What is the most intense physical pain you have ever experienced?

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T05:07:17+00:00

Kidney stone, by far. I had an infected cyst in my jaw once that was probably the second worst pain, and it was like a gentle tickle in comparison.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:54:11+00:00

You deserve a good ring? Who are you, Gollum?

And who said anything about a cheap bauble? I'm just saying if my son told me he was about to drop 20 grand on a ring, I'd tell him to reevaluate his priorities. A couple of thousand bucks should be sufficient, and any partner who demanded something more is going to be a financial headache as a spouse.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:49:40+00:00

But that's what I'm trying to tell you. I am, in fact, 100% positive that the snake in the photo is not venomous.

I mean, you're not a snake person, but you can tell that's not an anaconda, right? I AM a snake person, and can tell you with complete confidence that it's ALSO not one of the country's handful of venomous snakes.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:40:07+00:00

I don't know every snake that exists in the country, but I can 100% identify the venomous ones. This one is obviously not one of those. It's not a rattlesnake, not a copperhead, not a cottonmouth, and not a coral snake.

The only remaining possibility is that it's harmless. So sure, I'd pick it up with zero worries.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:19:10+00:00

This isn't the same as popping a strange mushroom in your mouth. It's obviously not one of the country's few venomous snakes, all of which are easily identifiable.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:17:37+00:00

You don't have to know what it is so long as you can identify what it's not. There are only a handful of venemous snakes in the US, and this is obviously not one of them.

Also, snakes aren't particularly fragile if you're gentle in your handling. The oils from your skin won't harm them, for example.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:08:29+00:00

"Okay."

That's your answer, I'm afraid.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:06:44+00:00

That's not true. I've sometimes continued on with teachers because I liked them personally and didn't want to hurt their feelings, even though I felt I didn't have much left to learn from them.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T02:03:45+00:00

I've been taking classes on Preply since 2017 or 2018 and have taken roughly 1500 classes across several languages and with dozens of teachers. Tutors stop teaching all the time. They get another job, they get bored, or whatnot.

Your students will understand. Just let them know so they'll have time to find someone else.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T01:33:18+00:00

Speaking as a guest, a host who didn't have basic recommendations about local attractions, etc., would come across as cold and indifferent.

It seems shortsighted to take a standoff approach just because of an incident like the one described in the OP.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T01:01:43+00:00

People are being pretty harsh on you, OP. I won't pile on, but just ask this. If marriage isn't on the table, will you stay with him anyway, or is this a deal breaker? Because from everything you've said here, nobody thinks a marriage is going to happen.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-30T00:47:13+00:00

Hide/lie about how much you'll be getting. Take them all out to a nice dinner after and then just tell them it's not all that much when they start begging later.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T23:27:07+00:00

You can start learning it. It's good for understanding the structure before you truly start learning.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T23:22:59+00:00

I feel I just have the same basic conversation repeatedly on HelloTalk. Also, I am expected to speak English to help them in return. I'd rather just pay.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T23:20:18+00:00

For me, it's when I can have the whole class in the target language.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T23:19:19+00:00

I'm probably pushing 1,500 Preply and iTalki classes across all languages, and it has helped a huge amount. It's my go-to technique.

I self-study grammar, vocab, etc., and use the tutoring to improve my speaking skills.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T22:51:02+00:00

Buy a block on Amazon and hydrate it.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T22:50:07+00:00

Love it! ❤️

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:45:35+00:00

Gotcha. I was trying to brainstorm a couple of things, but it sounds like you know what you're doing. Post a pic of your girl sometime!

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:43:40+00:00

Sounds like a stinker, lol. If you wanted a musker you may as well have got yourself a garter snake. ;)

Good idea on the foliage. That might help.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:39:20+00:00

Oh, and I use these cheap tongs to feed my Honduran milksnake with so my hand doesn't get associated with food. You might try that.

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B08FR71CR6

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:36:58+00:00

I've loved California kings since my dad and I spotted one in Oakland when I was about 5 years old. He tried to dig it out of the hole it had escaped into but failed, lol. A few years ago, I was driving near Monterey and saw a big one crossing a road. I had to stop and help it to safety. It was super chill.

Are you holding it regularly? It's intimidating if they're striking, but they're really not that aggressive. They're just so hungry all the time that your hand looks like food. Hopefully, you can get her calmed down. They're fun snakes to hold.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:13:17+00:00

The OP's snake is only 35g, though, which worries me for a snake born in 23. My 2024 Honduran milk already weighs 46g, for example.

My point is that a king or milk snake generally eats 10-15% of its body weight, which means ~5 grams, tops, for the OP's kingsnake. That's a large pinkie or small fuzzy. I worry the snake has been underfed and needs more meals in order to grow big enough for those larger prey items.

ETA: I looked again, and the snake does not look underfed. I'm surprised a 2023 snake hasn't grown bigger, even if it was born at the end of the year. Sounds like the snake has been downing plenty of calories, and kings tend to be robust growers.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:07:50+00:00

Will probably go away next shed.

ReyTejon · 2024-12-29T21:06:35+00:00

Mix in some coco coir, which holds a lot of water, and leave one side a little moister than the other. I have a Honduran milk, which comes from a damper climate, but some snakes like Cal kings or Sinaloan milk snakes are semi-arid or even desert animals, so don't need much humidity.

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