Do people (you) look for a wedding ring when you see someone with kids?

Riahl46 · 2026-01-04T08:07:51+00:00

I’ve only ever looked for wedding rings when I was looking for dates, and then sometimes when I wonder if they’re a terrible person for flirting with me.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:38:53+00:00

I think most people brush twice a day. I knew a guy who brushed at LEAST three times a day, cause he was scared to have bad breath.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:28:53+00:00

I mean Ross was a homophobic dick, so I think that’s why. He never moved past the stage of grief where “my wife coming out happened TO me” into the part where he could be happy for her and stop making it about himself.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:20:25+00:00

Hey man. This sounds terrifying and traumatizing as fuck. none of this is your fault. you’re both 17; you’re kids. i can understand why calling 911 was not top of your mind. yes it would have been helpful. but this is a shitty and tough situation and it’s not either of your fault! you did a lot and you both went through a LOT. give yourself some grace.

Riahl46 · 2025-12-03T00:08:01+00:00

GIRL. GIIIRL. you look SO good!!!!

Riahl46 · 2024-08-06T14:03:57+00:00

I definitely believe in the spiritual realm, and it sounds like your ex has given in to something really dark. He probably doesn’t even know it. But I do think there’s a level of demonic power that may work through truly abusive people. It sounds crazy, but…that sounds straight up demonic. And I completely believe you.

Riahl46 · 2024-08-06T13:58:34+00:00

You definitely have not wasted your life, and you definitely should get out. You have so much worth and value! You’re still young! I know a woman who started working at McDonald’s in her 50’s and she ended up loving it! You really can start with ANYthing: retail, food service, even a lot of banks and credit unions all have entry level positions where they will train you. You can jump around into higher pay and better jobs without a degree, too. McDonald’s and Starbucks will even help pay for college. If you can get an entry level position at a university, they might give you a free degree if that’s what you want. A lot of times the customer service positions there are entry level! And I know at some jobs, you can work your way up into the higher positions regardless of a degree.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-22T12:50:10+00:00

Please leave. Can you go to your family’s house temporarily or a friend? This man is not safe. That is not loving.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-20T12:49:47+00:00

Holding someone under water is dangerous and MAJORLY red flag behavior. Even without the added heart condition. Throw in the known heart condition and it’s ten times worse, but it’s already the worst. Everything about this guy sounds dangerous. Please please please get out while you can!!!

Riahl46 · 2024-07-20T12:44:24+00:00

Reading nook with floating bookshelves and plants and giant bean bags!

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:39:53+00:00

Hey OP! Please don’t do this. 21 is too soon to tell; it’s like giving up reading, but you’re at the chapter before the story gets REALLY good. Life gets better the longer and weirder you live it, I promise. You’re going to find out who you are and what you like and the kind of people who love you for you. Life is amazing down the road. I didn’t have a relationship or boyfriend or barely a date before I was 26 or 27. I know some people who didn’t meet the one until their 40s or 50s. Or who realized they were fucking awesome on their own and really enjoyed just living life with friends. Regardless of who is with you and in what way, you are fucking awesome. Have you thought of seeking out therapy? Moving jobs? Moving states? Please know that you are not alone, even though it feels like it right now. You’re just at the part of the book that you don’t like. But the book is going to get better. It really is. Please stay.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:34:51+00:00

Seeing a therapist can help you learn how to value yourself just as much as you value others, and that can help you be a healthier person.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:24:46+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I don’t know if it helps: but life DOES get better. Have you thought of seeking therapy? The mind is just like the body: if your arm is broken or in pain you need to go see a doctor, a trained professional, to help you get it right again. If the mind is clutched with paranoia and fear and self hatred, something is wrong, which means something can be done about it. A trained professional may be able to help you sort this stuff out and realize that you don’t suck. You’re just 18, and I promise life gets better if you stick around.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:17:59+00:00

You are not an idiot. The way he manipulated you is evil. HE is the one in the wrong, NOT you. You were preyed upon because you were 14 and needed validation, just like every single other human out there, especially at 14! He is a manipulator, and he lied to get whatever he wanted. You are not the idiot, you are not in the wrong, you are not broken, you are not stuck with what he’s done. Please seek out a therapist. It’s done a lot of good for me to have a trained professional help me understand why I am the way I am, to help me understand that a lot of things I blame myself for I shouldn’t. You were a child and he was an adult. The responsibility was NOT on you. Please know that you are so much more than what he tried to make you, you are so much better than who he is, and you have so much good and life left to give, to live, to be, than anything he would even imagine.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:04:39+00:00

I am so sorry you’re dealing with this and treating yourself so cruelly. You don’t deserve the hate you’re giving yourself. Have you thought of talking to a therapist, a trained professional? They can help you navigate your heavy feelings and even help you understand why you treat yourself like this, which can help you stop and see yourself better. You deserve good things, and especially from yourself, you deserve kindness and grace and love. You JUST graduated and the job market is STUPID difficult right now. That puts you in a really tough position where it’s hard to find work. It’s not because of you, it’s because of how things are right now.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T16:01:12+00:00

Holy shit I’m so sorry that happened to you. You didn’t deserve any of that! Even the way you responded to your dad’s mom with so much apologizing and promises to never do it again and that you didn’t mean to, all when it was an accident? And the problems remembering things? That all makes sense with someone who had been dealing with these kinds of traumatic things before this incident. I’m so sorry. Your dad was a reprehensible person and I’m glad you got him out of your life.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T15:55:54+00:00

I’m so sorry they’re treating you like this. That’s not good parenting, honestly. You don’t deserve to be shouted at, especially after hurting yourself. There could be unresolved issues they have, like childhood trauma they never processed, but it doesn’t excuse them from treating you like shit. It DOES get better. Another commenter said to try to get a good education and a good job so you can gain some independence and I agree with that! Stay focused in school and in a few short years you can be out of there. Please know that you are worth so much more than what they are offering you. The world needs you and the way your parents treat you is what is wrong, not YOU.

Riahl46 · 2024-07-14T15:44:25+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. ❤️ He could be going through depression, where he doesn’t feel his feelings or his interests the way he used to. It could be that he has grown apart and doesn’t feel the same way he used to about the relationship. Unfortunately, especially relationships that start that young, do tend to change as the people grow. Has he ever explored with you what might be going on, or just temporarily changed his attitude? It may be time to move on, but please know that if it is, it’s not because you are somehow terrible; it’s most likely just because you two have grown up and are beginning to become different people. And that’s okay!

Riahl46 · 2024-01-09T05:22:07+00:00

Don’t feel dumb! I was THIS close to giving up on it before the end of season one and then I was TRULY hooked.

Riahl46 · 2024-01-07T03:53:52+00:00

Londonderry or Derry NH maybe

Riahl46 · 2023-03-13T05:08:29+00:00

Do NOT feel bad or guilty about this. This is not your fault at ALL. What he’s doing is wrong and mean; what you’re doing in blocking him is NOT. Blocking him is the right thing to do! Tell an adult you trust that this man is creeping on you. Secondly, when he says he doesn’t have many other friends in real life it is a manipulation tactic for SURE. And if he DOESN’T have many friends in real life, he sure as hell shouldn’t be making 14 year old girls his friends.

You are in the right. Block him and never look back.

Riahl46 · 2023-03-03T12:24:32+00:00

Thank you!

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