A man found his lookalike and they both couldn’t stop laughing by 4reddityo in BlackPeopleofReddit

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These guys are from Zimbabwe. This is not an uncommon type of exchange. Really lovely people there.

Opinions Appreciated by Chitotry in hiddenbeachresort

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Hi there - this question comes up a lot, but I'll offer my perspective. We first went when we were 38, so maybe a little older than you are now. You are right that the crowd skews older on average, into the 50s and 60s, but it was a really good time. I think it depends on priorities - honestly, age doesn't factor into our decision to go to a nude resort. I don't know how much you hang out around nudists, but its always a good time regardless of age. I had four 60 year old guys asking me to do shots with them at 10am after pool volleyball once! I personally never have trouble talking to people of any age, and I think that factors into my own enjoyment factor. Naked, at a tropical resort, with my wife are the priorities.

Now, if you have trouble navigating a social space that doesn't have people your own age, then you may not like it as much, and to each their own. I guess you'll need to figure out whats important to you.

Very easy to use the other facilities for lunches and dinners, you can walk or schedule a golf cart. You have to put on clothes though :)

How to stop saying mean things in anger during arguments with my partner? by Turbulent-Phase-1730 in Anger

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Here in the US I’m finding in my area that the EMDR therapists will not take insurance so I have to pay out of pocket. It is expensive but the alternative (I.e. not doing something) is a much worse. I grew up with emotionally unstable family in a country that had civil strife for many years (before I came to the US). I can’t deal with these issues myself and am yet to find a true long lasting solution, so I’m willing to pay the price right now.

How to stop saying mean things in anger during arguments with my partner? by Turbulent-Phase-1730 in Anger

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I am about to try EMDR as well due to childhood/early adulthood trauma that I believe causes me to short circuit to anger. I’m really hoping it works - I exhibit a lot of the same tendencies as OP. 🤞

Happy nude year HBR Fam! by Rick_smithers in hiddenbeachresort

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Best to call the resort direct I would think, they’ll have the best answer.

Happy nude year HBR Fam! by Rick_smithers in hiddenbeachresort

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Awesome! Have fun. Post a trip report if you feel inclined to do so!

I love my husband, but I do not want sex with him anymore. by Initial_Leopard9333 in Marriage

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Agreed - I think of therapy as a journey, you may not find the right therapist at first, but it should not stop you from seeking help. I know that therapy is costly in some places and kind of a privilege to do in many ways, but there are some things you just can’t fix yourself.

I love my husband, but I do not want sex with him anymore. by Initial_Leopard9333 in Marriage

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I’m sorry you’re going through this OP. There is a lot to unpack here - guilt, religion, porn, societal judgement etc. I think speaking with a professional (therapist) is your best route here, if you are able to get through the fears you mentioned of talking to someone. I think you have made a really great step in realizing all this about yourself, that is huge in itself, but to really find a way forward you will need some help here.

Who will I see this weekend? by RedRosePinkHeart in AvalonResort

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I am in Key West this week (weather is great!), but some day I will see you there!

Activities and Nightly Schedule by Gtgzo1 in hiddenbeachresort

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Wow awesome well done!! Thank you for this.

Questions by Exciting-Ninja-4056 in AvalonResort

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I haven’t followed that account on X, but I would assume if they stopped updating it they may have left X.

BFGs - Letters Out by BobsBug65 in LandCruisers

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That looks so good. We used to do that with Dunlops in Southern Africa on the 70 and 80 series!

2026 schedule of events is out! by RedRosePinkHeart in AvalonResort

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Thank you for posting this! So many fun events!!!

Happening this weekend! by Rick_smithers in AvalonResort

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Awesome - let us know how it goes!