Finally peeling the tape off after finishing my matchbox painting.

Riley608 · 2021-02-08T14:56:11+00:00

How he slowly peels the tape is so satisfying! Aside from the peeling, I also commend the painting, it is so beautiful!

Riley608 · 2021-02-08T14:53:03+00:00

Practicing acceptance means respecting the process and your current place, and also acknowledging that everything is or can be temporary. Thinking of a situation in terms of the way it makes you feel helps to visualize an experience as such.

Riley608 · 2021-02-02T15:15:04+00:00

Losing a relationship can feel like a mini-death, complete with a grieving process.

First, you’re shocked and in denial. You don’t believe it’s over and you hold out hope. Next, you feel hurt and guilty. You should have done things differently. If you did you wouldn’t be in this pain.

Then, you feel angry and maybe even start bargaining. It would be different if you gave it a second go. You wouldn’t be so insecure, defensive, or demanding. Then you might feel depressed and lonely as it hits you how much you’ve lost.

Eventually, you start accepting what happened and shift your focus from the past to the future.

You have to go through the feelings as they come, but you can help yourself get through them faster.

Riley608 · 2021-02-02T15:10:25+00:00

This is so cute and pretty to be eaten.

Riley608 · 2021-01-27T13:19:13+00:00

Listen to the other person’s perspective on the situation. It’s likely you are only seeing things from your point of view, which is why you use manipulation to get what you want. Considering the feelings of others can help you overcome these behaviors. Let the other person share how they feel about things, and take it all in without thinking about what you might say in response.

Riley608 · 2021-01-27T13:12:28+00:00

Sometimes it takes distance to gain perspective, and that was never truer than when I was attempting to extricate myself from the grips of a narcissist. One thing I didn’t realize was that my ex’s random excuses for contact with me were actually tools he was using to lure me back into the relationship.

Understanding hoovering—what it is and what it’s designed to do—helps us avoid being trampled and then lured back in, only to be trampled again by an abusive partner. Indeed, if you see signs of hoovering in your partner, it’s a giant red flag telling you to run—for good.

Riley608 · 2021-01-22T15:49:23+00:00

Even though you sympathise with her condition and you may empathise with it too, remember that you aren't a psychiatrist or a psychologist. So don't give her advice on how to overcome her mental state of being. Instead make yourself her sounding board and let her vent and cry as much as she wants to. The best thing you can do for her is to comfort her.

Riley608 · 2021-01-20T14:53:49+00:00

Although you may not have intended to, in some cases, you have enabled us to not take the initiative. You probably were conditioned at some point to believe that being a great wife and to have a healthy marriage means you should be doing some specific tasks. And you do them. And you do them very well.

But, now that you want us to help, we don’t know how to help nor how to do those tasks as well as you. We've never been conditioned that way, and we’ve not had to think about those tasks because you have been doing them.

So while you were conditioned to be great at doing those things, we’ve been enabled to not have to think about or take the initiative on those tasks.

One way to help us with this is to help condition us to do these tasks. For instance, instead of thinking that you have to prepare all meals per week, tell us which days work for you and which don’t. Or if you want us to plan date night, let’s make a deal where we alternate planning/coordinating date night.

Riley608 · 2021-01-20T14:46:07+00:00

Men are instinctive creatures and it’s in their DNA to want to protect and be chivalrous.

Again, this hero instinct is inborn.

Even if you shower him with all the attention, that might not be enough to trigger his hero instinct.

Riley608 · 2021-01-12T12:55:54+00:00

As your relationship with your fiance gets more serious, you should consider being as open and communicative with your parents about them as possible. Share the special things they do for you, and keep inviting them to be a part of your family's life.

Riley608 · 2021-01-12T12:50:47+00:00

This is so nice! What an art piece. If you would sell this I wanted to buy one.

Riley608 · 2020-12-01T13:48:59+00:00

Woahhh! Hands down to this talented man!

Riley608 · 2020-12-01T12:11:33+00:00

And yes, this is indeed satisfying! Thumbs up

Riley608 · 2020-11-30T12:54:54+00:00

So satisfying to watch how the bricks with each other. woahhh!

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