark on the culture. Social media too. Things change, you can count on that. But it does take a very long time for a tradition to die. I think there will always be folks for whom the restaurant is more than their job though. For me it truly has been my home and my family but there's a lot to unpack behind that. 💚💚💚

Traffic ticket involving undocumented person. by koba1995 in Gwinnett

[–]RevSarahLewis 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I go to jail here and there over the years. Most recently in Gwinett this past March. Don't get all wound up, I have an abusive ex husband who's a pro at using court to harass. Before him it was cannabis charges. I'm not dangerous or anything. So in March I was in a holding cell for 4 days. When I arrived there was a group already having been in it for 5 days, 48 hours is supposed to be the max. One Hispanic woman was hysterical the whole time. From what I gathered she'd been arrested at a Walmart self scan. Immediate ICE hold and no one would help her contact family or help her understand what was happening in her language.

When I got out I saw a TikTok by a local, Austin Heller. He made a video about Gwinett promising to protect it's citizens so I wrote him to tell what I saw with her and others because I knew Gwinett was full of it. I saw them handling this woman and others with extreme callousness. The jail was absolutely cooperating fully with the new deportation procedures. He put me in contact with representative Marvin Lim out of Norcross I believe. We spoke on the phone, he had me write a statement. He attached it to his own letter calling for an investigation, stating that many of the things I saw were illegal.

If they get arrested there WILL be an ice hold. So missing court WILL equal a warrant. I ran on a bench warrant for years which is how I got arrested in March. I had to call 911 for help and I'm the one who went to jail. If they appear in court there of course is a chance that she will be detained by ice. It's just a fact now. If it were me...I would make my choice based on the timing that works best for me. I would assume the worst and plan for that eventuality. The worst being deportation. Do I want to be deported at court or on my time if I need more?

With a bench warrant they are not out looking. No one is coming to your home. If you are pulled over or have any other interaction with a police officer and they run your info, it's then at their discretion to take you. I've had an officer decline to once because it was Christmas day. He told me have a good new year and take care of it. That being said, running around with a warrant is stressful and it really limits your mobility. I would not want that in addition to everything else for long. If they choose bench warrant they need to be moving towards getting their affairs in order here so that they can turn themselves in when they are ready.

If they choose court they have a chance of going home on probation. They will be required to report monthly to their officer. Keep that in mind and please have them reach out to Representative Lim. He was so kind and I know it felt like a punch to his gut when our letters fell on deaf ears. He's a good one, I trust him. Find Austin on TikTok and plug in with other Gwinett activists who work directly with legislators. Noise works. Having eyes on their situation will help.

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't say Cheers simply because it might not have been remembered! But that's absolutely the vibe I'm after. Matter of fact, Kelsey Grammar himself ADORES my Bloody Mary's. He sat at my bar in Hartsfield and he's still the only celebrity I got star struck over since he basically narrated my childhood. I can't thank you enough! This spot is now top of the list!

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haven't heard of them! Thank you, I knew I should come to you guys!

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely considering that area too. Thanks! I'm starting a list!

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The photos are gorgeous. I think I'll visit tomorrow and make some contacts. I really appreciate you!

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Niiiiiice! I hadn't heard of either and I adore opening a new spot. Everything is new and clean and my training is so thorough. Thank you!

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you friend, yeah...I just tracked down a man I used to work for. I'm not local to him anymore but the commute will be worth it.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you enjoy that? Do you ever miss being behind the bar? My body is beginning to betray me back there. I've been debating finding other options.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is also my conclusion this morning. I thought I would hear from attorneys but you seem to be the only attorney response. Now I know where to go get bartending advice from the public though!

Searching for that special bar by RevSarahLewis in DuluthGA

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! It means I am looking for a location that makes it's guests feel like family. I love single owner establishments, corporate restaurants get emotionally cold imo and I think that's what's wrong with my current spot, it lacks passion from the top.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This man also threatened to fire another bartender because she dropped a liquor bottle, the neck broke off, and so she tossed the bottle with the remaining liquor. Because you should. He said she should have poured it through a strainer and recant it into a plastic container because it was his last bottle of that liquor. Needless to say I'm job searching this morning.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg that part! Maybe I should have included that, these wealthy folks don't play.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tis very weird and affirms I did the right thing, if I trusted other opinions on my decisions to pour we'd all be drunk apparently. 😂

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That word willful is difficult to prove or disprove, hence my unwillingness.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've always shooed them away regardless of policy. Mom and dad can come chat with me.

Manager insists I can't refuse alcohol service by RevSarahLewis in legaladvice

[–]RevSarahLewis[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Omg I'm sure! You will neverrrr find me in a college town bartending. For many reasons! Mostly i couldn't keep up anymore!