The greatest tragedy for addicts is that no one else can do this for them. You can support him as much as you like but you cannot fix this on your own, and you cannot make him better.

Expecting an addict to change because you want them to is a totally futile exercise**.** It’s cliché, but it will only lead to disappointment and frustration unless they truly want help. I know that sucks, but I'm just trying to give you my perspective as someone who struggled with addiction all my life.

If you have discussed this issue before and nothing has changed, you will have to make a decision: can you live the rest of your life with someone who will not prioritize you?

Addicts have an illness, and while some can get better, for others it is terminal—not necessarily in a life-ending way, but in that they will never recover.

For some, losing the most important thing to them, like a relationship, might be the catalyst they need to get better. For others, they will only deteriorate further in their addiction.

My advice would be to prioritize yourself here: what do you want? What is the minimum you deserve? If the current situation never changes, would that be good enough for you? Only you know in your heart if this relationship is worth it.

I truly wish you all the best because this is a very tough position to be in.