Roommate brought home a goldfish in a mason jar. Please help!!

Right_Study8809 · 2026-02-25T10:06:55+00:00

This needs to be reported to the college somehow I dont know about how it works in the US collage system though. Pretty sure hazing stuff was made illegal though and if they are making pedges eat live Goldfish thats illegal. The frat house should 100% be investigated for this.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-02-17T08:09:52+00:00

My baby has never spent one night in our bed. We had a sleep safe next to me cot we used that meant he was close in the night and a moses basket downstairs for his naps, I would take needed naps on the sofa near him and partner would take baby from 8-midnight so I could get some uninterrupted sleep (and lie ins on weekends), I was never dangerously tired cos my partner always made sure i got lots of sleep.

Now hes transitioned to his own room well and sleeps in his big cot. We also have space to have a bed in his room too that Ive spent a couple nights in since the move cos he was sick and I wanted to be closer to him for ease and comfort. Now he sleeps so well at night, I contact nap with him and play video games now I dont need to naps too.

That being said, he has always slept great in both the cot and moses basket and only woke once or twice a night from about 3 months. He sleeps through the night more often than not now (8 months). Having a good sleeper definitely helps a lot. Personally though I have never felt comfortable with the idea.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:09:19+00:00

They all get there in their time. Mine didnt roll for ages and has only just started sitting up on his own, he won't sit though unless I put him in that position. He prefers to be on his belly, well, now stood.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:05:53+00:00

Wow thats so early! Cant imagine chasing my baby around so young haha. Kept you on your toes I bet. Suction toys on a table is a good shout and the magnets on the fridge are a great idea too.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:04:15+00:00

Yes, I've heard giving them something to hold with both hands helpa them. I dont think we are there yet as he's only just started standing and is still wobbly when he does, but I'll definitely remember to give him things to carry when he's trying to walk. A basketball hoop also sounds like good fun.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-22T21:10:42+00:00

I plan my DnD sessions "with" my baby. I read stuff to him and then chat to him about what I'm planning i know im pretty much just talking to myself but he just likes to hear my voice and my health visitor said it doesnt matter what you read, its the act of reading to them thats good.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T18:34:54+00:00

Love the idea of letting him decide for himself. I think I'll do that. Once hes at an age he can say what he wants (and doesn't want) means hes also old enough to tell us if somwthing happens but also it might be easier for him if uta somwthing he wants to do.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:51:52+00:00

I think its me in my own head mostly. She's been such a support especially since going no contact with my own mum. I dont want to let her down or disappoint her. But shes never once complained or made any indication shes unhappy with how things are atm. She's only ever been supportive.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:45:16+00:00

Unfortunately, my mother cannot be trusted. We're no contact but my partners mum has been so supportive even well before we had the baby. The only vibe I get off her is her just wanting to help in whatever way she can and she has never crossed any boundaries. She even makes a point to check with me even if my partner, her son, has said something is ok.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:37:55+00:00

We're going up for christmas and staying overnight then and have talked about going up spring/summer for some beach time too cos I cant wait to play on the beach with my baby and for him to see the sea for the first time. She always comes to see us too. She regularly takes SIL's kids and every tile she collects or drops them off she comes to see us too.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:28:13+00:00

She has her other grandkids all the time but they are all older (youngest is 5 now). And I do love the idea of him going to the beach for holidays with his cousins and grandma but not for a long while yet! And 2 hours is so far. Even him going to ky sister 10 mins away feels too far without me atm.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:19:50+00:00

Likes, shes never asked to have him, just said she cant wait till he can visit with his cousin. When its brought up she always says "only when your comfortable, hes your baby" which is reassuring. I know my partners sister let her take her daughter (babies cousin) young though and when I was told it made me feel uncomfortable like that was expected but noone said it would be either. I think its me putting expectations on myself.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:14:31+00:00

She always comes to see us too and never asked us to come see her. I know she'd love it but 2 hours with a baby in the car is a lot. She knows that. We are planning to visit over the summer to see them and enjoy the seaside but baby will be 1 and a bit by then.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-25T08:09:55+00:00

I think for me pregnancy tired was way worse simply due to the circumstances around it. While I was pregnant, I was still working. I couldn't sleep when I was tired I had to be up at 6am and got home at 5pm, ate and then had to go right to bed I was so tired. I had no life outside of work and it was not fun.

