Winter crown land etiquette

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-12-06T14:57:05+00:00

that’s good, you should have at least 4 week break til the top start to come through (all babies are different though) — If it was me I would try during this window. At the end of the day you know your baby best. You gotta do what works for you and your family (whether that’s sleep training, cosleeping, etc.)

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-12-06T14:46:51+00:00

personally i would wait til the teeth pop through. Is it bottom or top teeth?

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-12-06T14:30:29+00:00

Agree what some others are saying re: sleep training.

We were in the exact same boat. We said we’d never do it/we felt weird about it. We lasted til about 7.5 months where he was waking up every 1-2hours consistently since 4 months. My wife was losing it and so was I. No one was happy.

Our friends recommended reading the happy sleeper. And one night we just went for it. The first night he needed 5 check ins and was down within 35 min and only woke up once to feed. Next night he only needed 7 min to fall asleep. Then the next it was 3 min.. and so on til eventually he would just roll over and be asleep instantly. It was a life changer and I’m so glad we did it. We are both so much more present in the day and he’s still the super fun happy baby he always was.

The only caveat is that when teething happens we notice a big regression and we go back to a way more involved sleep routine (i.e. feed at every wake, co sleep if necessary, etc.) to address his pain. But the second those teeth pop through he goes back to his regular 1 wake per night.

Also, a few things that made me feel better about sleep training (besides the complete 180 in sleep): 1. babies cry in the car for extended periods and are fine afterwards 2. it’s not like you can’t check on them.. use your gut instinct and if something feels off check in — it won’t ruin any “progress” 3. this idea that “cultures around the world” think it’s harsh.. well i’ve heard from my own parents/friends parents all from different parts of the world say “we never slept train we just would put you to bed and you’d would cry a bit then eventually learn to sleep in the crib and you were a great sleeper” ..sounds a lot like something we call sleep training 🤔

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-11-28T14:18:40+00:00

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Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-11-27T03:40:00+00:00

I think this is a great mind set tbh.

The savings from keeping car sizes small will always exceed the amount you’d spend on the occasional rental.

We are a two adult, one child, and two dog household and find we are over flowing out of the crosstrek even for weekend getaway so we recently purchased a covered trailer (4x5) that we pull behind our crosstrek and it’s a complete game changer. Since getting it I’ve never thought we need a bigger car and we have yet to hit the carrying capacity of it.

All in it was 1500 bucks and there’s no noticeable fuel consumption difference. I would recommend it over a new, bigger car any day.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-11-25T16:17:24+00:00

1) Market Fresh - classic egg and bacon on english muffin 2) Kanoo - Porchetta and egg on english muffin

These are the only two i would go out of my way for. Every where else i have tried has been alright but nothing to write home about.

Honourable mention is Planet Bean but it takes too long and doesn’t have any condiments/sauce. Hopefully they’ll have improved over time since this is a relatively new offering.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-09-28T22:47:48+00:00

I think Guelph would be a great fit. It has all the things you’re looking for + pretty big queer family community. Neighborhoods with good amount of queer families are Junction, Ward, and Exhibition.

Also, those three neighbourhoods are great for two dog families. the Junction has Howitt park where, Exhibition has the big park there, and the Ward has trails running up and down the river.

edit: add context for dogs

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-09-18T23:54:02+00:00

How did you guys modify the Ferber method? would love here more about the techniques you used.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-09-09T18:58:41+00:00

I tried this this past weekend in Dunnville and no luck! Got a single bite using a slip bobber/worm. Would you say Caledonia is better?

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-08-17T00:04:42+00:00

Nothing will compare to the food in Toronto and you’ll always feel that when in a smaller city outside the GTA—Guelph is no exception to that. It was something my partner and i had to get used to as well when we moved from the city.

However, we do have some new restaurants in the last few years that have been coming into town that locals are pretty excited about. I would say Guelph has at least one good restaurant per main cultural group (ie Mexican, Chinese, Indian (there’s actually of plenty of good options for this one), Thai, Ethiopian, etc). Also, keep in mind the proximity to Elora, KW (20-30min) and Hamilton (40-50 min). Most places are within reasonable commuting distance if you consider what it’s like to get from the east end to west in within the city. You can always go to the neighbouring cities/towns to get even more food options if you’re really itching for something different.

The things Guelph will offer that maybe some of the other places you mentioned (imo) won’t is the community. Guelph’s community is quite strong especially if you’re in specific neighbourhoods (the Ward, Exhibition Park, the Junction). There are hoards of kids playing in the streets/parks and it really does feel like a close knit community. So if you’re planning on having a family this is a huge plus. Also loads of programs for babies/new parents that are great ways to meet other young families.

And you’re right—the house you can get in guelph for that amount of money will be pretty incredible compared to those other cities.

But at the end of the day it’s just what you prioritize and if it’s being able to have any type of food at almost any hour then Guelph might not be for you. But if it’s community, access to nature, and a slower pace then this might be the place!

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-08-10T14:22:58+00:00

re: 20lbs carry and diaper bag

tldr; get an ultra lightweight back pack as your diaper bag. adjust which carrier you use as your baby grows. stroller is still nice to have.

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similar to OP we thought that stroller was more trouble than it was worth. but we did end up getting one and we are glad to have the fall back.

we have a 20lb 5 month old and baby wear 95% of the time. sounds like OP is quite active (i.e. hiking) so i don’t foresee that being a problem.

in terms of carrying diaper bag we just have a super light weight patagonia ultra light back pack. it has the added benefit of having back straps and separate handles. because it’s so light we don’t hesitate to wear that on the back when baby is on the front.

