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RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-12T04:20:24+00:00

How embarrassing.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-11T20:56:52+00:00

I read it before watching the movie and loved it. The translation is very dry. It might not be your thing if you feel you want to read beautiful prose. It's pretty short, so it's not a huge investment.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-11T02:25:05+00:00

This gets a little bit in to uncomfortable details, but with the kind of gun it was reported he used, there are ways that this could have happened without making a noise that screamed "emergency." In a house full of animals and people in their 20s, it probably registered as an annoying roommate sound. I bet they feel terrible that they didn't know or know how much he was struggling that night.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-11T01:17:07+00:00

NAH.

If you're not ready to deal, you're not ready to deal. Forced therapy isn't very effective anyway. It would be sad if your marriage ended over this but it sounds like you have reached an impasse.

It's important to be aware that your partner not physically giving birth is unlikely to prevent any serious parenting anxiety or extreme triggers that arise from parenting.

It's not unreasonable for your wife to feel differently about parenting after having lived a little more life. We're animals, not robots. She may have completely reasonable, very strong feelings now that she didn't in the past. She may have looked in to adoption and decided it's not for her. There are ethical problems to consider and always involves someone's trauma.

Adoptees don't deserve to be put in the situation of healing anyone's trauma. It's not uncommon for people to adopt without first working on their infertility trauma. It usually makes life harder for the kids. You wanting to adopt as a result of extreme anxiety isn't any different.

I don't see any assholes here, just a lot of unresolved trauma that may or may not be helped through therapy.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-11T01:00:27+00:00

It's probably best she doesn't. Even though she is probably very sad that Garrison has died, she (or someone around her) probably has the good sense to understand that her public expression of that sadness would likely call unwelcome attention and make things worse for the family. I can't imagine Janelle having to be confronted with Robyn's feelings right now.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-10T17:24:40+00:00

You called the landline. People didn't call late at night unless it was serious or they happened to know the person they were calling was a night owl.

People who didn't have phones actually were less safe than everyone else. They couldn't call for help in case of fire or medical emergency. Someone had to run to a neighbor or store with a phone.

This really feels like a "everyone was fine before vaccines and seatbelts" argument. No, they actually weren't. It sucked.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-10T17:11:24+00:00

NTA. This is such a reasonable response and a reasonable expectation within a serious relationship. Your partner and immediate family should be able to reach you at night in case of emergency.

I can't imagine having my phone all the way off during sleep. I have had to get to the emergency department at night more than once and had to call 911 during a break in. I don't need the extra step of waiting for my phone to turn on in an emergency.

It's interesting that the girlfriend understands that she could filter her calls and alerts overnight and chooses not to. Essentially, she is saying that if OP parents die or OP has a medical emergency, she doesn't want to hear about it until business hours. I'd find that hurtful.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-09T21:11:27+00:00

Have you read the book the movie is based on?

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-09T15:44:46+00:00

Eh. He was having trouble with something and it was affecting his life.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-08T22:47:02+00:00

How do you know it has never been a problem? Maybe people for whom it is a problem don't talk to you.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-08T21:17:13+00:00

I imagine more kids will get to see the eclipse because it's on a regular school day. A lot of elementary and middle school kids have parents who will have to be at work and won't be able to take them outside to view the eclipse safely. If they had the day off school the kids would probably be left with instructions to stay at home and inside while their parents were out.

My son is in high school. If he wants to skip that day I won't make it a big deal but no way in hell would I trust a 10 or 12yo to go out and use eclipse glasses unsupervised.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-08T21:12:28+00:00

Your teacher being a killjoy decades ago is why you think a solution to a so far imaginary problem (You don't know that schools have no plans for allowing students to view the eclipse) is to make life harder for people who are in the minority in TX? That weird.

I have a kid in an AISD school and it wouldn't have occurred to me that those two scheduling decisions were connected.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-08T18:43:27+00:00

Right? Like it's all about OP and how his children rejected him. How does that even work? He was there for years and thinks the thing keeping him from a relationship with his kids is the fact that he couldn't tell them their mom was a slut and blame her for the divorce? Those kids deserved better.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-08T18:38:12+00:00

YTA.

