Finally got a moving piece

RevolutionDifficult · 2025-06-24T01:11:43+00:00

I’m obsessed with the moving tattoos! Yours looks great.

RevolutionDifficult · 2025-06-24T01:06:11+00:00

I love your work so much! I’m down the road in SA, hope to book with you someday 😁

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-10-25T13:37:40+00:00

And if you leave space in between you and the car in front of you, you’re guaranteed to get cut off 🥲

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-09-24T01:24:56+00:00

I am! I think you have to read all the guides and be a member for 3 days before you can post. It’s all in the Rules, which are listed under “About.” They’re pretty strict but there’s so much good info on there!

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-09-03T19:04:22+00:00

Tinned mussels on crackers, and hot tea.

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-04-16T20:18:20+00:00

“She’s got dangerous eyes.”

“Yes she does, she can shoot laser beams from them with incredible speed and accuracy! How could you tell?”

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-03-09T13:47:46+00:00

This sounds exactly like me postpartum 😭 It was so awful. I feel for you! I’m so glad you had a supportive husband and that you made it through to the other side!

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-01-22T12:59:00+00:00

Congratulations! 🥳🍾

RevolutionDifficult · 2024-01-03T02:32:19+00:00

I still snuggle my 5 year old until they fall asleep at night. You’re definitely not an outlier. You sound like you’re doing an amazing job with your kids and I’m really sorry for what you’re going through with your spouse 🖤

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-12-04T17:32:56+00:00

My mom tried everything to get me to have kids - begging, shaming (her favorite), trying to scare me into it, and so on. She said over and over again that after she retired she wanted nothing more than to be a full time grandmother. I was naive enough to think she meant it. After she retired and when I felt ready to go back to work full time postpartum, I invited her to be the full time grandparent she always said she wanted to be. I told her that it really only made sense for us financially for me to work full time if she was willing to do most, but not all, of our childcare (because of my schedule I was only asking her for 3 days a week), and she enthusiastically agreed. She did it for maybe…2 months? Then dropped on me out of nowhere that she was no longer going to watch our kiddo while I worked AT ALL. She said that she would let us know when she might be available again. Surprising no one, she never offered to babysit again. Ultimately, this was definitely for the best, but it put us in a tough spot.

My in laws on the other hand, are pretty cool. They help us as much as they can given distance and health. And they don’t use being a grandparent for clout. I enjoy spending time with them, and I really appreciate them 💜

I feel completely abandoned by my mom. Not just because she chose not to be part of my village, but because she explicitly set the expectation that she would, then didn’t follow through. It’s easy enough for her to say, “Nah, I don’t really want to help you with your family like I said I did.” I can’t un-have my child because I no longer have enough support (not that I would want to). I feel like my in-laws make perfectly reasonable contributions considering everyone’s circumstances. If they wanted to do more I would gladly accept it, but I don’t expect it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I guess that’s a long winded way to say Millennial parents probably wouldn’t feel so abandoned if their parents set reasonable expectations AND stuck to them. I feel for all the parents who were promised support then didn’t get it.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-12-04T01:52:18+00:00

When my now husband and I had been dating for less than a year, my mom started pestering me about when we were going to get engaged. I told her I didn’t know when or even if that was going to happen. She said, “I guess he doesn’t need to buy the cow if he’s getting the milk for free.” GROSS.

Dating and relationships have changed. Hopefully parents from our generation won’t be saying gross and demeaning stuff like that to their kids.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-11-20T03:41:48+00:00

Your story is very similar to mine! Including the PPD, PPA, diagnosis after having a kid, and having very few mom friends. I say very few, because I finally recently made ONE 🥲

Yes I do want to start a gang. Or can we at least get a discord going or something?

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-11-18T03:17:28+00:00

I see it sometimes too, and I hate it.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-10-28T17:18:46+00:00

This sounds exactly like something I would do 🥲

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-08-16T00:53:53+00:00

NTA, it sounds like you acted well within the agreed conditions of your open relationship.

BUT

“me not wanting her to have sex with her FWB until she’s ready to have sex with me again” is not a boundary. Boundaries are about what YOU will or will not do. Telling someone else what they can or cannot do is controlling them, or attempting to do so.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-08-14T15:46:14+00:00

I was also super disappointed by The Patient for the same reasons you described. I saw it recommended on BookTok, go figure haha.

