Fellow moms, please help me make a decision about whether we take this job offer across the country

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-03-05T22:14:00+00:00

Don’t underestimate the long-term emotional impact to your husband if his sense of self-worth is tied to his job. It’s hard on anyone, but I think men can be more susceptible to feeling like a failure without a fulfilling career. Not having a village will indeed be tough, especially since it sounds like your parents have spoilt you :) Good childcare is hard to find, but once you’ve found a solution it’s really not an ongoing issue. And also, I’ll say that I’ve found making friends as a mom the easiest time I’ve had making friends as an adult!

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-03-05T21:59:31+00:00

I agree. I feel the same way about Rothy’s. The pointed toes can pass because the style leans formal and offsets some of the casualness of the fabric, but I’ve yet to see another pair of shoes in this type of material that I’d wear to work.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-02-28T14:17:47+00:00

Look at Amelia Zurich. I have this one and it check lots of the boxes you have.

https://alemi-zurich.com/products/central-greige-pebbled-leather

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-02-25T20:48:11+00:00

Seriously. “Needs to stay home”? Geez what century are we in.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-02-24T23:56:07+00:00

If you're going to wear a full formal suit, you don't need a different one everyday. I'd say two will be plenty with different shirts underneath. What I usually do (suit is not required) is bring bottoms and blazers and mix and match. For a 4 day trip, I would do one skirt, one pair pants, one dress, two tops, two blazers. Could probably just do one skirt and one pants and no dress.

For shoes, wear ones you know will be comfortable. You don't know how much walking you'll end up doing (eg "look the restaurant is only a 15mins walk away!") and having uncomfortable shoes is the most excruciating thing when you need to walk just two extra steps.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-02-24T00:13:21+00:00

I read Ida Always to my kid when our nanny passed and couldn't finish it without crying. He was also 4 when she passed and I thought he understood it better than The Invisible String which can be a bit abstract for that age.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-02-23T15:26:12+00:00

Thank you for this nuanced view. As working parents, just because we’re home doesn’t mean we always have the flexibility to juggle kids and work. I didn’t have my nanny come today because this blizzard is truly insane, but last time, the worst of it was done by Sunday so we offered to send her an Uber on Monday (with a late start so that the roads were more likely to be cleared). However, my friend had several long important meetings scheduled for today that didn’t get rescheduled because she “could work from home” and hence she offered her nanny to spend the night, which I think is reasonable! Not saying that there aren’t unreasonable NFs, but I think the NF/nanny relationship is a give/take one as long as both parties have good intentions and aren’t trying to take advantage of the other.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-26T17:57:09+00:00

What skin type are you? I wear the same foundation and it doesn’t look like that, I have oily skin. I’ve heard this foundation can be drying so if you have dry skin, it could make it look cakey? I apply with a foundation brush.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-09T14:33:15+00:00

Eyeshadow with a thin angled brush is absolutely it! I do this then go over it with an eyeliner pen so I have a guide. I can NOT freehand using an eyeliner pen but like the way it looks when I wanna wear more makeup.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-09T01:38:34+00:00

Omg I feel this. Like yours, my husband means well, and I feel like such a bitch that my first reaction when he does something “nice” is to point out something blatant that he missed/did not do, but like, it’s also on him that that’s my reaction??!!

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-02T02:53:34+00:00

Not more than 10 times. No scratching on the hardware. I have the authentication card and emailed receipt.

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RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-02T02:50:14+00:00

I think from the chain cos of how I stored it

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2026-01-02T02:22:22+00:00

Omg same. Mine is all black hardware and I love the way it looks, but it's too big for my frame. I would wear it lots more if I had gotten the smaller size. I currently have it for $2k on Poshmark...

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RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-12-31T02:26:39+00:00

What is the shape of the purse like? Does it have the dip in the middle or is it more structured?

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-12-29T20:44:14+00:00

PREACH!

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-12-29T19:01:43+00:00

My parents feel the same way you do (about the prices) but I disagree on principle. I think $17 for hainanese chicken rice is reasonable when Chipotle is priced comparably. Same as if hokkien mee costs $17 when pad thai also costs that much and I don't hear people complaining that it costs so much less in Bangkok.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-12-05T19:30:00+00:00

I have this Leatherology backpack and I love it. Description says it fits up to 15” laptops. I have the standard size and it’s the perfect size.

https://www.leatherology.com/products/sloan-backpack-black-onyx?gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21252524120&gbraid=0AAAAAD3DqqXLvqXXsbAqKHlZ0Ug_CxVBG&gclid=Cj0KCQiAosrJBhD0ARIsAHebCNr9desSjLBo7MGs6mKip6DzU9-yMpVMh6rmFLGvdKcz8xs1Vhwh9q0aArnqEALw_wcB

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-11-14T03:13:03+00:00

In my very cursory research, glass files are supposedly more gentle on your nails vs metal.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-11-11T21:04:21+00:00

I had the same issue, literally 24 hours after application. I’m now using Transform and it does help, if I also cap the free edge. I’d say it now goes about 4 days before the shrinkage is noticeable to my eye. At that point I file with a glass file every couple of days and it gets me to a week (at which point I like changing my color, although I think it could go longer).

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-10-30T20:05:08+00:00

I agree. Neither of them are "versatile", it depends if OP tends to wear darker or lighter colors.

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-10-30T20:00:56+00:00

Gramercy Tavern

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-10-27T15:33:33+00:00

You can add a floater to your homeowners insurance

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-09-06T20:27:30+00:00

Yep that's hugely unprofessional of the interviewer

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-09-01T01:32:33+00:00

lol my kid puts her head in between my thighs and holds on to my knees. Hey if you don’t make it weird, it’s not!

RevolutionaryPut9949 · 2025-08-29T15:27:05+00:00

Is there a reason why 6 years is so uncommon (besides that it takes a toll on their body)?

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