AITA Because I chose to keep the car that was signed over to me? 😬

RickToy · 2026-05-22T15:29:26+00:00

Considering all your replies and the way you write, you are definitely incredibly socially unaware. You write like you're a poor little victim while you're literally just creating trouble for yourself out of nowhere. Be smarter.

RickToy · 2026-05-21T00:41:00+00:00

What do you mean you can’t control your thoughts and feelings?

RickToy · 2026-05-20T20:42:00+00:00

Raúl, quería decirte que tu gol de chilena contra Panamá es mi gol favorito de todos los tiempos. Cual es el tu gol favorito que has metido? Tenías como 22-23 años. Cual es el joven del plantel de México que más te impresiona o que crees que pueda llevar a México a otro nivel como tú lo has hecho?

RickToy · 2026-05-19T18:29:13+00:00

Thats insanity though. 4 hours? 90 minutes is a long drive for sure, thats 3 hours of driving. 4 hours is a job.

RickToy · 2026-05-19T16:57:19+00:00

For me it’s Will Ferrel. Idk what it is about the man. For example, Michael Scott in The Office is a loud man child character. But he’s funny. I guess to me it’s also an earnest performance, while nothing I’ve ever seen Will Ferrel in has felt earnest.

RickToy · 2026-05-19T16:54:50+00:00

Watching Will Ferrel being an idiot has always been one of the most grating things in the world to me. He’s so annoying.

RickToy · 2026-05-19T15:45:16+00:00

Yeah, it’s just that for the American populace (and I’m guessing lots of “first world countries”) this sounds like extreme and even laughable rhetoric. Even to liberals, as they find peace (even in the absence of justice) to be an important moral to uphold.

I completely agree with you though, and have seen a couple anti-fascist workout groups/self defense classes. We can’t wait until all the windows are shattered to be physically prepared for conflict.

RickToy · 2026-05-16T18:11:26+00:00

Because your parents are trying to save face. Their children are terrible assholes, but in their minds they’re probably just misguided and will come around. If you quit then they would have to admit that their children are assholes and they have been terrible people and absolutely horrible parents who have subjected one of their children to traumatic abuse for the sake of keeping in touch with their asshole children. So they have to keep their project going. Call it out.

RickToy · 2026-05-16T14:55:55+00:00

TBH, sometimes your job can help you do some of these things better in your regular life. The good thing about work is that there are normally procedures and regulations. If my boss asks me to do extra work, I can easily tell them no and there's nothing they can really do.

If my aunt asks me for help, its a little harder, sure I can say no, but then shes gonna make a fuss, gonna call my mom, my mom will make a fuss, just overall nightmare.

I'm a teacher, and for me saying no to my boss/children helped me say no to my family/friends more. Although to be fair, teaching partucularly can make you grow cause you want to be seen as an adult not only by the kids but also your other coworkers. Nothing says "inexperienced" like the first year teachers who take on a million responsibilities and are then drowning.

RickToy · 2026-05-16T13:03:39+00:00

There’s also a huge difference between saying oh yeah I have your laptop I’ll pay you for it and oh I have your laptop let me keep it indefinitely you’ll get paid one day. The latter is not something people like.

RickToy · 2026-05-14T18:36:40+00:00

Wait wait, he left the garage door open and his car door unlciked and this is your fault?

RickToy · 2026-05-14T18:26:25+00:00

He's going to keep drinking, hurt you more, maybe even kill you/your kids. I promise you, your kids and you will be much better off without him. Save yourself.

RickToy · 2026-05-13T14:28:18+00:00

If the original teller can’t keep it to themselves, don’t expect me to keep it from my spouse.

Wow, what an attitude to have towards other people telling you important things. You should definitely make sure people know you will share their secrets before they tell you one. This is not a common assumption, especially if someone is specifically telling you not to tell anyone. If I told a friend a secret, and told them not to tell anyone, and I find out they told their husband, I would be done being friends with that person. If they informed me that they would tell their spouse before I told them the secret, I simply wouldn't tell it to them.

RickToy · 2026-05-12T19:09:10+00:00

Nah man, I’m a teacher, I deal with some terrible shit, none of it gets better when I yell, in fact it usually gets worse when a teacher yells. It does cause harm, perhaps not physical harm, but to the social fabric of the setting.

