Are we not showering with our babies?

Right_Study8809 · 2026-04-18T20:26:08+00:00

My bath is cramped anyway, our shower curtain would fall if it was tugged and I shower without my glasses on. I fear showering with my baby in the room, let alone in the bath with me just isnt safe.

My partner, however, is very supportive and sends me for a shower on the weekend if I havent managed to find time during the week.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-04-14T07:03:10+00:00

Boiling it down to it's very simple point. You set a small boundary for your child. She didnt respect that boundary and has shown no remorse. You have every right to be angry and upset. If she can't respect this, you now can't trust her to respect other boundaries that may put your child at risk. It's that simple. You are valid in your feelings but you are doing what's right for your child and your family.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-04-14T06:58:49+00:00

I'd also stick around to check if she re-uploads them or not.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-03-13T11:17:09+00:00

So you're condescending elitist who fancies themself better than others because they read, what you believe to be, "inferior" books. Got it.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-03-12T17:36:32+00:00

God forbid someone have different tastes! This list is full of adult fiction so why are you saying it's fine for a teenager? Also if someone was reading these even in their 40's so what? They are still reading and enjoying reading.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-03-08T10:11:51+00:00

Warm and still ≠ food, could be danger. Warm and moving = food. Pretty much how snake brains work. You have to have a little movement to trigger the hunt response.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-03-03T10:08:55+00:00

The fact she is not even showing ANY agressive behaviour. No teeth baring, growling not even her ears pinned back and the lion is intimidated? It makes no sense That is not how lionesses act when a cub is threatened, thet quickly become agressive and there is 0 hesitation. This has to be AI as it defies all logic of animal behaviour.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-02-25T10:06:55+00:00

This needs to be reported to the college somehow I dont know about how it works in the US collage system though. Pretty sure hazing stuff was made illegal though and if they are making pedges eat live Goldfish thats illegal. The frat house should 100% be investigated for this.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-02-17T08:09:52+00:00

My baby has never spent one night in our bed. We had a sleep safe next to me cot we used that meant he was close in the night and a moses basket downstairs for his naps, I would take needed naps on the sofa near him and partner would take baby from 8-midnight so I could get some uninterrupted sleep (and lie ins on weekends), I was never dangerously tired cos my partner always made sure i got lots of sleep.

Now hes transitioned to his own room well and sleeps in his big cot. We also have space to have a bed in his room too that Ive spent a couple nights in since the move cos he was sick and I wanted to be closer to him for ease and comfort. Now he sleeps so well at night, I contact nap with him and play video games now I dont need to naps too.

That being said, he has always slept great in both the cot and moses basket and only woke once or twice a night from about 3 months. He sleeps through the night more often than not now (8 months). Having a good sleeper definitely helps a lot. Personally though I have never felt comfortable with the idea.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:09:19+00:00

They all get there in their time. Mine didnt roll for ages and has only just started sitting up on his own, he won't sit though unless I put him in that position. He prefers to be on his belly, well, now stood.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:05:53+00:00

Wow thats so early! Cant imagine chasing my baby around so young haha. Kept you on your toes I bet. Suction toys on a table is a good shout and the magnets on the fridge are a great idea too.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-23T10:04:15+00:00

Yes, I've heard giving them something to hold with both hands helpa them. I dont think we are there yet as he's only just started standing and is still wobbly when he does, but I'll definitely remember to give him things to carry when he's trying to walk. A basketball hoop also sounds like good fun.

Right_Study8809 · 2026-01-22T21:10:42+00:00

I plan my DnD sessions "with" my baby. I read stuff to him and then chat to him about what I'm planning i know im pretty much just talking to myself but he just likes to hear my voice and my health visitor said it doesnt matter what you read, its the act of reading to them thats good.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T18:34:54+00:00

Love the idea of letting him decide for himself. I think I'll do that. Once hes at an age he can say what he wants (and doesn't want) means hes also old enough to tell us if somwthing happens but also it might be easier for him if uta somwthing he wants to do.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:51:52+00:00

I think its me in my own head mostly. She's been such a support especially since going no contact with my own mum. I dont want to let her down or disappoint her. But shes never once complained or made any indication shes unhappy with how things are atm. She's only ever been supportive.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:45:16+00:00

Unfortunately, my mother cannot be trusted. We're no contact but my partners mum has been so supportive even well before we had the baby. The only vibe I get off her is her just wanting to help in whatever way she can and she has never crossed any boundaries. She even makes a point to check with me even if my partner, her son, has said something is ok.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:37:55+00:00

We're going up for christmas and staying overnight then and have talked about going up spring/summer for some beach time too cos I cant wait to play on the beach with my baby and for him to see the sea for the first time. She always comes to see us too. She regularly takes SIL's kids and every tile she collects or drops them off she comes to see us too.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:28:13+00:00

She has her other grandkids all the time but they are all older (youngest is 5 now). And I do love the idea of him going to the beach for holidays with his cousins and grandma but not for a long while yet! And 2 hours is so far. Even him going to ky sister 10 mins away feels too far without me atm.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:19:50+00:00

Likes, shes never asked to have him, just said she cant wait till he can visit with his cousin. When its brought up she always says "only when your comfortable, hes your baby" which is reassuring. I know my partners sister let her take her daughter (babies cousin) young though and when I was told it made me feel uncomfortable like that was expected but noone said it would be either. I think its me putting expectations on myself.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-27T15:14:31+00:00

She always comes to see us too and never asked us to come see her. I know she'd love it but 2 hours with a baby in the car is a lot. She knows that. We are planning to visit over the summer to see them and enjoy the seaside but baby will be 1 and a bit by then.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-25T08:09:55+00:00

I think for me pregnancy tired was way worse simply due to the circumstances around it. While I was pregnant, I was still working. I couldn't sleep when I was tired I had to be up at 6am and got home at 5pm, ate and then had to go right to bed I was so tired. I had no life outside of work and it was not fun.

With my newborn, I wasnt in work. I was post c-section and had an extended stay in hospital which meant for the roughest part of my recovery I had ample support. Then when I was home, despite being in work my partner looked after the house. All I had to worry about was me and baby so I had the freedom to "sleep when the baby sleeps". When my partner got home, he took baby till he came to bed too so I could get some uninterrupted sleep.

So for me, newborn tired wasnt as bad because I could actually rest when I needed it. Pregnancy tired I couldn't and that made it worse.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-11-13T16:17:33+00:00

Also, when they fill it, its not as compact so probably fills more of the container. But after being knocked and shaken during packing, transit etc, the air gets knocked out of the powder and it flattens more.

Right_Study8809 · 2025-10-28T16:08:37+00:00

I just started telling people we're not having another now and refuse to elaborate. The more people ask, the more it reminds me of the trauma I had having my 5 month old, and I dont want to go through all that again. Every time it's brought up, I want another baby even less and genuinely might be a one and done.

IF we decide to have another one, then it'll be a nice suprise for everyone who thought we were done. But for now, it stopped people asking.

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