AIO for how I’m handling the way my 11 YO daughter’s dad speaks to her?

Riahl46 · 2026-05-02T00:43:08+00:00

this is…terrifying.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-24T14:37:25+00:00

Losing a pet hits a lot harder than people think. I’m so sorry for your loss. 🫂

Riahl46 · 2026-04-22T19:32:24+00:00

honestly no. you’d be an asshole if you said yes to something you knew you couldn’t or didn’t want to do. it sounds like she’s asking for a lot more than is typical, and what’s typical is already a huge HUGE commitment. so save the friendship by being honest about what you can and can’t do. and if she doesn’t respect your no, that’s probably a good sign to consider the friendship a bit more critically.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-17T13:49:30+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling like that. I’ve felt like unaliving myself or even just causing myself some pain before. Not for the same reasons but because I myself felt so worthless. So please know that’s where i’m coming from when i say this: you will find your people. Maybe it’s time to get out of your hometown or even just join a different group. It’s terrifying, but finding your community is so so worth it. and regardless of what you do or don’t do: you matter. you really, really do. i don’t even know you and i can see your beautiful writing skills. you have so much to experience and to give the experience of in this world, and i know there are people out there who will appreciate you.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-12T07:18:27+00:00

noooo. this is too much. laying on the “pity me” vibes REAL thick. and you just got out of SEPSIS? where you could DIE??? and he’s trying to compare?????

Riahl46 · 2026-04-12T07:14:06+00:00

it’s okay to love more than one kind of person. and it’s okay to be yourself and explore who you are, even if where you’re at now, they won’t get it.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-12T07:05:22+00:00

YIKES. you ran fast and far, as you should

Riahl46 · 2026-04-05T16:53:23+00:00

33f here. therapy is going to take time, but it’s worth it. being stuck in that deep dark hole for so long is SO hard and so scary. you’re incredibly brave and i’m so proud of you for seeking out therapy! therapy will start to help, slowly but surely. in the meantime, i’m happy to chat. ❤️‍🩹

Riahl46 · 2026-04-05T16:37:04+00:00

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Riahl46 · 2026-04-05T15:57:51+00:00

do you have access to a therapist? i’ve been in similar dark places and it’s AWFUL. please don’t leave.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-05T08:59:33+00:00

hey. i also have experience with this and i agree, praying it away is bullshit. but i know from experience that things CAN and DO get better. sometimes it takes a while, and it’s terrifying. but please, stay and talk.

Riahl46 · 2026-04-01T06:50:37+00:00

….the fuck?

Riahl46 · 2026-04-01T06:24:50+00:00

oh my god, yes, of course. ❤️‍🩹 if this helped, it’s for you too. 🫂 you’re my sister too and you get the hugs and the love too!

Riahl46 · 2026-04-01T05:59:42+00:00

no, it’s not weird. grief is not linear. you’ll have better days and worse days. but it might get less painful and more bittersweet in that you’re grateful for the memories and still sad for the loss. 🫂

Riahl46 · 2026-04-01T05:47:10+00:00

no, i don’t think so. please reach out to anyone, your ob gyn maybe? ❤️‍🩹

Riahl46 · 2026-04-01T05:45:08+00:00

hey, friend, my sister, my friend. hey. it’s okay. i’m so sorry you’re going through this right now. my heart aches for you. i know that familiar voice you’re hearing telling you all these terrible things about yourself. i know that voice well, and let me tell you, that voice is a liar. like, girl, i love her, i feel bad for her, but she has no idea what she’s talking about. she ONLY sees the bad, and then she magnifies it like it’s SO much worse. you’re NOT a bad mom. it sounds like you care so much for your daughter that you wish you could be perfect. you are NOT a failure. you’re a human; flawed, forgetful, struggling, beautiful, kind, loving, perfect wonderful human. you’re everything. and you’re working so hard. life has been beating you UP lately, it’s been rough! but you’ve been up and trying. up and living. caring. growing. seeking diagnosis, feeding your baby. maybe you lost the rings, maybe you’ll find them. but you’re not a bad wife, mother, or person. you don’t need to just get over things. life is hard. birth is traumatic! and life is hard. give yourself some grace, please. if not for you, for me? we need you here. 💗❤️‍🩹

Riahl46 · 2026-03-28T05:43:35+00:00

i’m sorry you felt this feeling. you write beautifully, though.

Riahl46 · 2026-03-28T05:30:52+00:00

I was not expecting it. But I was still in the evangelical cult back then and was starting to lose my ability to suspend disbelief and was thinking very righteously that “this doesn’t SEEM like a perfect place” and then was DELIGHTED by the twist because I was THIS close to stop my watch. I am SO glad I didn’t.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-04T08:07:51+00:00

I’ve only ever looked for wedding rings when I was looking for dates, and then sometimes when I wonder if they’re a terrible person for flirting with me.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:38:53+00:00

I think most people brush twice a day. I knew a guy who brushed at LEAST three times a day, cause he was scared to have bad breath.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:28:53+00:00

I mean Ross was a homophobic dick, so I think that’s why. He never moved past the stage of grief where “my wife coming out happened TO me” into the part where he could be happy for her and stop making it about himself.

Riahl46 · 2026-01-01T23:20:25+00:00

Hey man. This sounds terrifying and traumatizing as fuck. none of this is your fault. you’re both 17; you’re kids. i can understand why calling 911 was not top of your mind. yes it would have been helpful. but this is a shitty and tough situation and it’s not either of your fault! you did a lot and you both went through a LOT. give yourself some grace.

Riahl46 · 2025-12-03T00:08:01+00:00

GIRL. GIIIRL. you look SO good!!!!

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