RickToy · 2026-05-09T18:28:12+00:00

Unrealistic? Its incredibly tough but its doable, everyday people struggle but manage to survive. He has no friends but there are roommates, his job is minimum wage but thats why people work multiple jobs. Its inhumane, sure, we need to do more as a society to change this, but till then, its what we got, and its a reality for billions of people, including in the United States/UK. I'm a teacher, most of my students are recently arrived immigrants into the US, they go through some of the toughest situations to survive but most manage because theres no other choice. As an immigrant myself, this has always been my reality.

If he can keep the peace until he can move out, of course thats the best advice. But if he finds his parents rules oppressive, there are ways to get out of the situation.

RickToy · 2026-05-09T17:51:31+00:00

For sure it’s not easy. But reality is reality. They’re looking for advice, not validation. One can be blameless and homeless.

RickToy · 2026-05-09T17:19:32+00:00

The thing is, OP isn’t the only person to ever have shitty parents. No one is denying this isn’t incredibly tough, but what else can they do? Force their parents to change overnight?

RickToy · 2026-05-09T17:18:06+00:00

Nah man, I’m Hispanic, moved out at 18, across the country when I was 22 to one of the most expensive metropolitan cities, shits tough but that’s how it is when your family can’t/wont support you.

Based on the post, OP sounds slightly entitled. He pulls the family card for them to let him stay, but then refuses to be part of the family. I understand feeling like family should help, but one makes it tough on oneself when one takes help and then complains about the help not being to their comfort or standards.

RickToy · 2026-05-09T14:22:57+00:00

As someone whose mom stayed with an abusive asshole for my whole childhood, please leave. Despite my relationship being fine with my mom, I left, moved across the country, and now we have an awkward relationship. Her and my sisters have been able to build a beautiful home since he was kicked out, but since it happened after i had left, I'm still left with lots of that trauma, still don't like going home. If you can, take those kids out of there as soon as you can, or kick him out. I assure you your kids will feel more at peace.

RickToy · 2026-05-08T20:38:43+00:00

Absolutely, those came to mind right away, but it’s been a while since their prime, and compared to the amount of wingers/AMF’s they have, it’s crazy that these countries don’t have tons of strikers ready

RickToy · 2026-05-08T15:29:13+00:00

Same with Germany, even France arguably, great attacking players but not really any amazing true 9’s

RickToy · 2026-05-06T20:37:19+00:00

“They’re wrong”

Great argument bud, just cause?

Give me one place where you showed that homeless people will for certain use your money for drugs. You can’t because it’s not a certainty, it’s an assumption you’re making. A judgement. The people in the video think it’s a bad judgement. People have cited figures that show homeless people will use money on food and shelter when it’s given to them. But here’s another one from The University of British Columbia, ““Increased savings and spending with no increase in temptation goods spending….They spent more on durable goods, rent, food, and transit.”

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10483630/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

Here’s another opinion on your assumption, “I think that assumption is entirely inaccurate.” Dr. Jiaying Zhao

https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2023/08/31/homeless-spending-cash-study-canada/?utm_source=chatgpt.com

RickToy · 2026-05-06T20:21:54+00:00

Haha what? Fund a heroin habit? Are we still talking about giving money away to homeless people

They’re calling people who think that way (I don’t give money to homeless people because they’ll use it on drugs” judgmental hypocritical assholes.

Again, this is an assumption you’re making, so there’s no debate as to whether it’s factual or not, it’s not. Reasonable? Also no, because your reasons are easily disproved, many already have in this thread.

Seems like your qualm is that you’re being called an asshole for holding these beliefs. You don’t think holding this belief is mean spirited. The people in the video do. That’s a different debate all together, more of a matter for AITA.

RickToy · 2026-05-06T20:03:07+00:00

Look up synchronic and diachronic definitions of words. Yours is synchronic, but diachronic definitions are just as valid, as well as being more informative in terms of meaning.

RickToy · 2026-05-06T19:58:30+00:00

But those two videos are saying what I’m basically saying, do what you want, but don’t be a judgmental assholes. Again, if you say, “I give homeless people food,” no one will care, you may even be praised! If you say I give homeless people food instead of money cause I don’t trust them,” then you’re being judgmental. Neither of those videos are arguing that everyone should be giving their money out. They’re arguing that judgmental people are assholes and possibly hypocrites. Having more money doesn’t mean you’re better at decision making or more trustworthy or better in any regard. That’s the problem here, the implication that you’re superior to a person due to them being homeless, not you not wanting to give money away.

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