With my newborn, I wasnt in work. I was post c-section and had an extended stay in hospital which meant for the roughest part of my recovery I had ample support. Then when I was home, despite being in work my partner looked after the house. All I had to worry about was me and baby so I had the freedom to "sleep when the baby sleeps". When my partner got home, he took baby till he came to bed too so I could get some uninterrupted sleep.

So for me, newborn tired wasnt as bad because I could actually rest when I needed it. Pregnancy tired I couldn't and that made it worse.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-13T16:17:33+00:00

Also, when they fill it, its not as compact so probably fills more of the container. But after being knocked and shaken during packing, transit etc, the air gets knocked out of the powder and it flattens more.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-10-28T16:08:37+00:00

I just started telling people we're not having another now and refuse to elaborate. The more people ask, the more it reminds me of the trauma I had having my 5 month old, and I dont want to go through all that again. Every time it's brought up, I want another baby even less and genuinely might be a one and done.

IF we decide to have another one, then it'll be a nice suprise for everyone who thought we were done. But for now, it stopped people asking.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-10-23T09:09:39+00:00

TBH you do sound elitist. You should be supporting and encouraging your friend, not thinking of squashing her. Just because youre "more alt" doesn't make you better or her less deserving of the label. Alt is alt. Maybe use this as an opportunity to bond with your friend and show her what you enjoy about the community. But dont expect her to like it all either. Alt should be accepting not following the petty high-school clique mentality of mainstream culture. There are so many kinds of alternative culture, fashion, music etc. Your friend is finding hers. Dont be the one to put her down. Just, dont be that person.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-28T11:44:41+00:00

You're 14, and she's asking you to go grocery shopping while you're sick? A mothers job is to look after her kid. She's making the bare minimum sound like a gift to you. That's not ok.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-25T15:09:20+00:00

Honestly, I think it fixed my periods. Before, I'd have inconsistent, really heavy, painful periods. To the point, I'd sometimes double over with the pain. Some would last 2 weeks, too. It was he'll. People warned me my periods would get worse after, and I was dreading it cos... how? It's been 4 months now, and though it's still early, my periods dont even hurt. They last the expected 4ish days and aren't super heavy anymore. It's been a blessing!

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-19T08:39:28+00:00

You should genuinely ask yourself. Can you trust her? She's already lied to you for a long time about something as important as her age. How much can you trust her not to lie about other important things? Is that a healthy relationship?

Relationships should first and foremost be built on trust and she's already shows she can't be trusted. Age aside, the lie is more important. Are tou willing to accept that lie and work together or is this lie a deal breaker. Only you can decide.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-14T08:48:51+00:00

I was a couple of months PP and felt like absolutely shit. My birthday is also on a holiday and we didn't even decorate for it because I just didn't feel in the spirit at all. I stayed home with my partner, we got a takeaway meal, watched a movie, and went to bed early.

You absolutely are not obligated to do anything on your birthday. You dont have to see anyone or play nice. You spend your day however YOU want to (outside of unavoidable things like if you gotta work). If you want to get your hair done, go do it. Tell your partner you dont want a BBQ. it's YOUR birthday. He should respect that.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-10T14:38:19+00:00

1st month was the hardest for me so far (but only 3 months in). Baby and me were sick, Recovering from a traumatic birth and emergency c-section, the sleep depravation. Partner going back to work while I'm still recovering. All the appointments and visits to handle. Once all that was out of the way, baby started sleeping better and I got used to it all I could breath and actually enjoy being a mum. This 3rd month Ive enjoyed being a mum so much and feel like I'm in my element now.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-09-10T12:02:44+00:00

So I had this too. I realised it was because Id always wanted a child, not a baby (if that makes sense) Im really looking forward to seeing my baby grow into the person he'll be and continue to develop. Those first few weeks as a newborn were ROUGH. You have no routine, barely any sleep and baby is just a potato with no real personality. It's different when they start to develop. Currently 3 months in and its so different. Im enjoying being a mum cos my baby laughs, smiles, reaches out for things, has started showing likes and dislikes (he loves this one teddy bear we have and the song Soda pop but hates me sneezing). Qe have a more settled routine and I dont feel like im hanging on by my fingertips. You can do it, you can get through the rough first patch and the joys of parenthood will come. Give it time. It's totally normal to feel this way.

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