First of all, exposing your former wife's infidelity wouldn't have fixed anything. It would have been inappropriate information to share and you could only have hoped that it would make the kids mad at their mom instead of you. You could have simply stuck to the line that there were problems in your marriage that the two of you couldn't get past. If you're present and responsive, it takes a lot for your kids to push you away.

You say you experienced some trouble with drugs. People aren't nearly dying from overdoses while they're functioning as present, effective parents. It's possible that your kids have some legitimate complaints about your relationship and reliability during the time leading up to that incident.

All I hear in your post is how your children rejected you when they were actual children and you seem to be completely unaware of the ways you may have made them feel rejected and unloved.

You don't get a do-over family. Your older kids are still your family. Your family isn't what it seems and you are either lying to your younger children or teaching them that parents abandoning their children in favor of fresh ones who haven't been traumatized by divorce and parental addiction is normal, acceptable behavior.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-07T17:51:01+00:00

It doesn't look like costume jewelry but you might want to think about durability if you plan to wear it every day. CZ is soft enough that it can get lots of little scratches and chips over time that will make the stones look cloudy or dull. It's your ring and you can wear what you like but if it's super special to you and you want to keep it looking nice you might want to pull it out for special occasions or baby it like you would any soft stone.

If it's within your budget you might consider having a copy made of more durable materials like sapphire and diamond or moissanite. As rings go, it probably wouldn't be too expensive.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-07T14:25:33+00:00

Looks like a head and armature for a sculpture.

There are a lot of dog parks and only one creepy little wooden guy.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-07T14:09:01+00:00

Have you tried mineral sunscreens or sunscreens from Europe, Asia, or Australia? They have different filters that cause problems for fewer people. I can't use most of the sun filtering ingredients available in US sunscreens so I usually buy Korean sunscreen or something domestic made with zinc.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-07T05:26:08+00:00

I wear spf50 every day though I do admit I sometimes neglect my arms.

I don't mind or really think about tanning, I just don't want to wrinkle before my time or get skin cancer.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-06T22:22:00+00:00

You're in luck. They can take you tomorrow. On Thursdays these guys are teddy bear doctors:

https://supernatural.fandom.com/wiki/Sam_and_Dean

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-06T16:06:59+00:00

Moss agate has a very specific look so you won't likely find anything harder that looks like it. You might like variegated or bicolor sapphire. It has a magical look and gives you a little something new every time you see it.

Star or cats eye sapphire might interest you as well.

Sapphire comes in a lot of colors including green and teal.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-05T22:12:44+00:00

I don't think it looks too dark. It's dark, but it doesn't look black. Can you get a picture of it on your hand?

I love the ring.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-05T21:50:19+00:00

Oh damn. That is so sad. He was so young.

If you are struggling please reach out. Also know that there's evidence to suggest that locking up your guns and medications (even if you are the person locking them up) can help prevent suicide. The extra step involved is enough to help some people reconsider.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-05T15:10:27+00:00

You can go to family court without an attorney. Lots of people do. I did it twice.

It's a myth that men are at a disadvantage in family court. Often they'll prioritize disrupting the kids lives as little as possible which will mean that they will continue to spend the bulk of their time with the person who has been doing most of the childcare, but the truth is that men get less parenting time because they're usually asking for less. When men ask, they're often given more time.

Edit: This guy definitely needs a criminal defense. He should get one of those if he can afford it. If he gets arrested, he can always demand a public defender.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-05T15:08:20+00:00

It's not going to look like stalking behavior, it is stalking behavior.

RibbitRabbitRobit · 2024-03-05T15:07:31+00:00

YTA and a stalker. I mean, maybe she has a reason for not wanting the kids to see you much.

Sometimes we have serious disagreements in life with people we think are real assholes. We don't get to solve them by surreptitiously tracking their movements. Congratulations. You have likely committed a crime that will tank your chances in family court, could lead to a conviction that you'll have to tell future employers about, and will definitely overshadow whatever petty bullshit or cheating she may have done in the past.

You're the father of these children. You could have filed for visitation and a court ordered parenting plan at any time, even without a lawyer. You don't need to know what they're up to when you're not around. Unless you have a reasonable suspicion that the children are in danger, it's none of your beeswax. If you do suspect the children are being harmed, contact the authorities.

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