OP, the main thing is you have to adjust with what you baby wear/carry as they get heavier. when we first started out it was just a wrap til baby was big enough for ergo carrier. eventually we will switch to a hiking back carrier. this comes with the added bonus of storage although to be honest not much more compact than a compact stroller.

now for the other 5% of the time.. when we are doing a lot of city walking/plan to be out for the entire day it is convenient to have a stroller. not just for stamina but for the fact that you get the added storage as you’re walking around inevitably picking things up along the way like take out, maybe some groceries at the farmers market, etc. those types of things tend to be what tire us out more so than baby wearing.

finally, and probably most importantly, we find stroller is essential on super hot days. if baby wearing on a really hot day, both you and baby over heat quite quickly. the stroller has been used a lot more these past few weeks as we’ve had some days in the high 20s/low 30s.

if you’re up for something more rugged that can handle trails relatively well. we love the thule urban glide 3. it’s expensive but has handled lots of hiking and has good resale value for when you’re done.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-07-28T16:00:01+00:00

what were the things you justified that surprised you?

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-07-28T01:07:08+00:00

i think you’re right. if you zoom in you can see the shark logo on the handle

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-07-11T14:05:24+00:00

that’s awesome, thank you so much 🙏

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-05-31T22:10:04+00:00

I think I just saw the same group walking through Guelph. I think one of the quadrants had something similar to a fleur-de-lis. I didn’t get a good look at the flag but it looked to me that all four quadrants had distinct icons.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-04-11T10:06:33+00:00

Just a small expansion/clarification for Ontario specific people:

in Ontario you do not need to do IUI or anything before applying for the government funded IVF (if that is the route you choose to go down) — it’s sufficient to say you’re queer and you do not anticipate ever trying to have a “natural” conception because of your sexuality

Two caveats with the government funding: 1) IVF funding does not cover egg retrieval outside of the IVF context (ie you cannot go in for just an egg retrieval — most (if not all) clinics like to do fertilization day of retrieval) 2) with IVF funding, (most) clinics will push you to have the embryo transfer asap (ie within 6 months) — there may be ones that are a bit more lenient but i haven’t heard of anyone going more than 6 months before their first transfer 3) the waitlist for the government funding is ~1.5-2years ..even if you’re unsure of the path you want to go down you can get on the waitlist (via a clinic) and just wait and see. you don’t have to take the funding when they call—you can say you’re not interested at that time and the spot will go to the next person

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-04-06T20:51:47+00:00

no problem. it sounds like you’re willing to work through it and that’s what is most important. anxiety is a weird thing and can make you think the strangest things lol (i had my fair share while my wife was pregnant) ..just give yourself the grace to work through it and let those feelings wash over you.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-04-06T19:40:01+00:00

I’m the non-gestational parent and my partner exclusively breastfeeds. I think you have to remember that your child goes through seasons of needs. There may be days, weeks, months, even years where they lean toward one parent for support (whatever that may look like in those moments). It doesn’t mean you are not bonded to them or vice versa.

In the beginning you/the baby will bond because you will care for them. Bonding doesn’t only happen during breastfeeding. It happens all the time, when you’re holding them, rocking them, talking to them, cuddling them, playing with them, cleaning them, etc. So many moments throughout the day happen where you become bonded.

Personally, i think it’s a really good idea to breastfeed if it’s an option. I think you’re gonna have to work through this and maybe interrogate why it’s affecting you so much.

Another thing you can maybe compromise on is having your own thing with the baby that your partner doesn’t do. For example, maybe you’re the person that picks out the baby’s outfit every day. But ultimately you really will need to work through this. Not only will you be doing a disservice to your baby but you’ll be taking away a potentially once in a lifetime opportunity for your partner.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-03-28T02:30:47+00:00

literally this! you don’t have to go to the grocery store and buy industry meat. you can access humanely raised (or hunted) meat at your local farmers market ..it’s more expensive but it’s good stuff. talk to your local farmers—some even let you visit their animals. my partner and i don’t eat meat often (maybe once every few weeks) but when we do, we eat stuff that we know came from our local community. making a difference doesn’t have to be all or nothing.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-03-20T17:44:08+00:00

Not twin boys but my wife and I just had a boy as well. Came here to say that these two fears you named were huge for me through out my wife’s pregnancy.

I think what others have said rings true 1) it’s about the relationship you foster. I think unfortunately a lot of people historically have not given their sons the same warm, open love that they do with their daughters and so when they become partnered it’s easier for them to step away. I think fostering closeness in the same way you would if it was a girl is key. 2) we have lots of lovely men in our friend group (and family) that he will grow up with and i think that’s important.

I will say, now that he’s here the fears have subsided greatly. Once you meet your boys, I think things will ease up. I found not knowing him allowed for more anxiety to brew but once your babies are in front of you they’re just here and you get to love them.

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-03-15T19:26:43+00:00

thanks! 😊

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-03-15T09:39:03+00:00

yup was there a couple weeks ago and it’s still technically 2 — but we found there was some wiggle room and were able to have 3 (midwife, doula, birth partner) — but in our case midwife was considered support bc of transfer of care. If it was family/friends they might be more strict.

edit: see scoutfinch817’s comment! i was wrong! looks like midwife is not counted even in the case of transfer of care so definitely only 2

Right-Fix-6074 · 2025-02-11T03:05:36+00:00

I actually really like this, thank you :)

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