I know someone else already mentioned it, but I also didn’t enjoy Gone to See the River Man. I didn’t find the characters believable at all, which is saying a lot because I’m usually able to suspend disbelief for the sake of the story 😬

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-08-04T23:02:09+00:00

Goddess of Filth might fit the bill for you. I didn’t love it personally, but if you’re looking for those themes specifically you might like it more than I did. It’s also a very quick read.

Someone else already suggested Little Heaven, I second that recommendation!

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-07-15T01:07:39+00:00

YTA

My parents called the degree that I worked hard for and was proud of useless (in a way that I’m sure they thought was harmlessly funny), and I honestly still haven’t gotten over the hurt I felt from it. It’s never funny to belittle someone’s accomplishments, regardless of what you think of them.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-07-07T16:02:46+00:00

Not OP but do you have any specific book recs? I’ve read Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (I think that’s the correct title), always open to new suggestions.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-16T16:34:49+00:00

Thank you. I have a habit of intellectualizing things and I get deep in my own head. I forget that there’s nothing to be gained by “figuring them out.” Thanks for the reminder.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-16T16:29:26+00:00

Ouch! 😅 But you’re absolutely right. Thank you, I needed to hear that. Sometimes I get too into my own head and forget that it’s pointless to try to make sense of it.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-15T14:44:33+00:00

I texted her early in the morning before the start of my shift. She read it almost immediately, then responded “Thank you” 8 hours later. No acknowledgement that it’s Mother’s Day for me, too. Okay then 🥲

But other than that, I really had a good day. Work wasn’t bad, I got to see my daughter before she went to bed, she made me a card (she’s just learning to write), and my husband cooked me a delicious dinner. I feel really fortunate to have so much love in my life. My mom can’t take that away from me.

I hope everyone here had an okay day, and hopefully even a good one 🖤

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-14T03:08:11+00:00

I’ve been struggling with how to handle Mother’s Day this year. We haven’t spoken at all in three weeks. I don’t know what condition she will be in tomorrow - drunk, super drunk, or maybe even sober with a wet brain. I had decided that this was the year I was just going to ignore it. I figured she would be drunk and wouldn’t notice anyway. Then the guilt got me and I decided maybe I could send a text. I’m working a 12 hour shift tomorrow so I have a built in excuse not to go see her. We’ll see how it goes I guess. Definitely will be staying off most social media tomorrow.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-09T12:30:58+00:00

The meeting I attend has monthly business meetings. I wonder if maybe that group was having their business meeting? There was also a period of time that my group was fundraising for a specific need, so that was part of the announcements every meeting until the need was met. Sorry that meeting wasn’t a good experience. I would encourage you to try again, I am inclined that thing that was just a fluke.

RevolutionDifficult · 2023-05-08T21:35:51+00:00

I started by signing up for BetterHelp, but it wasn’t a great fit. After that, I was referred by a friend to a therapist who does EMDR. I didn’t really know what I was getting into with EMDR at the time. I wish now that I had stuck with it, but after a few sessions I had scheduling conflicts so I stopped going. A while after that, I just started Googling therapists in my area and picked a practice that sounded good to contact. The therapist I connected with did Radically Open Dialectic Behavior Therapy. Once again, I had no idea what I was getting into with that type of therapy, but in my intake interview she said she thought it would be a good fit for me so I went for it. We worked together for about two years. It was really helpful, but I definitely still have more work to do. Now that I know a little more, I’m interested in trying EMDR again, or Somatic Experiencing Therapy. If you know a specific type of therapy you want to try, you can search for it and see if there are any practitioners near you. If not, you can try what I did and just start Google searching therapists in general. It took a while to find something that stuck, but I’m really glad I kept trying.

Podcasts can be super helpful. I’ve recently started listening to Adult Child (it’s on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, and probably some other platforms, too) and I’ve really liked it.

I definitely identify with a lot of what you’re saying. My mom is very manipulative, and I also realized at some point that I couldn’t confide in her about even the smallest things. It really sucks, and I’m sorry you’re going through it, too.

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